SammySammy Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 It's just another difference between the sexes. Most men consider women crazy whether they are married or not. The "craziness" is simply women tending to be more emotional in areas where we tend to be more rational. What most men are calling "crazy" is just women being ... women. Hot/Crazy Matrix
Maleficent Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 ^ That's an excellent point in all seriousness. There's a socially acceptable, pejorative categorization of "crazy" for women that's not defined by actual mental illness but instead by being offensive and inconvenient - termperamental, outspoken, opinionated, etc. The same thing doesn't seem to hold true for men bc they tend to be lauded for those traits, altho men have their own stereotypical and subjective discriminatory challenges like being thought of as "gay" if they don't have GFs, etc. To be fair, women accuse their exes of being *******s. Usually means the same as exgirlfriends being crazy... 1
MissBee Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 "If she's hot and single she's crazy" - I hate hearing this! I think it's complete BS. I am newly single and am far from crazy. Not saying I am "hot" but have been told so, and know I am not ugly by any means. Everyone has their own reasons for being single, I am sure some of them really are crazy... but I don't think it's a fair statement. What are your thoughts? If you're a man, do you think this statement is true? I've never heard this but off the bat it makes no sense. People make it seem like being single is a curse, a disease or plague and that if you are something must be "wrong," when that's rubbish. One can be single for lots of reasons, and more over, if you are "hot" or have high standards, even if you aren't hot, it makes sense that maybe the people you meet aren't people you're interested in. It and you're looking for something specific that you haven't found. I's not just about someone else choosing you but you choosing them as well. I could sort of understand this nonsense logic if it was based on period of singleness, where they said if she's been single for 5 years and hot she's crazy, it still wouldn't necessarily be sound logic but I could more so understand, but if you are single at all...without someone knowing how long, why, etc...to jump to you must be crazy why is rubbish. Not to mention, lots of actual crazy people who aren't even good looking are in relationships all the time so it makes no sense no matter how you look at it. 1
Omei Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 You know what I just recently went through something sort of like that, I was taking to a guy for two weeks and this week my daughter broke her arm so I said to this guy "I wont be free again till next monday" knowing id have to care for her till then, I didnt start going on with what happened to my daughter because he doesn't even know her and i met him once so far. So the next morning I wake up to a text about how im very beautiful but needing a week is a red flag and because of those facts he believes im not really single at all because how could I be, and that I must be playing a cheaters game and that hes saying goodbye. Guys can be their own worst enemy with this assumption, it turned me off I didnt wanna go back out again he was that fearful, ain't no body got time for that.
candie13 Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 Omei, you should have told him the truth... people need answers and if they do not get them, it is within their rights to leave those women and RSs. I am sorry it did not work out for you, but I sort of see what that guy was thinking. I had dated very very briefly a big womanizer and it scarred me for a long long time. So yes, if a guy that I would have dated immediately after went off radar with no explanation, I would have left too. I'm highly highly allergic to games and lies and not being told the truth... I may eliminate some good people along the way, but communication, openness are really high on my list. I'd rather it's them that get hurt than me, on the long run, sorry...
Leigh 87 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I'm hot and single. And I am a little crazy. But not in the sense I text 100 times a day. I wait for the guy to always text first. I mirror. But I just have a lot of issues. Crazy isn't always easy to quantify or to even detect....... deep seated issues that make you silently crazy are the killers....men can SENSE it...... I have been let down and rejected by every man I have ever fallen for. Repeatedly. It may not be a hardship, I love life and am not depressed. But multiple failed dating attempts time and time again does crush you and you definitely can come off as damaged goods without even doing something crazy. ......
Leigh 87 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 And may I add, I am not totally gorgeous or even an 8 or 9 out of 10. I am hot but only because of my age (28) and I am slim and have a nice smile. I am not ssmoking hot or the prettiest girl in the room. I am just a moderately hot woman who has plenty of men that think I'm hot yet the men who DO want to date me tend to be unattractive men. The men I feel the hots for are never interested in dating me. I am hot and single because I don't want to settle for mediocre or low chemistry. I am a little crazy but my exes all assure me that I don't act crazy; it's my internal struggles that are cause for concern but yeah. I am assured that I don't come off as crazy .... I've been told that only once they get to know me after a few dates do they sense that I've suffered massively at the hand of a holes.
