kenmore Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I wasn't sure whether this should be in dating or coping. It doesn't fit in either, but coping seems too pathetic. Here it is: I went on a business trip today. A long one! I left the house at 7:30, flew from San Diego, Ca. to Portland Or., drove to Vancouver Wa. had a job interview and went back...same path. Fairly routine for a long day, but there was this one recurring theme all day, my shirt! I hate addressing posts to just ladies and I won't here, but I am especially interested in what the ladies have to say because it was 100% women who commented. I got comments on this shirt no less than six times today. All positive. I was wearing a gray suit, a teal shirt and a tie that is patterned but has teal colors in it. It matches. I have gotten complements on this shirt before, beginning with my wife and daughter who both said they love the color when they gave it to me for Christmas in...thinking 2010. While I worked at Home Depot, I was complemented on it by my female manager, female customers, female workmates. While working at the recent insurance company, I have been complemented on it by three random women who were not even my customers, they just saw me in it. Today, a woman sitting next to me on the flight out. A woman at the rental car place. A waitress at the bar at the airport on my way home. A woman at TSA checking my carry-ons. A woman who was on her way to the bathroom on the jet home as she passed by. A stewardess on the trip home, A woman on the courtesy ride to the parking lot on the way home. I bring this up because it's a little freaky and of course as a man, it gets my mind going. Is it that these woman simply find the color of my shirt so incredible beautiful (it is, it's teal. A beautiful color) or is it more than that? As a man, I'll say that if I walk up to a woman I don't know and complement her dress, it requires a few things. Mainly, a beautiful dress (duh) but she must look good in it. She must look approachable and the rest of her clothes must be in order. Do others feel this way? Ladies, please give me some insight because I am confused. I admit it's a nice shirt but I have washed it at least 20 times at home in a regular washer so the color is not as vibrant as it used to be. To me, it's a teal shirt. The suit is nice too, I bought it recently. Is it the combo? Does it say anything about me? Do you think they think I looked good overall, or is it possible that six completely individual and unknown ladies all just thought my three year old teal shirt is just that awesome? Honestly I kept looking at it all day and wondered WTF? It's nice. That's all it seems to me...a nice shirt. Thanks! Ken 2
joseb Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 Can you tell me where I can get one if these shirts ??! 12
jen1447 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I wasn't sure whether this should be in dating or coping. It doesn't fit in either, but coping seems too pathetic. Here it is: I went on a business trip today. A long one! I left the house at 7:30, flew from San Diego, Ca. to Portland Or., drove to Vancouver Wa. had a job interview and went back...same path. Fairly routine for a long day, but there was this one recurring theme all day, my shirt! I hate addressing posts to just ladies and I won't here, but I am especially interested in what the ladies have to say because it was 100% women who commented. I got comments on this shirt no less than six times today. All positive. I was wearing a gray suit, a teal shirt and a tie that is patterned but has teal colors in it. It matches. I have gotten complements on this shirt before, beginning with my wife and daughter who both said they love the color when they gave it to me for Christmas in...thinking 2010. While I worked at Home Depot, I was complemented on it by my female manager, female customers, female workmates. While working at the recent insurance company, I have been complemented on it by three random women who were not even my customers, they just saw me in it. Today, a woman sitting next to me on the flight out. A woman at the rental car place. A waitress at the bar at the airport on my way home. A woman at TSA checking my carry-ons. A woman who was on her way to the bathroom on the jet home as she passed by. A stewardess on the trip home, A woman on the courtesy ride to the parking lot on the way home. I bring this up because it's a little freaky and of course as a man, it gets my mind going. Is it that these woman simply find the color of my shirt so incredible beautiful (it is, it's teal. A beautiful color) or is it more than that? As a man, I'll say that if I walk up to a woman I don't know and complement her dress, it requires a few things. Mainly, a beautiful dress (duh) but she must look good in it. She must look approachable and the rest of her clothes must be in order. Do others feel this way? Ladies, please give me some insight because I am confused. I admit it's a nice shirt but I have washed it at least 20 times at home in a regular washer so the color is not as vibrant as it used to be. To me, it's a teal shirt. The suit is nice too, I bought it recently. Is it the combo? Does it say anything about me? Do you think they think I looked good overall, or is it possible that six completely individual and unknown ladies all just thought my three year old teal shirt is just that awesome? Honestly I kept looking at it all day and wondered WTF? It's nice. That's all it seems to me...a nice shirt. Thanks! Ken IMO it's just the shirt. I mean, you probably looked nice overall but the shirt was the focal point. It doesn't mean they were all in love w/you, bc women do tend to be drawn to the aesthetics of style and color and can be generally impressed by them when done well without there being any other component to it than aesthetics. It's sth to take pride in for sure (you're a stylish guy who can put things together, cool) but don't make it more than it is. 2
d0nnivain Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 So many men wear white dress shirts, maybe pink or blue but it's unusual to see a man embracing color & based on your description of the tie, doing it well. Since it's so rare, women felt free to compliment you. Some men do compliment women on their attire. I had an out of the office meeting this morning & one guy complimented my raspberry colored patent leather sling back shoes. As I thanked him for the compliment about 5 more men chimed in. They had been afraid I'd react badly to the compliment. It was just a compliment not a proposition. It made me smile. Be happy that you garnered so much attention. 3
