bene Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 Looking back to my late teens and 20s, I find some things quite ridiculous that I put up with. I don't really have any deep regrets but sometimes I just wonder, what the hell was I thinking? So, what life experience would you want to share with a younger you? Not that you would listen because as they say - youth is wasted on the young Some of the things I have figured: - You show people how you want to be treated. You won't earn anyone's love or respect by not respecting your own boundaries. - If you constantly have to find excuses to other people's behavior and rationalize it to yourself or your friends or family, maybe they are not all that great after all. - Watch out for guys who are „complicated“. If you have to accommodate them without them accommodating you, maybe they are not that mysterious after all but it's just another rationalization of bad behavior. - When people tell or show you who they are, believe them (not my own quote of course). If a guy is already saying, that he doesn't want anything serious, it's better to take them at their word. People will not magically change just because they are struck by how wonderful you are. - If you feel that you will never ever find anyone, you actually will. (I hope the list isn't overly negative and the examples are about guys just because I am a woman myself, not that all men are pigs;))
empresario Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 I think dwelling on what you wish you were is very unhealthy (it's much more productive to worry about how you can change your future). But, the one thing I would tell my younger self: Yes, you are weird/eccentric. No, it's not other people's problem for thinking it. If you want to actually get the things you desire you're going to have to put forth effort. Learn to not be a spaz. Get in shape. Focus on your goals instead of playing video games. Please do so before you're 23 and you will be way happier and have a much higher confidence level. Trust me on that one. Oh, also you will be 6'2'' someday and look like an adult, it just won't happen until your mid 20s. But hang in there.
smackie9 Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 Don't smoke. Save. Value yourself more. This sums it up^^^^^
highseas Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 I think I would tell my younger self to take a chance and be more bold about approaching women. I was shy; I still am. Sometimes I do a similar exercise: a much older future me (in my 70s, 80s) looking "back" to what I would have done when I was in my 20s and 30s. Sometimes I think about this and it motivates me to take a chance because I don't want to be alone when I'm in my 70s, or at least if I'm alone, at least I tried and hopefully have some fond memories to cherish.
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