HappyAgain2014 Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Other than a dday, why did your affair end? Did your affair partner end it? If you ended it, why? Clearly it's not marital status in an affair so what was the deal breaker? 1
norudder Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 I was done settling in life. That resulted in changing my life in several ways, ending marriage ending affair and changing jobs. I realized the importance of love in my life. I had to define what that looked like to me. And to me, it does not look like being a secret. I wish 1st Corinthians said love is honest. But it comes close, maybe better actually since true honesty without tact can be cruel, but it says love does not dishonor others. An affair definitely dishonors others. 5
Grapesofwrath Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 About 18 years ago, I was the OW in an A that was more what I consider a "classic" A. He was a bit older and more established. He future-faked me, said he was staying just for the kids, told me he had never cheated before, sexless marriage, etc. I naively believed him. He was a powerful and successful surgeon, and I thought he hung the moon. Over time, I discovered that these were all lies. I eventually ended it because I wanted to move on and have a family of my own, which I did. I had fallen completely out of love with him, and had no desire to see him or speak with him again. I still see him occasionally at work. I have no feelings for him whatsoever. About 10 years ago, we were at the same work-related holiday party. I was married, and my husband was present, as was his wife. She was drunk. All night she roamed the party approaching any vaguely attractive woman to announce, "See him. He's my husband! Stay away from my husband! All you women need to stay away from my husband!" He put her through hell. 1
Sassy Girl Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 We both agreed to end it because his wife became suspicious. His risk is also my risk as we are both married. He wanted to go low contact, not catch up as much. I told him that was crazy because she's on alert now. Best quit while we are ahead, so to speak. So we did.
cocorico Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Other than a dday, why did your affair end? Did your affair partner end it? If you ended it, why? Clearly it's not marital status in an affair so what was the deal breaker? Ours ended as an A because he dumped the BW and moved out with the kids, and we started a FTR.
Anna-Belle Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Ours ended as an A because he dumped the BW and moved out with the kids, and we started a FTR. Same here sans the kids.
Recommended Posts