callie1913 Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Hi there! Totally confused as to whether or not a guy is interested in me or not! The context of the situation is the gym, therefore its not a normal place to meet or ask people out! I met him last summer and we chatted but I went back to work days later so I never saw him again til this summer. First week back at the gym we chatted again and he introduced himself immediately. I talk to lots of people at the gym just in passing, I nor them ever feel compelled to introduce ourselves. I see him everyday at gym (only during the summer because I am off for two months) and each day I see him we always have a chat and he is very receptive and discloses plenty of information to me about himself (ie. where he works, what he does, he has two kids, etc...no mention of a girlfriend). Yet he hasn't asked me out!! I can't decide whether he is just being friendly or he is into me. I understand some guy's at the gym might just want a girl to chat to at the gym but he is pretty forthcoming with information for someone that is taken or not interested. I do initiate conservations with him but that's about as far as I'll go for now, I'm open to someone new but past relationships and hurts have caused me to hold back a little for fear of being rejected or hurt again. I am really interested in him, as he is not like any guy I have been into before, he is really sweet, level headed and mature. Any thoughts??! Thanks in advance
StalwartMind Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 You could ask him about his kids and if/when they spend time with the mother, and what he does when he is "alone". Take advantage of this information he gives you, perhaps you could make a date out of one of his interests, maybe he enjoys movies, music or something incredibly common that would make for a fun first night out. There are many ways to find out what someone is and if they would be interested in you. You know your own preferred approach, I think above method is fairly neutral and gives you a better idea of where someone exactly is at. Adjust it to your own liking, but as always communication/talking/asking yields the most accurate results. All the wonder games will often just leave you wondering with no real true clarity.
xcupid Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Why not ask him if he wants to get a coffee or something after gym?
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