crazybestie101 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I shadow this doctor and i have met this guy who works there ( no, guy is not doctor). We met 3 weeks ago and from day 1 i have huge crush on me. We didn't talk for first week or so but would say "hello"and would have lot of eye contact. Since then we have been talking and it seems like he is trying to get to know me by asking me question about my life and he has given me detail about his life. He has always try to impress me. We have been staring, smiling and having lot of eye contact when around people. Fast forword to last week, i was asked to help him out. I don't know what happen but i got all excited and started talking to him nonstop while ignoring the fact that we were at work. At first it seemed like he liked answering my question but then at the one point he just lost it. In between all these, i have tried to escape situation but he kept holding me there by telling me he needs my help. When i was done helping and was about to leave he said " he can't get anything done". He was definately blaming me for him being distracted??? I realized i totally annoyed this guy, i was so embarrased later. I decided to change shift to avoid seeing him again but with amount of work load this place has i ended up seeing him again. I realized that this guy was so pissed at me that he has done all work for so he doesn't have to deal with me. When i ask him if he needs any help he became all annoyed and rude.. I just left the whole situation.. Now all you will be telling me that this kind of behavior is not acceptable at work and i accept my mistake. But i felt like his behavior was out of line and not at all okay. All i did was talking to a guy i was interested in after i received some response from his end but again i know it wasn't right time. What do you guys think of his behavior?? I can't just leave this place and i have decided to switch day/shifts to avoid him. Is it good move to cool down situation?? I don't want him to think like i am like some crazy chick. Also, i feel like i destroyed my chances with him.
mystikmind2005 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 Possibly you gave him the impression you are immature and irresponsible? True or not, sometimes people who work hard in their lives don't have patience for that kind of thing. Just give him space and work hard in your job, over time he may realize your not that type of person. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I shadow this doctor and i have met this guy who works there ( no, guy is not doctor). We met 3 weeks ago and from day 1 i have huge crush on me. We didn't talk for first week or so but would say "hello"and would have lot of eye contact. Since then we have been talking and it seems like he is trying to get to know me by asking me question about my life and he has given me detail about his life. He has always try to impress me. We have been staring, smiling and having lot of eye contact when around people. Fast forword to last week, i was asked to help him out. I don't know what happen but i got all excited and started talking to him nonstop while ignoring the fact that we were at work. At first it seemed like he liked answering my question but then at the one point he just lost it. In between all these, i have tried to escape situation but he kept holding me there by telling me he needs my help. When i was done helping and was about to leave he said " he can't get anything done". He was definately blaming me for him being distracted??? I realized i totally annoyed this guy, i was so embarrased later. I decided to change shift to avoid seeing him again but with amount of work load this place has i ended up seeing him again. I realized that this guy was so pissed at me that he has done all work for so he doesn't have to deal with me. When i ask him if he needs any help he became all annoyed and rude.. I just left the whole situation.. Now all you will be telling me that this kind of behavior is not acceptable at work and i accept my mistake. But i felt like his behavior was out of line and not at all okay. All i did was talking to a guy i was interested in after i received some response from his end but again i know it wasn't right time. What do you guys think of his behavior?? I can't just leave this place and i have decided to switch day/shifts to avoid him. Is it good move to cool down situation?? I don't want him to think like i am like some crazy chick. Also, i feel like i destroyed my chances with him. What do you mean by this? What did he say to you?
Author crazybestie101 Posted July 24, 2015 Author Posted July 24, 2015 What do you mean by this? What did he say to you? First let me clear something he is not doctor, he is one of staff member there. Back to your question: It seemed like he was enjoying answering my question with details but then i noticed that he wasn't able to focus. So i asked him if i can leave , he asked me to wait and said he needed my help with something else. While i was waiting for him to give me the work, he said " he can't get done anything".. Based on this statement, i thought he was indirectly telling me that i was distracting him.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 (edited) ]First let me clear something he is not doctor' date=' he is one of staff member there.[/b'] Back to your question: It seemed like he was enjoying answering my question with details but then i noticed that he wasn't able to focus. So i asked him if i can leave , he asked me to wait and said he needed my help with something else. While i was waiting for him to give me the work, he said " he can't get done anything".. Based on this statement, i thought he was indirectly telling me that i was distracting him. Yes, that was clear in your first post. Honestly speaking, I still don't see where he "lost it" anywhere. At most, it was a bit distracting. That's all. Has he said something else that you interpreted as rude or annoyed? I think you read too much into this one comment and over-thought it. I don't believe it was necessary for you to change shifts at all. Where is your confidence, girl? Edited July 24, 2015 by ExpatInItaly 2
Author crazybestie101 Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 Yes, that was clear in your first post. Honestly speaking, I still don't see where he "lost it" anywhere. At most, it was a bit distracting. That's all. Has he said something else that you interpreted as rude or annoyed? I think you read too much into this one comment and over-thought it. I don't believe it was necessary for you to change shifts at all. Where is your confidence, girl? He didn't say anything else that day. But i ended up seeing him again yesterday. When he came in he greeted me but then it seemed like he already did most of work so he doesn't have to deal with me. I asked someone else about it they said our other co worker has done my work. But i had feeling that it was done by him to avoid dealing with me. Then something come up and i ask him if he needs my help. He gave me that angry look and said no. That's when i knew something wasn't right. I was somewhat heartbroken that how this one incident lead to all this, i never thought our interaction will end up like this. May be i am over thinking but yeah i should just stay away from all this and focus in school.
IronZ Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 His behavior was definitely out of line. Whatever you might've done wrong could have been easily corrected with him just kindly asking you not to do that. He acted like a jackass if you ask me. 1
Meloetta Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 This is just a sign to focus on yourself. The better you become the more the right people flock to you. He was just some angry bird. Apologise and let him go. He's not worth your time. 1
Author crazybestie101 Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 His behavior was definitely out of line. Whatever you might've done wrong could have been easily corrected with him just kindly asking you not to do that. He acted like a jackass if you ask me. I felt same way. I am at point where i don't want to go to that place again. I am sure i will see him again, he will again treat me like this. But as i said i can't just leave this place because i am getting training while i am in med. school. Is it any way to deal with this situation?? I have already requested for change of shift..
IronZ Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 I felt same way. I am at point where i don't want to go to that place again. I am sure i will see him again, he will again treat me like this. But as i said i can't just leave this place because i am getting training while i am in med. school. Is it any way to deal with this situation?? I have already requested for change of shift.. Just be professional from now on. Do the work you have to and don't give it any more time and attention and effort than that. Be indifferent to him. 1
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