snoop_dawg22 Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 So he emails me yesterday and tells me that he's getting married. Granted we broke up the last week of Feb. Says they've been dating since the beginning of March. How quick to get with someone. At first I got upset but then I told myself that if that's what he wants then fine. They'll be getting married in July in Vegas. She has a son by someone else and they work together. Talk about breaking news. I'm not saying that this hasn't affected me ( I wouldn't be posting if it didn't ) b/c we were together for 3 yrs and talked about getting married ourselves. The last email I sent were along the lines of I'm happy for you and I will not stand in the way of your happiness. But the odd thing is that I kept mentioning the fact if he was in love or not and he couldn't answer that. I didn't cry was just pissed to begin with. But this just shows me that he's not for me and now that I'm dating someone that's great to me it's easier to just go on with my life.!
flsgirl Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Sounds like a marriage made in heaven. Not to be rude, but this marriage sounds like it could be just another divorce statistic. Be thankful you didn't marry this guy!
Merin Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Jeez.. What an A~hole! WTF Did he want you to say/do? For real.. I would be pissed off to get an email like that! What a ****er! LOL and seriously be Thankful you didn't marry him!
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted May 5, 2005 Author Posted May 5, 2005 Everyone is telling me to be thankful for that. He's only 22 and is about to marry someone with a kid and who is older than him. I just can't see how he can fall in love with this chick ( who I've meet before ) so soon. Boy. I would just like to think that maybe I broke his heart so bad that he has to run off and marry the first dumb girl that was willing. And she thinks he's such a good bf, he's told me this from when we were 2gether. She's about to find out first hand how wonderful he is!! Why am I happy? I guess b/c I'm coming off as the better person. Merin I was pissed. He wants me to go crying/crawling back to him. I DON"T THINK SO!! The last time we broke up I did that s***. Now this time is different and I'm showing his a@$. Karma is a b*tch!
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted May 5, 2005 Author Posted May 5, 2005 Oh then he sends an email after I say good luck asking if I was upset. Why does he care?
Merin Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Originally posted by snoop_dawg22 Everyone is telling me to be thankful for that. He's only 22 and is about to marry someone with a kid and who is older than him. I just can't see how he can fall in love with this chick ( who I've meet before ) so soon. Boy. I would just like to think that maybe I broke his heart so bad that he has to run off and marry the first dumb girl that was willing. And she thinks he's such a good bf, he's told me this from when we were 2gether. She's about to find out first hand how wonderful he is!! Why am I happy? I guess b/c I'm coming off as the better person. Merin I was pissed. He wants me to go crying/crawling back to him. I DON"T THINK SO!! The last time we broke up I did that s***. Now this time is different and I'm showing his a@$. Karma is a b*tch! Well... I have to take exception on one thing.. because this other Girl has a Kiddo with someone else should not be a mark against her (Sorry LOL I'm a single Mom!) Honestly who knows WTF he's thinking about you know? I think it's a mistake based on the fact he had been with you for 3 years and the relationship just ended in February... IMO he is in a rebound relationship with this Girl... just seems really soon to go from a 3 year relationship that really just ended to getting married 3 months later... I guess I would've been more pissed that he emailed (if I were you) because IMO it was like rubbing salt in the wound you know? I know he for real didn't think or expect that you were going to recieve that email and say "OMG how wonderful for him! Gosh.. what should I get him for a gift? wonder where he's registered?" LOL know what I mean? IMO this was a in your face type of deal and he sucks for doing it!
Merin Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Originally posted by snoop_dawg22 Oh then he sends an email after I say good luck asking if I was upset. Why does he care? BECAUSE He was hoping you would be upset... thats what makes him a ****er! More than that... What does that say about the relationship he has with this other girl you know? I dunno about anyone else but when I've moved on REALLY moved on, I don't give a sh*t how My EX is or share good/bad news with them...
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted May 5, 2005 Author Posted May 5, 2005 Oh Merin I'm not saying that it's a bad thing that she has a kiddo. But I know him and he doesn't take on responsibilty too well. We talked the day before and the story just sounds so conflicting to me. He told me ( on the phone ) that he's going to Vegas with a best friend in July. Ok. Then I said yeah I was dating but nothing heavy-serious he says yeah he understands him too. Ok. Then at the beginning of April we had a talk and he says that it sucked how all of this went down and that he loved me. And that he wasn't seeing anyone. Ok. But before we hung up ( this is the day before the email ) he's like I'm getting married in Vegas ( sounds like he's joking ) so I say cool yeah whatever. Then he emails me to see if I really believed him and that he really is. If he's trying to rub it in my face he's not doing a real good job. All I can think is that maybe he's ready ( all of a sudden ) to get married and this is the chick of his choice.
Merin Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Well Girl only thing to do now is let it go.. He'll either make it work or he won't.. either way it's all on him.
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted May 5, 2005 Author Posted May 5, 2005 Yep. I just need to move on and not look back. But something keeps telling me that something's not right. Is it wrong that I want to know if he really loves her? I know that it's messing with my healing process.
Merin Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Originally posted by snoop_dawg22 Yep. I just need to move on and not look back. But something keeps telling me that something's not right. Is it wrong that I want to know if he really loves her? I know that it's messing with my healing process. It doesn't matter if he really loves her.. it doesn't change things. Hang in there
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted May 5, 2005 Author Posted May 5, 2005 I'm trying but it's hard you know. I think the anger has turned to sadness now that I've been thinking about it ( which is a big no no ). You're right it doesn't matter. Thanks Merin.
Merin Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Originally posted by snoop_dawg22 I'm trying but it's hard you know. I think the anger has turned to sadness now that I've been thinking about it ( which is a big no no ). You're right it doesn't matter. Thanks Merin. You're Welcome Honey.. I have no doubt this is hard for you... wish I could say more that would help.
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted May 5, 2005 Author Posted May 5, 2005 I have so many things to look forward too and I really shouldn't let this be a major set back. Like you said in the first reply which was right on... I am glad it wasn't me. I'd be 100xs more hurt if I was to marry him and him do this to me then.
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