Was it right or wrong

[ssandeepsingh02]

So me and this girl had our breakups at the same time (i'm 4 years younger to her). Her then bf left her for ex, my ex left me for someone else. In that period we came close and i started liking her. She used to compliment me all the time and i thought she liked me too.

So after a month and a half, last night i talked to her and asked that "do u think you can fall of some other guy". She replied that she might but in a while and that could take time. So i ask..but you sure you can do this, to which she said, she don't know and still wants to be with her ex.

After talking for a while she asked me "do you like me" to which i said "i don't want to say anything and complicate the situation.

Now the problem is my friend he says that i said it all to early and that i shouldn't have done that but other one says you did right at-least now you don't have to over-think about anything you can just relax. But i'm confused now, did i just totally blew my chances and how should i handle this. I really like this girl any advice will be appreciated.

P.S. we are in the same office same project, now her exbf is not sure either about her or his ex and is keeping her on back burner and has cheated on her (she doesn't know this)

[d0nnivain]

You may very well have blown your changes but as your buddy pointed out, better you should know early rather than sitting & pining & hoping & waiting.

 

This girl is no where near ready to date again. She is still not over her EX. Who knows how long that will take her to do. She has to do that in her own time. Leave her be.

 

Don't friend zone yourself. Be nice to her, but don't turn yourself into one of her GFs. Avoid all talk of relationships & healing with her.

 

Meanwhile you date other women & enjoy yourself. If there comes a time in the future (at least 1 year from now) when you are both single if the attraction is still there for you ask her out on a date. If you get shot down that 2nd time, drop it & never ask again.