HokeyReligions Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 There is a new girl at work (Mary) -- she's in another department, but I sit near her. She's 25 and recently got out of a 4 yr relationship. Yesterday I come in and she and the other girl in her department have hacked into her ex's email somehow. They are reading his email, sending email to him and finding out that her ex is engaged to someone else (very quick relationship) and that he forwards his email to her. Lots of drama. I did warn them to get off the computer for personal stuff--especially breaking into someone else's email account. No, of course they didn't listen. They spent the entire day before and yesterday doing nothing but sending emails from him, to him, to his new girl, to his parents and to the new girl's ex husband. Mary found out about the wedding plans, where they will live, and details about their move. She then pretended to be this other girl and call and cancel their cable service that they just signed on for. She did several other things and they were both laughing about all of this. Mind you, Mary has only worked here two weeks! I'm not over her, but I work for the people who are---they have all been gone to the OTC this week and we take turns being in the office. I warned them both and suggested some other things they could be doing since they were being paid to work and not to snoop and play games. I come in today and the one girl is on vacation---leaving Mary by herself. Her boss IS in today though and he has her actually doing some work. I have received a call from the police department verifying Mary's employment here. Mary has received a couple of telephone calls as well. The person she impersonated is NOT going to tolerate Mary's behavior. (good for her!) Mary, and the other girl here (Jane), kept justifying their actions by saying that Mary did not receive closure, and that they were together for 4 years and no marriage proposal and he meets this other girl and six months later they are getting married and she's a skank and deserves it, and blah blah blah. Well, now Mary may not have a job and she may have a police record. Because the calls were made at work, and she hacked into the email at work, and both her and Jane were going through the email account from their respective computers, and because I sit so close and heard them---I'm dragged into it as well. I don't want to get Jane in trouble because I like her and she is really struggling right now, but I'm not going to lie and cover for either of them. Yeah, it hurts to be dumped and it hurts when your ex finds someone first, but why in the world do so many people feel it necessary to seek some kind of 'revenge'? What good did it do Mary to read the emails? All she did was hurt herself further. In many ways. Goofing off is one thing, everyone spends a little time doing non-work things each day -- it helps break the tedium and regain focus for work---but spending two whole entire days snooping, using company computers for hacking into someone else's email, making fraudlent calls and trying to cause problems to others----- I hope the DO let her go, we don't need someone like that working here. Maybe when she gets her head together she won't behave in such a manner. 1
ConfusedInOC Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 A great example of Karma and why NO CONTACT is such a GOOD thing!
d'Arthez Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC A great example of Karma and why NO CONTACT is such a GOOD thing! Karma? That is no Biblical concept.
Marshbear Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 It was very childish of her to do this thing and she will probably pay the price for her dishonesty. E-mails are not private, especially in the work place, but you do not have the right to hack. It's against the law. Then she did more than hack. She impersonated this other girl to make another childish prank. I see a job firing and possible court time for Mary. Not a good return for being silly and childish.
ConfusedInOC Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 Originally posted by d'Arthez Karma? That is no Biblical concept. Praise God, my man!
Author HokeyReligions Posted May 6, 2005 Author Posted May 6, 2005 Its funny, but all the while I was listening to them pour over these emails and then make calls etc. I kept thinking about all the things I've read on LS from others who have wanted to lash out at their ex's. I passed along some of the tidbits of wisdom I've read here, but nothing was going to get through to them -- they just used it as a launch board for justification and played the "I didn't get closure" card to justify everything. I wish I could have told her to come to LS and post for advice or opinions here, but I don't want them to know me on this board. They probably would not have figured out who I am by my posts, but if and when I put up another pic of me as an avatar, they would know. It's sad really that they (especially Mary, but Jane egged her on) seemed to feel compelled to behave this way, and sadder still that they both seemed to get so much glee from it all. They were laughing and joking like it was a party prank and no warnings from me seemed to get through. I'm hoping that maybe someone out there in LoveShackLand might read this and take a moment to pause and rethink their acts of vengence by seeing what others think about these actions. Had I been their supervisor I could have and would have put a stop to it immediately and written them both up for using company computers and doing this on company time and stopped it before it escalated. When I asked why she didn't do this on her own time at home, her response: I don't have a computer at home where I can gain access to his emails--this is the only place I can do this, so I have to do it here. Another justification! I'm sure now that the OTC is over I will be questioned about what I know and heard---I had to let upper management know about the police call. It puts me in a very uncomfortable spot too.
Merin Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 Amazing what people will do... My EXBF used his Military Computer to hack My email... When I caught him at it.. he said "Let's not use the word Hack.. it just sounds bad" WTF!
Mz. Pixie Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 Yeah, as I posted before, a ex coworker used my computer to hack into another forum I posted on- then sent the link to my exh- who read all my private thoughts there! Stuff I never meant to be read. It hurts to be on the end of all of that!
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