She dumped me for her classmate of two years in same college.

[WallaceNG]

I'm glad that I found this forum(even thou I'm from Hong Kong). It helps me a lot, I can vent my feelings and seek for advices here.

 

If u wanna know more about my story, u can check it from my previous post

 

So....my ex dumped me for another guy, hes one of her classmate of two years, they were in the same team for several projects.

 

We met at high school.We had a four years relationship, the first year it's was bad because I was abusive towards her past. She broke up with me. After I promised and changed myself, she came back to me.

 

The next three years I started to treat her like a queen and gave her all of my money. These were 100% my own will. And she lived in my home like two years.

 

Now, we've been in NC about two months. At the 1.5 months I was trying to got her back, but didn't work. So I gave up and move on. Honestly, I still think about her a lot. But I've stopped stalking her facebook and instagram anymore. Because each time I saw a new photo of her and her new boyfriend together, it hurt me a lot.

 

So...she broke up with me in 13 May. I did begged and cried to her parents in the phone. She said she has no feelings about me anymore and was thinking about breakup about six months.

 

BTW I looked back, around a month before the breakup she acted more and more distant, always doing projects with her classmates or do stuff for her mum and hangout and stuff. She also gave some redflags like talk about the classmate few times, and love is all about feelings and exes can never be friends something like that.

 

So ended up she broke up with me through text, I think she didn't even got the balls to tell me face to face or don't want me to have a second chance. Two days after the break up, I can't control myself I stalked her instagram and found out that she started a relationship with the guy so I was pissed and said really insulting stuff through phone and facebook. She also said before the breakup , the guy and herself never did something that consider as "behind my back", u know what I mean. And said they start dating two days after our breakup.

 

But deep down you know what, I know she was already emotional attach to the guy and decided to take it to te next level.

 

I know the interest level in a relationship decrease over time. IDK whether she will find me again. Once she did IDK what to do anyway.

 

Okay maybe I'm being for flirting other girls on facebook and never admitted to these and even talked back but I swear to god I've never cheated once on her. Why I deserve all this??

 

She like beauty. She usually buy clothes and accessories when we date, not the expensive one. She looks pretty and has a nice body and let's me it too. But that doesn't matter anymore, she's the one who only want someone who provide care and love for her. But she not that care about me in our relationship.

 

For example, if she got sick, if I did something wrong like laughing at her while she pukes, she will say I'm a jerk and don't know how to treat a girlfriend, but when I'm sick she seems like don't care or little care at all.

 

What do u guys think?

[pidgeon1010]

It's over. She has a new boyfriend and you should try to move on with your life. It's natural that you would think about everything that happened in the relationship and what either of you could have done differently. The thing is, it doesn't help anything at this point. The only thing it does it makes you "stuck" and prevents you from getting a handle on reality and trying to move on as best as you can.

 

Breakups suck, but it is up to you to decide if you will let it consume you indefinitely or if you want to make a conscious decision/effort to move on. I went through my own breakup in April and wallowed in self pity for a a couple of months. It finally hit me one day that I wanted the old me back so I went NC and have been doing better ever since. You can do it!