autumnnight Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 The corporate uniform typically includes neutrals, grays and a white shirt. I know I always notice when someone adds some color. For me, especially depending on your eye color, it really would just be about the shirt and it being flattering on you and a nice change from the boring I usually see. Teal is a color that looks good on just about everyone, brightens the face, and really makes blue or green eyes stand out. 2
wb1988 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 Male fashionisto checking in. Wearing anything that looks good and more importantly looks good on you will always attract compliments from those that naturally like to compliment. I buy most of my stuff at Zara (and then altered to a better fit at a tailor) and I get a compliment from both men and women pretty much every day, sometimes right in the middle of the dance floor at a nightclub or on the way out of a bathroom. Even wearing the white shirt with the stripe (it's me in my avatar) is enough to get compliments. It's like driving a nice car, sometimes I get random "nice car!" compliments in the middle of a traffic jam. These are all just compliments, and at face value they just mean that the person likes your presentation. Do not mistake it for them hitting on you, but you could use it as an icebreaker. 2
RoseVille Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 It's a bold, not often seen, pretty color for a man to wear. Most men wear boring, neutral, common colors. That alone would garner a compliment, no matter who is wearing it. If you're tan, it would also compliment your skin tone. If you have blue eyes, even more so. 2
RoseVille Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 Male fashionisto checking in. Wearing anything that looks good and more importantly looks good on you will always attract compliments from those that naturally like to compliment. I buy most of my stuff at Zara (and then altered to a better fit at a tailor) and I get a compliment from both men and women pretty much every day, sometimes right in the middle of the dance floor at a nightclub or on the way out of a bathroom. Even wearing the white shirt with the stripe (it's me in my avatar) is enough to get compliments. It's like driving a nice car, sometimes I get random "nice car!" compliments in the middle of a traffic jam. These are all just compliments, and at face value they just mean that the person likes your presentation. Do not mistake it for them hitting on you, but you could use it as an icebreaker. So, you're a metro hipster.
wb1988 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 It's a bold, not often seen, pretty color for a man to wear. Most men wear boring, neutral, common colors. That alone would garner a compliment, no matter who is wearing it. If you're tan, it would also compliment your skin tone. If you have blue eyes, even more so. I think the OP was asking if the compliments could be considered as hit ons ;/ and more than just compliments. I think I should add that if the same person compliments you many times then that could very well be a hit on, if it's just the once then it's almost definitely just a compliment. So, you're a metro hipster. Since when is Zara for hipsters, and since when do people say 'metro' in 2015?
elaine567 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I guess it because it is a co-ordinated look, the grey suit, sets off the teal shirt and the tie picks up the teal colour too. It is a colour combination that probably suits you very well too, so the whole effect is good, hence the compliments. 2
RoseVille Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I think the OP was asking if the compliments could be considered as hit ons ;/ and more than just compliments. I think I should add that if the same person compliments you many times then that could very well be a hit on, if it's just the once then it's almost definitely just a compliment. I didn't see him asking that question, but I agree with your assessment. I just think it was the shirt they sincerely liked given its description, particularly how it was paired with his suit and tie. Since when is Zara for hipsters, and since when do people say 'metro' in 2015? True. Now I just say "way too into himself and high maintenance." "Metro hipster" is a combined term I just invented! Zara is also "wannabe Hamptons." In short, "want to look like I'm not trying but it's obvious I'm actually trying really hard to be cool and hip." It's also cheap and poorly constructed. Maybe it's my age and stage of life, but Zara isn't somewhere I'd find men I'm attracted to shopping, but to each their own! 1
Author kenmore Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 IMO it's just the shirt. I mean, you probably looked nice overall but the shirt was the focal point. It doesn't mean they were all in love w/you, bc women do tend to be drawn to the aesthetics of style and color and can be generally impressed by them when done well without there being any other component to it than aesthetics. It's sth to take pride in for sure (you're a stylish guy who can put things together, cool) but don't make it more than it is. Thanks everyone for your responses! Aww Jen, you totally burst my bubble! Here I was trying to decide which one of them to call and invite over tonight for romp in the hay! While of course I'd like to think it was all about me not the shirt, I recognize it for what it is, an ego stroke. You know I like it stroked by attractive women as much as possible. Lots of women, the harder the better (yes I'm still talking about ego, but I'm always open to suggestion.) It just makes a guy feel a little special (in a good way) when an attractive woman walks up to him and gives a compliment. The post is really about me figuring out what went right so I can continue to do it. I have other shirts I have been complemented on by women too, and since this one draws the most complements, it must be the color. Yes, autumnnight and RoseVille, my eyes are blue, technically...that's what it says on my license but they have changed to having some green mixed in so they are kinda teal too these days. In fact when I wore this shirt years ago, my wife used to say how it matched my eye color. Since it was a gift, I can't tell you where to get one but I know my wife was a JC Penney freak and the label says "Stafford" which is a line I believe they carry. I'd say start there. d0nnivain, your shoes must have been very pretty. I wish I could see them. BTW, is that a "zero" in your name?
