Can my ex still come back?

[MightGuy]

Hi guys, I'm a huge fan of all your stories! Recentently my ex and I went through a breakup. My ex and I have been together for 4 1/2 months now but we’ve been “talking” for three months prior. I took it slow considering I was her first boyfriend and first kiss. We were a Christian couple who put God first. During and even before our relationship she would always tell me how I’m the sweetest guy she’s ever met and how much of a blessing I was. We wouldn’t necessarily argue but we did bicker about a lot of things. She told me last Sunday that God has told her no she can’t stay with me and that our relationship isn’t working out. I handled the breakup very well, told her how I felt about her and told her my true feelings. She seemed unsure about how to respond she kept saying “maybe this isn’t the end, maybe we just need space. But all I know is that I don’t need a boyfriend right now. I really don’t want to lose you from my life because I care about you. We might just need to mature more.” Then I replied with “I understand how you feel but I don’t think I really want to let go yet.” Then she replied with “you don’t have to let go” then I asked her if she wanted me to fight for her and she said yes but I’ve been in no contact so far and she hasn’t deleted any photos of us from Facebook or Instagram and she texted me yesterday saying that she was just checking to see how I was and that she till cared. I replied two hours later because I don't think that ignoring her will get her back so I just kept it real brief by saying "thank you for checking I appreciate it. Have a good night" and boy did she reply fast lol but I didn't reply and I went back to no contact. Can anyone help and does anyone think she'll try to contact me again or reconcile?

[Arieswoman]

MightGuy,

Your g/f is talking out of both sides of her mouth so it's no wonder you feel confused and hurt.

 

First she says ;

 

She told me last Sunday that God has told her no she can’t stay with me and that our relationship isn’t working out.

 

and then;

she kept saying “maybe this isn’t the end, maybe we just need space. But all I know is that I don’t need a boyfriend right now.

 

So it seems that God has changed His mind in a short space of time?

 

She seems confused and deluded. Please walk away and keep walking. Stay NC and heal from this, then look for some nice Christian girl who is really into you.

 

Good luck x

[pidgeon1010]

She's just not that into you. Responding to her breadcrumb messages isn't going to get her back any sooner than strict NC with no responses will. What the former only does is to assure her you are still waiting on her and she has control over you. If God has told her you two shouldn't be together, how are you supposed to fight for her? Are you going to be fighting against God?

 

She sounds like she wants to have her a cake and eat it too. She breaks up with you but doesn't want you to move forward so she throwing you breadcrumbs so you're hooked until maybe she decides she wants to give the relationship another go, if ever.

 

You don't want to waste your time on someone who is unsure about you. There is no guarantee she will ever come back. Why are you putting your life on hold for an uncertainty?

[d0nnivain]

While anything is possible, it's highly unlikely that she is coming back.

 

You didn't do anything wrong. She just doesn't want to go forward. Pray for grace & understanding. Let God guide you to your true life partner. It's not her.

 

Good luck.

[mightycpa]

She told me last Sunday that God has told her no she can’t stay with me... then I asked her if she wanted me to fight for her and she said yes

Let me tell you, MightGuy, if you fight God, you're going to lose. Turn the lights out on this one and walk away.

[aloneinaz]

Since you lack relationship experience OP, let me interpret what she said to you w/her mumble jumble..

 

 

She said, I'm not feeling it w/you and you're not the guy for me. Thus, I don't want to go out with you anymore and want to find someone else. Now, I'll be ok in "allowing" you to have contact w/me off/on if it helps you get over "me"..

 

 

Here's what a relationship experienced guy would do when told that. They'd simply say ok when presented with this news. They'd then VANISH from this girls life due to their strong self esteem, pride and confidence in themselves. They wouldn't reply to any of her contact, what so ever. She said she doesn't want you in her life as her BF anymore and you have the right to make the decision to not have her in YOUR life in any aspect.