ApexTitanium Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 We met on okcupid, talked for about a week or so and our conversations were good and lengthy. Paragraph replies from both of us so that was good. Asked her if she would like to go to dinner and she said sure and gave me her number. It had a texas area code (we are in michigan) but she did mention she lived in texas most of her early years (shes 23 now) so I figured no biggie. We agreed to go to buffalo wild wings. I gave her a call when I got there and she said she was almost there. She pulls up and parks, gets out and walks toward the door. I was standing by my car and im not sure if she noticed me. I followed her into the restaurant a slight distance behind and greeted her just inside the door. She was wearing a casual dress and flats (if thats what they are called) so I knew she took it as an actual date. She looked nice and I gave her a comment telling her so. We sat down and ordered our food, chatted the whole time mostly me talking (not sure if she was nervous, she mentioned having anxiety). She laughed and smiled during the dinner. Noone looked at phones. We were there for two hours, bill came and I noticed she pulled out her card when I was pulling mine out. She said "oh they didnt seperate the bills?" she was offering to pay her half and I said it was alright I got it covered. This sort of made me uneasy, I usually think when a girl offers to pay her half she isnt that interested. She also barely ate, she ordered a snack size of 8 wings and only ate two. Also kinda made me think she didnt enjoy the food or something. Could be other reasons. Walked her out to her car and said I hoped she had a good time. She said she did and to let her know my schedule so we could plan something again. Good sign. I gave her a hug, didnt try for a kiss because I was having trouble reading her and didnt think it would good to try and didnt want to make things awkward. As I was leaving I saw her typing on her phone in her car, possibly telling friends how it went and that she didnt get kidnapped? Lol Anyway what are your thoughts on how it went? What I should do from here? Dinner was last night, havent texted or called her yet.
Gaeta Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 She was wearing a casual dress and flats (if thats what they are called) so I knew she took it as an actual date. That made me smile. Of course it was a date but it has nothing to do with what she is wearing. I wear dresses to go grocery shopping or to pick up my dry cleaning. ;-) She looked nice and I gave her a comment telling her so. Good move !! We sat down and ordered our food, chatted the whole time mostly me talking (not sure if she was nervous, she mentioned having anxiety). She laughed and smiled during the dinner. Noone looked at phones. We were there for two hours, bill came and I noticed she pulled out her card when I was pulling mine out. She said "oh they didnt seperate the bills?" she was offering to pay her half and I said it was alright I got it covered. This sort of made me uneasy, I usually think when a girl offers to pay her half she isnt that interested.. That is wonderful, sounds like you both enjoyed the date. Don't worry about her pulling out her card. She was just being polite by offering. She did not want to come across as taking advantage. She let you pay gracefully at the end. She also barely ate, she ordered a snack size of 8 wings and only ate two. Also kinda made me think she didnt enjoy the food or something. Could be other reasons. 8 wings is considered a snack size? lol, Maybe they were too spicy but nothing to worry about. Walked her out to her car and said I hoped she had a good time. She said she did and to let her know my schedule so we could plan something again. Good sign. There is your green light. You have a go ahead to set up a 2nd date. What I should do from here? Dinner was last night, havent texted or called her yet. Well, a gentleman will text later the same night or the following day with a little message like Thank you again for meeting me last night I had a great time and I am looking forward to do this again - type of message. So send that thank you text to her and Wednesday contact her to set up your next date for next weekend unless you 2 live very close and you're in the mood for a week day evening date.
smackie9 Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 Fist off, women lie about having a good time....like they are going to say it to your face that they didn't. No one does that hun. Anyways a good date is where there is a lot of touching, eye contact, good flow of conversation, flirting, etc. I don't think your date was stellar but that's just my take on it. The only way to actually know is to wait a couple of days to ask her out again. If she gives you excuses, doesn't text right away, or doesn't answer you at all, it's a negatory. 1
Mathematics Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 Only one way to find out. Text/call and arrange a second date. 2
Amalyn Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 Contact her and tell her you are interested in seeing her again (if in fact you are). That is the only true way to find out. Next time when you have a good time on a first meeting and want to see the girl again, text her later that night and say something like, "Thank you again for coming out tonight. I had a really good time." 1
fitnessfan365 Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 Fist off, women lie about having a good time....like they are going to say it to your face that they didn't. No one does that hun. Anyways a good date is where there is a lot of touching, eye contact, good flow of conversation, flirting, etc. I don't think your date was stellar but that's just my take on it. The only way to actually know is to wait a couple of days to ask her out again. If she gives you excuses, doesn't text right away, or doesn't answer you at all, it's a negatory. This was a great post smackie! I like how you're a realist that relies on common sense. Reminds me of myself. The OP did most of the talking. In my experience, women LOVE to talk and literally won't shut up if they're having a great time. I'd take her silence as a bad sign. Also, your instincts were right w-the bill. Any woman I've ever gone past date one with, let me pay for her. When a woman's wanted to pay her share, it's never lead to a second date once. 1) Get her number after 2-3 emails on day one. Have her on the phone day one. Plan to meet within 48hrs if possible. All the pre-date communication in the world, has no baring on actual chemistry in person as you learned OP. So it's better to meet ASAP w-no expectations to get to know each other in the moment. That's how actual chemistry develops. 2) For online first meet ups, don't do dinner dates. Women already feel nervous that a guy will feel entitled to extra because he paid for a meal. It's even worse with someone she's never seen before. So do something really low key and inexpensive. Keep things realistic and pressure free. If you guys hit it off, and want to keep seeing each other, then plan a nice dinner. 1
xcupid Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 Sounds okay. You did fine all the way through. Only way to tell if there's anything there is to ask her out on another date. I'd go for something a bit more fun or adventurous next time, altho not over the top, if she's game for that sort of thing. Good luck.
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