ApexTitanium Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 First thing tomorrow....buy teal dress shirt. Step two....wear it. Step three.....profit. 1
GravityMan Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 They were just complimenting your outfit. Nothing more. Happens every day, all the time to lots of men who know how to dress decently and with a bit of panache and personality. Just take it in stride and don't read too much into it. Many people like to show their appreciation for things (including what someone else is wearing) that they like...news at 11. Especially things that they don't see very often and yet still look good, such as your teal-colored shirt. Just make eye-contact, smile and politely say thanks. Maybe do a bit of lighthearted small talk if you and her have time. And then if you were in the middle of doing something, resume whatever it is you were doing. 1
danmillar Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 It's really unfortunate that you did not make a move on any of these ladies and instead waited to ask about it online. Wear the shirt again and then at least get a few phone numbers, or set up a date. Also, how often are you approached generally speaking? I estimate I've probably been approached by a few thousand women at this point. I wasn't sure whether this should be in dating or coping. It doesn't fit in either, but coping seems too pathetic. Here it is: I went on a business trip today. A long one! I left the house at 7:30, flew from San Diego, Ca. to Portland Or., drove to Vancouver Wa. had a job interview and went back...same path. Fairly routine for a long day, but there was this one recurring theme all day, my shirt! I hate addressing posts to just ladies and I won't here, but I am especially interested in what the ladies have to say because it was 100% women who commented. I got comments on this shirt no less than six times today. All positive. I was wearing a gray suit, a teal shirt and a tie that is patterned but has teal colors in it. It matches. I have gotten complements on this shirt before, beginning with my wife and daughter who both said they love the color when they gave it to me for Christmas in...thinking 2010. While I worked at Home Depot, I was complemented on it by my female manager, female customers, female workmates. While working at the recent insurance company, I have been complemented on it by three random women who were not even my customers, they just saw me in it. Today, a woman sitting next to me on the flight out. A woman at the rental car place. A waitress at the bar at the airport on my way home. A woman at TSA checking my carry-ons. A woman who was on her way to the bathroom on the jet home as she passed by. A stewardess on the trip home, A woman on the courtesy ride to the parking lot on the way home. I bring this up because it's a little freaky and of course as a man, it gets my mind going. Is it that these woman simply find the color of my shirt so incredible beautiful (it is, it's teal. A beautiful color) or is it more than that? As a man, I'll say that if I walk up to a woman I don't know and complement her dress, it requires a few things. Mainly, a beautiful dress (duh) but she must look good in it. She must look approachable and the rest of her clothes must be in order. Do others feel this way? Ladies, please give me some insight because I am confused. I admit it's a nice shirt but I have washed it at least 20 times at home in a regular washer so the color is not as vibrant as it used to be. To me, it's a teal shirt. The suit is nice too, I bought it recently. Is it the combo? Does it say anything about me? Do you think they think I looked good overall, or is it possible that six completely individual and unknown ladies all just thought my three year old teal shirt is just that awesome? Honestly I kept looking at it all day and wondered WTF? It's nice. That's all it seems to me...a nice shirt. Thanks! Ken 1
elaine567 Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 I think when we are taken by surprise about just how good something looks we tend to compliment if we get the opportunity, or tell anyone else we are with, "Hey look at that, isn't that great?", we cannot help ourselves. I'm with Jen, we may appreciate some well put together outfit, and a well dressed man, but it doesn't necessarily mean we want to sleep with him... 1
Author kenmore Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 It's really unfortunate that you did not make a move on any of these ladies and instead waited to ask about it online. Wear the shirt again and then at least get a few phone numbers, or set up a date. Also, how often are you approached generally speaking? I estimate I've probably been approached by a few thousand women at this point. Getting to know most of them would have been pointless since many were in Oregon. I did the LDR thing once and won't do it again. Not unless I really fall for someone. In fact, I'm limiting myself to women who live within about a seven mile radius in the future. With others, it was just said in passing like the stewardess as I was getting off the plane or the lady on her way to the restroom. It didn't seem appropriate to stop her and begin a convo while keeping her from taking a leak. As for the frequency of being approached, it depends on what you mean. In situations like this, where a woman says something off the cuff, pretty frequently (maybe a couple times a week.) In a situation where a woman seems to truly want to get into a meaningful conversation, not so much. That usually falls on me. Since my life is in such a state of flux right now, I am not trying to get in a relationship anymore. I may have to re-locate for my new job. I need to get my financial state back into a decent place. Starting a new relationship seems like a folly right now. It's never a bad time for an ego boost though. 1
