MikeWesten Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 Hey Forum, Looking for some advice or feedback here. I have a question on dating girls in their mid to late 20's. I am a 25 year old guy and I am a good looking guy, but I have never dated a girl before. I mean I talked to girls before but never really went on with asking them out, I was just scared of her meeting someone better than me and leaving I know that doesn't happen a lot or maybe is does but I didn't want to take the chance. I just want girl who's not all about 1v1 all the time. I have a life too! And if l go out to the bar/club without her, and if she text me that night checking up or the following morning knowing I am probably hung over or lost my phone. I have some friends who cant go out to a party somewhere over the weekend because their GF will text and call them or she will find out.- Kind of reminds me of my Mom.. I only work a couple hours a day and its mostly from my cell or laptop, so traveling is not a problem The ideal girl would have to be very outgoing, fun, likes to party/drink, always having things going on, and loves to travel! But I don't know any girl who can work from anywhere like I do, so she would have to live off of my income which doesn't bother me. Seems like girls in there mid 20's are focused on school and getting a job and moving up or are really close their family and cant travel. I see people in their 30's doing it but never really see in their 20's... Maybe I am just asking for to much? Thanks for any feedback
DrReplyInRhymes Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 Hey Forum, Looking for some advice or feedback here. I have a question on dating girls in their mid to late 20's. I am a 25 year old guy and I am a good looking guy, but I have never dated a girl before. I mean I talked to girls before but never really went on with asking them out, I was just scared of her meeting someone better than me and leaving I know that doesn't happen a lot or maybe is does but I didn't want to take the chance. I just want girl who's not all about 1v1 all the time. I have a life too! And if l go out to the bar/club without her, and if she text me that night checking up or the following morning knowing I am probably hung over or lost my phone. I have some friends who cant go out to a party somewhere over the weekend because their GF will text and call them or she will find out.- Kind of reminds me of my Mom.. I only work a couple hours a day and its mostly from my cell or laptop, so traveling is not a problem The ideal girl would have to be very outgoing, fun, likes to party/drink, always having things going on, and loves to travel! But I don't know any girl who can work from anywhere like I do, so she would have to live off of my income which doesn't bother me. Seems like girls in there mid 20's are focused on school and getting a job and moving up or are really close their family and cant travel. I see people in their 30's doing it but never really see in their 20's... Maybe I am just asking for to much? Thanks for any feedback I think your lifestyle is great, and I am secretly jealous from my point of view, Maybe you haven't met many 20's travelers because they are currently away from home too?
mike_89 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I just want girl who's not all about 1v1 all the time. I have a life too! And if l go out to the bar/club without her, and if she text me that night checking up or the following morning knowing I am probably hung over or lost my phone. I have some friends who cant go out to a party somewhere over the weekend because their GF will text and call them or she will find out.- Kind of reminds me of my Mom.. Don't be afraid of this. Most girls aren't like that, most girls have a life of their own. In fact most (if not all) girls find it attractive for a man to have a life of his own. When dating you will see the big red flags if you happen to be dating one of those girls, like if they get annoyed when you don't respond to her texts immediately. You will know very quickly if a girl you are dating is one of the jealous/obsessive types that won't leave you alone!
Plywoof Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 Hey Forum, Looking for some advice or feedback here. I have a question on dating girls in their mid to late 20's. I am a 25 year old guy and I am a good looking guy, but I have never dated a girl before. I mean I talked to girls before but never really went on with asking them out, I was just scared of her meeting someone better than me and leaving I know that doesn't happen a lot or maybe is does but I didn't want to take the chance. I just want girl who's not all about 1v1 all the time. I have a life too! And if l go out to the bar/club without her, and if she text me that night checking up or the following morning knowing I am probably hung over or lost my phone. I have some friends who cant go out to a party somewhere over the weekend because their GF will text and call them or she will find out.- Kind of reminds me of my Mom.. I only work a couple hours a day and its mostly from my cell or laptop, so traveling is not a problem The ideal girl would have to be very outgoing, fun, likes to party/drink, always having things going on, and loves to travel! But I don't know any girl who can work from anywhere like I do, so she would have to live off of my income which doesn't bother me. Seems like girls in there mid 20's are focused on school and getting a job and moving up or are really close their family and cant travel. I see people in their 30's doing it but never really see in their 20's... Maybe I am just asking for to much? Thanks for any feedback Might I suggest dating an older woman. Since you haven't much experience dating, someone who's been in the game longer could help you.
Author MikeWesten Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 I think your lifestyle is great, and I am secretly jealous from my point of view, Maybe you haven't met many 20's travelers because they are currently away from home too? Thanks! I feel like I connect better with the 30's couple's then 20's,. I like to talk about business a lot and the 20's really have no interest, and dont understand money. Maybe I'm just looking in the wrong places. Don't be afraid of this. Most girls aren't like that, most girls have a life of their own. In fact most (if not all) girls find it attractive for a man to have a life of his own. When dating you will see the big red flags if you happen to be dating one of those girls, like if they get annoyed when you don't respond to her texts immediately. You will know very quickly if a girl you are dating is one of the jealous/obsessive types that won't leave you alone! That is true, but kind of a trial and error thing?.. Might I suggest dating an older woman. Since you haven't much experience dating, someone who's been in the game longer could help you. Maybe but not a big fan of older woman, dont know why How is your ability to flirt, tease? You got me, I really dont know. I never really tried. I'll just take her shopping and flirt with her then
Qboro90 Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Sounds like you just made up a whole bunch of excuses as to why You don't want them but in reality it might be that they don't want you and your way of coping is to say that. I don't understand how you could complain and be bothered by a girl wanting to spend too much 1v1 time with you yet you've never actually had a gf. Seems like you've picked the negative parts of the relationships around you of perhaps your friends and used that as a reason "not trying to waste my time". If you generalize anyone it will prohibit you from ever meeting someone. There are plenty of mid twenties women who possess the qualities and mindset you listed above. Giving up or waving off an entire age group is just silly.
