Apaige Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 HELP!! I'm not sure how long I can do this. Of course, it's easier since he hasn't even tried to call or text me. I can't believe at my age (40) this is so difficult...I really hate everything about dating!! Can anyone share their stories or distraction strategies with me. Not sure I'm going to be able to not reach out to him!! So sad, and heart broken : ( 1
ThisisIt606 Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 Are there any other circumstances to this- is he traveling or extra busy with projects at work? If you haven't had any contact for 2 days I don't see any problem with you reaching out asking something like Hey, how was your day? and saying something interesting that you did.
preraph Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 The main thing is to just keep yourself scheduled and busy. And do as many fun things as you can without bringing him up at all in the conversation to create new non-him memories and to put a stopping point for having your associations remind you of him. Do fun things with and without other people. When you find yourself getting reminded, make yourself think of two bad things about him for every good thing instead of mourning over the part you miss. It's self-discipline. Only you can determine to just stop letting those thoughts overwhelm you. Good luck. 3
Satu Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 This is an affirmation which I created for myself: "It is my will alone, that sets my mind in motion." Take care. 1
Amalyn Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 Stay busy. Be around people that can help you keep your mind off of the situation. This is the best thing you can do.
nouedis Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 Honestly I never knew how hard it would be dating someone in the long run.
yellowhibiscus Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 I think we need a little bit more to go on....how long have you been dating? If you just started dating, not hearing from someone for 2 days is not a big deal. If you have been together for a year, then I would be worried.
Gaeta Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 It takes a man to take your mind off of another one. Multi-date. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 I've read some of your other threads about your current relationship, OP. But I'm not clear: have you two broken up? Or has he just gone off the radar for the past two days? It sounds like there have been some problems with this before, come summertime. I'm just a bit confused about the current status of your relationship.
Redhead14 Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 HELP!! I'm not sure how long I can do this. Of course, it's easier since he hasn't even tried to call or text me. I can't believe at my age (40) this is so difficult...I really hate everything about dating!! Can anyone share their stories or distraction strategies with me. Not sure I'm going to be able to not reach out to him!! So sad, and heart broken : ( Stick with it Apaige. It's the only way to manage the situation. Just get out there and see friends, go clothes shopping, clean closets, catch up on things you've let slide. It'll feel good just to get stuff that may have been hanging over you off of your place. Focus that anxiety and energy into something that is all about you. If you doing things for you that make give you satisfaction, you won't be giving him the satisfaction of thinking maybe you are putting yourself on hold for him (although I doubt he's really thinking like that). Take this time to be good to yourself.
Author Apaige Posted July 23, 2015 Author Posted July 23, 2015 I've read some of your other threads about your current relationship, OP. But I'm not clear: have you two broken up? Or has he just gone off the radar for the past two days? It sounds like there have been some problems with this before, come summertime. I'm just a bit confused about the current status of your relationship. Yep off the radar...We didn't technically break up. We last spoke on Monday night, we discussed our issues and progression was the trigger. I started looking at houses in town, and he was "feeling left out" and took that as me not looking at my future with the intentions of him being in it. I did see him in my future, just don't know exactly where...at any rate, I haven't talked to him since.
Author Apaige Posted July 23, 2015 Author Posted July 23, 2015 I think we need a little bit more to go on....how long have you been dating? If you just started dating, not hearing from someone for 2 days is not a big deal. If you have been together for a year, then I would be worried. We have been together for almost 2 years.
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