Author kenmore Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 I think when we are taken by surprise about just how good something looks we tend to compliment if we get the opportunity, or tell anyone else we are with, "Hey look at that, isn't that great?", we cannot help ourselves. I'm with Jen, we may appreciate some well put together outfit, and a well dressed man, but it doesn't necessarily mean we want to sleep with him... C'mon Elaine, you know you want to sleep with me! 1
Lois_Griffin Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 There was a man that used to work in my office and he looked like a gargoyle. I mean that sincerely. However, I complimented him often on his shirts because he had the most gorgeous wardrobe of shirts in the most vibrant colors - plum, pumpkin, coral, etc. etc. Trust me when I tell you, I was complimenting his shirts ONLY.
preraph Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Let this be a lesson to all you men out there who think it doesn't matter if you slob around in the same shirt and jeans all the time. Women appreciate efforts made to make yourself look better, because they do it every day. Nothing goes unnoticed. Most women I know are disgusted by the bland and repetitive way their men dress, as they put no effort or thought into it and are too insecure in their masculinity to wear anything except earthtones or black. Teal is not a magic color. Putting together an outfit tastefully with a good pop of color draws the eye to you and it gives a woman an excuse to compliment you without baldfaced lying to say she likes your outfit when she does not. I recommend all men go to a nice department store men's department and ask a clerk to help them choose an outfit with a pop of color and/or pattern. Women love it. 1
danmillar Posted July 26, 2015 Posted July 26, 2015 I disagree. It's not necessary to dress well in order to be approached and complimented and stared at by women. In fact, I sometimes find it makes it harder for women to relax and have a conversation if I'm dressed my best. They tend to just stare and freeze up instead. I find gym clothes to be very comfortable for running errands on evenings and weekends when I have some free time. It's not so much your clothes as it is your facial esthetics, and being in good shape overall which attracts women initially. 1
Author kenmore Posted July 26, 2015 Author Posted July 26, 2015 I can see that. While I look good in a nice suit, tie and shoes, I know I look more sexy (and approachable) when in a casual shirt with the top buttons undone. Women like to see the chest hair. It can be like cleavage is to us. Jeans can look nice, sweats...nah. Nice slacks are perfect on a date. Shorts are really only better if it's really hot, you're hiking (or other exercise) or at the beach. Around here, too many guys wear them everywhere (even out to dinner *Gak*) with the requisite flip-flops. For work though, I still think formal is best. It lends an air of professionalism. Ken
danmillar Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 What have you got to lose? If she is "only" giving you a compliment and doesn't want to take it any further, talking to her won't cost you anything and you are not exactly going out on a limb since she initiated. At the very least, you will gain some experience IRL instead of having to ask here to sort it out hypothetically. Work it out IRL, instead of making excuses. That's what this thread is about: it's about asking in a "safe" environment so you don't have to risk rejection. Today for example, I went to a festival. I had multiple groups of women sit next to me when I was eating. It was a relatively slow festival day with plenty of seating so I took it to mean that at least one woman in each group was interested. I also had a random woman chat me up in line for a food stand. And no, I didn't wear a teal shirt.
danmillar Posted July 27, 2015 Posted July 27, 2015 I can see that. While I look good in a nice suit, tie and shoes, I know I look more sexy (and approachable) when in a casual shirt with the top buttons undone. Women like to see the chest hair. It can be like cleavage is to us. Jeans can look nice, sweats...nah. Nice slacks are perfect on a date. Shorts are really only better if it's really hot, you're hiking (or other exercise) or at the beach. Around here, too many guys wear them everywhere (even out to dinner *Gak*) with the requisite flip-flops. For work though, I still think formal is best. It lends an air of professionalism. Ken I tend to elicit the opposite reaction: I am probably a little less approachable when I dress up. Women tend to gawk and stare, and men can get intimidated as well. I've experienced this over and over again. When I dress down and/or wear glasses, I am probably a little more approachable.
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