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Thanks! I feel like I connect better with the 30's couple's then 20's,. I like to talk about business a lot and the 20's really have no interest, and dont understand money. Maybe I'm just looking in the wrong places. That is true, but kind of a trial and error thing?.. Maybe but not a big fan of older woman, dont know why You got me, I really dont know. I never really tried. I'll just take her shopping and flirt with her then Ya same there, having small talk, basic conversation has gotten easier for me but flirting, teasing, bantering I completely suck at
Author MikeWesten Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 Sounds like you just made up a whole bunch of excuses as to why You don't want them but in reality it might be that they don't want you and your way of coping is to say that. I don't understand how you could complain and be bothered by a girl wanting to spend too much 1v1 time with you yet you've never actually had a gf. Seems like you've picked the negative parts of the relationships around you of perhaps your friends and used that as a reason "not trying to waste my time". If you generalize anyone it will prohibit you from ever meeting someone. There are plenty of mid twenties women who possess the qualities and mindset you listed above. Giving up or waving off an entire age group is just silly. If 1v1 time counted as going out with a bunch of people and taking her with and having a good time I would have no problem, but no girl that I know of or my friends GF's said that count as 1v1 time. I am just a social guy and want to talk with other people
d0nnivain Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 You need to learn to walk before you can run. If you have never even asked a woman to dinner, try that before you worry about whether or not she can work from anywhere. A number of things about your post were extremely off putting & make you sound like a self absorbed jerk. I am not saying you are one but I am saying that post left a very bad impression in your life. The whole thing read like you want a sex slave party girl who will be at your beck & call but whom you prefer would have no claim on you. You want limited 1 on 1 time; you don't want her to bother you when you are out with friends; when you don't call her you expect her to assume you are sleeping, hung over or lost your phone. She's supposed to be a party girl up for anything but if you met such a woman you would become very jealous because she would have other men flocking to her & you'd hate that. You seem to want a doll you can take out of the box when it's convenient for you, flip a switch to start her batteries & have her be entertaining for you then enable you to put her away when you are done so she doesn't bother you. At best that is a SugarBaby but it is certainly not a relationship. 1
moppi Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 (edited) If it makes you feel any better I'm 26 year old man. I am a good catch with the resting heart rate of an athlete and the IQ of a genius, but people like you are always making me feel like worthless piece of **** because I'm not interested in traveling right now. It's the internet baby, I know what is going on in other countries if I want to. And believe me I'm not ignorant. But I'm so sick of being judged because I wont spend every spare moment on a jet plane. **** that. Apart from that I'm in a similar position to you. No luck with the opposite sex and I'm not even worried about the things you're worried about, but I have my own issues. Edited July 25, 2015 by moppi
Author MikeWesten Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 You need to learn to walk before you can run. If you have never even asked a woman to dinner, try that before you worry about whether or not she can work from anywhere. A number of things about your post were extremely off putting & make you sound like a self absorbed jerk. I am not saying you are one but I am saying that post left a very bad impression in your life. The whole thing read like you want a sex slave party girl who will be at your beck & call but whom you prefer would have no claim on you. You want limited 1 on 1 time; you don't want her to bother you when you are out with friends; when you don't call her you expect her to assume you are sleeping, hung over or lost your phone. She's supposed to be a party girl up for anything but if you met such a woman you would become very jealous because she would have other men flocking to her & you'd hate that. You seem to want a doll you can take out of the box when it's convenient for you, flip a switch to start her batteries & have her be entertaining for you then enable you to put her away when you are done so she doesn't bother you. At best that is a SugarBaby but it is certainly not a relationship. Wow I never was called a Jerk before But then again, aren't all Men Jerks haha I am not the jealous type at all, if guys hit on her it wouldn't bother me, it just means shes outgoing and beautiful looking I would go out to lunch and go shopping with her but not all the time. I just want her to have her own life too! If it makes you feel any better I'm 26 year old man. I am a good catch with the resting heart rate of an athlete and the IQ of a genius, but people like you are always making me feel like worthless piece of **** because I'm not interested in traveling right now. It's the internet baby, I know what is going on in other countries if I want to. And believe me I'm not ignorant. But I'm so sick of being judged because I wont spend every spare moment on a jet plane. **** that. Apart from that I'm in a similar position to you. No luck with the opposite sex and I'm not even worried about the things you're worried about, but I have my own issues. I just started traveling and its a blast, I cant wait till I go over seas! The internet is lame compared to actually traveling! Night and Day Maybe the pefect girl is abroad
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