carhill Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I was just answering another thread on alcohol and forming up the post caused me to reflect on crazy and the parameters.... We all, generally, have bad days now and again and sometimes get emotional, angry, sad, frustrated, whatever, but it passes and we work through it and mend fences as appropriate and move on and, in general, can form and maintain healthy relationships. The crazy I'm talking about are folks who have great difficulty maintaining a healthy relationship with anyone for a length of time, and not just romantic relationships. Yes, their hotness, if they possess universal attractiveness, affords them many opportunities because people like how they appear and gravitate to them so their dance card may be full but it changes from day to day and week to week because they go sideways and people disappear once getting to know the 'crazy'.
HereNorThere Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 You rarely ever meet a genuinely hot girl that's truly "single" but you do meet a few that aren't committed. Lol, they're the ones who have tons of guy "friends" that make great taxi drivers for them at the end of your date. However, there are a lot of beautiful people out there that are single for a myriad of reasons. Some truly want the freedom of being single, some got burned dating "bad" people, some tried dating too far out of their league, moved to a new place, etc. etc. etc. Some people didn't blossom until later in life and now they just want to bask in the attention for a while and that's okay as well. Judge people on their personality type and the way they treat others. You could run into that one unicorn of a girl that's smoking hot and genuinely nice, but simply dated the wrong person before you and got burned pretty hard. She's out there somewhere just wishing you'd come rescue her from her latest match.com fiasco. Sadly, you're more likely to run into narcissistic people who are alone because they pick out everyone's flaws and think they're better than everyone else, but they're also pretty easy to spot. Whether or not someone is single doesn't tell their whole story. You need to know why they're single if it's really by choice or chance.
Leigh 87 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I've dated my fair share of very attractive women, and unfortunately, yes, they were a bit crazy, to the point I had to dump them. That said, there are different types of crazy - crazy in the clinical sense and crazy in the sense that they don't mesh well with me - many were the latter - the reason that they were very attractive, is because they focused so heavily on their appearance...every conversation was about clothing, make-up, "do I look fat" - all stuff I don't care about. Those conversations generally spoke toward her mindset, which just didn't mesh well with me. Sure, you can get the super attractive people that don't act like that, but they're going to be a whole lot harder to find, as if they're super attractive and are easy and fun to deal with/get along with, why would someone get rid of them? Basically, you only have one party that will realistically do the dumping, as opposed to a 50-50 split between who would do the dumping between the two parties... So no, not hot girls are not intrinsically crazy, but they frequently have strong interests in categories that few guys have any real interest in... I think I am hot (although not smoking hot or gorgeous) and I don't talk about clothes or make up to men. I have great and varied conversations about a myriad of issues in the world. Not all pretty /slim girls carry on about garbage. ........ my exes say that they miss the fun banter and cool topics of conversation they shared with me... They also seemed to be very attracted to me as well so...... I am just assuming I don't click easily with men and I don't easily make men fall for me?
TouchedByViolet Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I have never met a girl who is hot, sane and been involuntarily single for a long time... Ever. Sure some women are single for brief moments but never any substantial amount of time. Even the semi crazy ones are in a relationship with a married man or some unavailable guy. It's your typical train wreck.
Leigh 87 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I have never met a girl who is hot, sane and been involuntarily single for a long time... Ever. Sure some women are single for brief moments but never any substantial amount of time. Even the semi crazy ones are in a relationship with a married man or some unavailable guy. It's your typical train wreck. I've been single for nearly a year but I date regularly. And I only date men who I share the instant mutual chemistry and sparks with is a good reason why I have not found a relationship in nearly a year. I've had offers for a relationship but I declined because I didn't want to rip their clothes off and they weren't the men who's texts I super looked forward to. I would just rather be single than date a man I am not crazy about. And before I am criticized for having too high standards. ..I have felt electric chemistry with dudes who were aaverage. I've only ever felt the fireworks with one hot guy. I don't act crazy to men. I am hot. And I choose to be single because I feel I can do Etter than a 7/10 Chemistry. I can find an average dude who sparks will fly with AND I am compatible with one day. There are few truly gorgeous girls who are sane and single. I am not a super gorgeous girl though. I am hot though. And voluntarily single due to not wanting to settle for the men of am lukewarm about who all offer me relationships.
