Tom E Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 What's up When it comes down to dating or what not I cant keep a girlfriend for long, and its me who seems to be the problem. And don't get me wrong, we have a blast every time we go out, but I seem to get pretty tried of talking/seeing the same girl over and over and end up breaking up with her. We are still friends and hangout and do stuff together.. I don't know how you guys date someone for a long time and never get tired of each other. I mean I trade my cars in all the time because I get board driving them even though they are still new. I get a new phone every time a new one comes because I get board. And when I see couples that are dating or married I guess its because they thought they will never meet someone better or that's the best they can do.. I would understand if they checked everywhere in the world and didn't find anyone better but I doubt many couples would agreed they did that. Is it because I am still young (24) or am I just the perfect bachelor instead???
d0nnivain Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 You are young. You value you shiny & new. You are a bit superficial always needing the newest car & most high tech gadget. You also have a short attention span. The next "new" thing catches your eye. I used to be very similar when I was your age Especially in relationships I loved the thrill of the chase but the idea of monogamy freaked me out. Then I met a man who taught me the joys of really knowing & understanding somebody. We grew & changed together. In my LTRs we stay together not because we can't do better but because it's more fun to make new discoveries about yourself, each other & the world together.
mrldii Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 ...And when I see couples that are dating or married I guess its because they thought they will never meet someone better or that's the best they can do.. I would understand if they checked everywhere in the world and didn't find anyone better but I doubt many couples would agreed they did that... It was because you added this ^^^ that it appears due to your age (not due to your youth, but due to your age) that you are in a perfectly normal transition stage in your life. At 24, when you look around, chances are your friends and cohorts seem to be dropping one-by-one into exclusive coupledom/marriage and your buddies are no longer available to go out chasing tail with you every night. I'd also suspect that more than a couple of people (parents? aunts/uncles? older siblings?) have been cajoling you to "grow up", "settle down", and "start getting serious about your future". Whether you are in college or not, this is typically the age when people are finishing or nearing the end of their academic careers and NOW it's time to move on to the next phase to further prove you are, indeed, an adult. Will you forever be a happily confirmed bachelor? Who knows? At this point, who cares? It's obvious that right now, regardless of social cues/standards you're not interested in being a 'committed state'... ...so don't be IN one. Enjoy your freedom and luxuries it affords you. Oh, and to address the part I quoted: Nahhhhh...I'm sure most of those around you who are pairing off are doing so because they (believe they) are in love. Marrying someone - anyone - simply because there's no one better around isn't part of The Rules until the women hit 38 and the men hit 48.
carhill Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Welcome to LS. Is it because I am still young (24) or am I just the perfect bachelor instead??? IMO, probably a combination of both. You're young, single, and you like to mingle. Perfectly normal, especially these days where young people stay single longer and grow themselves, their education and careers before making long-term commitments to one person. Some never do. Only time will tell with you. IMO, do what you do, be transparent about it, and enjoy your youth, including the cars. Lotsa fun! 1
Author Tom E Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 Yeah, maybe bachelor is the answer. Marriage is scary and seems like a bs to go through knowing the divorce rate is around 50% and getting prenupt's, and meeting her whole entire family. Kids scare me, but maybe in my 40's or 50's.. Don't think there are to many, if anything of these girls, but if I find one
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