preraph Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Not to me, honestly. This is probably an unpopular opinion but it really depends on the situation. I may be a little biased since I absolutely don't want children myself. Like I feel I wouldn't get any motherly instinct and would completely feel burdened by the kid, if I had one. As a result, since I feel that a woman shouldn't be judged for giving a kid up for adoption if she's not ready or having an abortion, I also don't feel a guy should have a kid forced upon him since he doesn't really have the option of making a decision on what happens with the kid. I wouldn't look down on him any more than I'd look down on a woman for giving up her kid. As long as it was an accidental pregnancy and he let her know from the beginning that he wasn't ready. Although if the situation is that he was all for having a kid until she actually had a kid, I wouldn't want to be with him and I would be turned off because that'd tell me that he makes big decisions without really thinking about it. I know people feel that if someone has sex and makes a baby, they should stand up an raise it but to me, that's just saying they should be punished for having sex. If I wanted kids though, I'd find myself incompatible with them and I'd never be with him as a result because I'd never trust him to have kids (unless there's a really good reason why he's not involved) I agree he shouldn't be trapped by someone intentionally getting pregnant when they have said they do not want kids. But the bottom line is if it's that life or death to the man that he will neglect any kids that happen, then he needs to either stop having sex or get a vasectomy. Being stupid and not taking precautions isn't the same as being trapped into parenthood. If you make a kid, you need to take care of it.
RoseVille Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 If a guy had kids and didn't want to see them or was ambivalent about seeing them, I would not date him, period.
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