ChicagoSparty Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 If it makes you feel any better, it's also true that if they're hot and in a relationship, they're crazy. And if they're OK looking and single, they're crazy. And if they're ok looking and in a relationship, they're crazy. And if they're not really very good looking and single, they're crazy. And....well, I think you see where I'm going with this. 3
Phoe Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I have never met a girl who is hot, sane and been involuntarily single for a long time... Ever. Sure some women are single for brief moments but never any substantial amount of time. Even the semi crazy ones are in a relationship with a married man or some unavailable guy. It's your typical train wreck. I am sane, and was involuntarily single for 6 years. I wouldn't say I'm hot, but I would say I'm decent looking. So I at least got 2 out of 3 there. And by single I mean literally not dating, seeing, or hooking up with ANYONE. Truly 100% single by every meaning of the word. I'm just a normal person who was single. That's not a particularly oddball thing!
guest569 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I've never heard this phrase being used, but i don't understand why single is a bad thing! Now more than ever, people can survive very independently. Had the day off work and saw all the parents etc around the mall with their children, i see lovey couples around me, it's just not for me right now. Thanks but maybe later. And maybe not. (Oh, for the record, I'm ugly, single and definitely crazy, but that is beside the point)
gaius Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 Oh they're out there. Usually more introverted though. They often don't even have a Facebook or spend a whole lot of time genuinely schmoozing with people. You just have to look harder to find them. 1
guest569 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 Omei, you should have told him the truth... people need answers and if they do not get them, it is within their rights to leave those women and RSs. I am sorry it did not work out for you, but I sort of see what that guy was thinking. I had dated very very briefly a big womanizer and it scarred me for a long long time. So yes, if a guy that I would have dated immediately after went off radar with no explanation, I would have left too. I'm highly highly allergic to games and lies and not being told the truth... I may eliminate some good people along the way, but communication, openness are really high on my list. I'd rather it's them that get hurt than me, on the long run, sorry... Nah, the guy omei was dating would be the one with the red flag in my opinion. You cant cope for a week between the first and second date? She told him she's not free for a week, so why didn't he just schedule something for the monday? There is insecurity, then downright paranoia. 2
hotpotato Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 I think I am hot (although not smoking hot or gorgeous) and I don't talk about clothes or make up to men. I have great and varied conversations about a myriad of issues in the world. Not all pretty /slim girls carry on about garbage. ........ my exes say that they miss the fun banter and cool topics of conversation they shared with me... They also seemed to be very attracted to me as well so...... I am just assuming I don't click easily with men and I don't easily make men fall for me? Thats how i feel. I also feel like i dont have that feminine essence either. Im also not as talkative unless its my fav subject. This can throw guys for a loop. Ive been called gorgeous even by other women. Ive been single for like 2 years. Im also too preoccupied to date right now. Ive talked about all kinds of things. I usually dont gossip. Ive never asked a man if i looked fat or anything like that. I would never do that bc i wouldnt want an honest answer lol.
candie13 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 Nah, the guy omei was dating would be the one with the red flag in my opinion. You cant cope for a week between the first and second date? She told him she's not free for a week, so why didn't he just schedule something for the monday? There is insecurity, then downright paranoia. she didn't say that it was between the first and the second date - in her post she only said they were dating... I think... between the 1 and the 2nd date you're not even dating, you're meeting up at best, IMO.
guest569 Posted July 24, 2015 Posted July 24, 2015 she didn't say that it was between the first and the second date - in her post she only said they were dating... I think... between the 1 and the 2nd date you're not even dating, you're meeting up at best, IMO. You know what I just recently went through something sort of like that, I was taking to a guy for two weeks ... I didnt start going on with what happened to my daughter because he doesn't even know her and i met him once so far. Here it is, i presumed that meant a date which is why I think his reaction was a bit off.
Author LivingDeadGrl Posted July 24, 2015 Author Posted July 24, 2015 I think it's true everyone has a little bit of crazy in them. I don't consider myself crazy at all but I know I have issues from this relationship I am currently on my way out of. Do I plan on dating anytime soon? No. I am going to take some time and heal and deal with my issues. A lot of people don't take any time though, they just go from one to the next, carrying the baggage from their past relationships into the new one. This is crazy to me. I can see how a hot single woman carrying her issues into every relationship would be considered as such. Maybe it does have some substance to it then
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