Johnbinger221 Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 I'm scared and don't know what to do I'm 24 my girlfriend is 19 I know there's a big age gap and I should be dating a girl my age, when we first met i laid down everything I wanted I told her that I was ready to settle down and not just date I was ready for a family i understand this is not something I should ask of a 19 year old so I told her that I didn't want a relationship she begged and begged until I fully committed to her then we both fell in love, She also told me that she was going off for training to the military and that she'd like to come see me before she left for training I was ok with that, she came and I fell even deeper, she went back home and we started fighting about our future, she said bad things and so did I then she decided cut it off, so I was ok with that because I knew what I said was bad and that she wouldn't forgive me for it, so I did what you're supposed to do is no contact the day she left for training, I didn't wish her a happy trip or nothing I cut ties, it hurt I couldn't sleep I had bad anxiety, but I made it two days, but before she left she didn't say a word to me . Until I get a text from her when she arrived,she says she's at a little reception thing for a week and don't really leave for training until Monday ,she hopes I'm ok and that she's sorry and that she loves me. Me using logic I said either her mom asked did she speak to me or that she didn't have anyone else to text or call while she's away because she doesn't have any friends I was her only one.so I asked her and I was right her mom did ask about me, which prompted her to call she stated that she tried to forget about me but couldn't, so we started talking again, I asked her what did she want from me she says she wants to be together and wants us to work, but all in all keep reminding me about what I said to her and having a attitude with me, I keep calm just not make her mad she every day we talks she reminds me I told her I've looked past what she's said why can't she? She then told me some guy is interested in her and asked her out which kind of made me feel bad I know she did this to play with my head because there's nothing I can do about it, so I told her if you decide to mess with the guy there's nothing I can do about it, she then claims I don't care I was just using logic stating facts, I don't know if I should just cut ties I'll feel bad to just leave her in the middle of training but I feel she's just using me just to get threw training then going to leave me after she gets back home, I know she is I just don't want to realize it
David87 Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 You are not compatible with eachother...its time to move on.
Gus Grimly Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 She's a young girl and you are talking about settling down at 24? You need to find someone who's sold all their wild oats and wants similar things. This girl would just cause you lots of headaches because you both are in different phases of life.
goldway90 Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 "I told her that I didn't want a relationship she begged and begged until I fully committed to her" Bad start, if you're sure she's using you then end this relationship. She 19 years, a committed relationship doesn't exist in her mind.
Author Johnbinger221 Posted July 26, 2015 Author Posted July 26, 2015 I understand she's not ready but she won't leave me alone, I'm trying my best to end it but I know I don't want to deep down its hard as hell, I havnt been sleeping lately because of it, I feel ill be doing her wrong by just down right leaving her while she's in basic training. I feel stuck in this situation I'm not sure her true feelings I feel that I've done this to myself for even trying this. I don't know if I should just keep talking to her and just wait it out just to see or just forget it and go and take the pain of caring for her feelings
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