pegasus1986 Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 Hi im new here stumbled across this site on the internet and thought it was a good place to talk to people that have been through break ups and know how im feeling, im 29 and my boyfreind of 6 years left me 3 weeks ago suddenly 3 days after my birthday im of course heartbroken and feeling like life is **** right now ive had to move back in with my parents and i feel like how on earth am i gonna meet anyone else and who would want to date me?. Nice to meet you all and just needed to write down a few feelings. Thanks
keebee Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 Sorry that you've had to join us in this lovely forum, breakups are the worst and I imagine you are feeling awful right now Definitely read the threads about no contact and taking care of yourself (exercising, getting lots of sleep, doing things w/ friends, finding new hobbies, etc.), because those two things will make all the difference in the world. In November 2014, my 5 year marriage/7 year relationship ended abruptly when my XH decided he didn't want to do the marriage thing anymore. I also had to move back in with my parents, so I understand that it's a huge amount of changes to adjust to. I *did not* use NC/self-healing after my XH left. I did everything the opposite of what is recommended here because I didn't know about this forum. I begged, I pleaded, I tried every single thing I could to get him back because I wanted my family to stick together. I stopped eating and lost 20 pounds in 2 weeks (which eventually got me to the weight I wanted to be at, but I def. don't recommend that method), sat around feeling sorry for myself, and did nothing but cry. I jumped into a relationship less than two months after my RS w/ my XH ended. When *that* RS ended, I finally had to come face-to-face with the losses of the last ~9 months or so. It was totally unhealthy. DO NOT DO ANYTHING THAT I DID. Learn from the veteran members on here and seriously, listen to their advice. Following it will get you on the path to healing ASAP. People *will* want to date you, but you don't want to date THEM until you're ready, until you have healed and you know that you deserve someone awesome. Thinking of you and hoping that the start of a new week helps you start finding peace <3 Kate 1
aloneinaz Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 Hi im new here stumbled across this site on the internet and thought it was a good place to talk to people that have been through break ups and know how im feeling, im 29 and my boyfreind of 6 years left me 3 weeks ago suddenly 3 days after my birthday im of course heartbroken and feeling like life is **** right now ive had to move back in with my parents and i feel like how on earth am i gonna meet anyone else and who would want to date me?. Nice to meet you all and just needed to write down a few feelings. Thanks You found a good site with an amazing amount of good information to learn from. We've all been where you are and we can tell you that you're going to be fine. You just have to navigate thru the process. Read the NC thread and posts on this site. It will help you understand how this all works, while sharing good things to do and things that will hold you back from healing and moving onto your next R/S. Post as you need to. It does help. 1
Author pegasus1986 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Posted July 26, 2015 Thank you i plan to start the NC rule now, ive had to tlk to him sadly last couple weeks to sort out the caravan that i own on his familys property that hes now bought and i paid for sky so have had to sort that and a few other things luckily no children involved just my dog who thru all this is my saviour shes my world and getting me through it its been a shock to both of us i never saw it coming we had both been fine no arguments, sex life had been fine he woke up one day and decided he didnt want a relationship anymore ive found it hard because we were each others first at 17 then i moved away from college and broke it off and he spent the next 6 years chasing me then we were together 6 years so to suddenly up and leave has been very hard and i have freinds to talk to but they have kids and there own happy relationships and feel that im bothering them when all i want to do is just vent my feelings. thank you for your replys.
NoLeafClover Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 (edited) Hi im new here stumbled across this site on the internet and thought it was a good place to talk to people that have been through break ups and know how im feeling, im 29 and my boyfreind of 6 years left me 3 weeks ago suddenly 3 days after my birthday im of course heartbroken and feeling like life is **** right now ive had to move back in with my parents and i feel like how on earth am i gonna meet anyone else and who would want to date me?. Nice to meet you all and just needed to write down a few feelings. Thanks I was born in 86 and was with someone for 7 years and I dont feel like no one is going to date me. You are still young probably not even 30 yet. I think you should work on moving on first and dating again once you are fully healed by this break up. Edited July 26, 2015 by NoLeafClover
Author pegasus1986 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Posted July 26, 2015 Thats the plan, i dont plan to rush into another relationship but my insecurities make me feel like i wont find anyone else.
aloneinaz Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 Thats the plan, i dont plan to rush into another relationship but my insecurities make me feel like i wont find anyone else. Well, then you know one of the first things you can work on and address while you're getting over this R/S. Understand, EVERYONE feels insecure and has damaged self esteem after getting broken up with. It's very normal. Just work on it and understand that you met her and you'll met someone else in the future as well.
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