blueeyedblondie Posted July 22, 2015 Posted July 22, 2015 I went to a kick back, and my friend got blackout drunk. He decided that it would be a good idea to ask me out, even though he knows how I feel about relationships. He said it was ok that I said no, but then he flipped out soon after. Something happened between his best friend and I about a month or two ago, it wasn't anything major. But his friend keeps bringing it up to torture him. He said he was over it and doesn't care anymore, but I know he does. Anyways, he kept drinking and only got worse. He kept saying that his friends told him that I said he was a piece of ****, even though I would never say that about him. I love him to death, he's been there for me through a lot of ****. He wouldn't listen to me or his other friend, who is a girl and was trying to calm him down. He just kept repeating himself, and I know it's because he was drinking a lot. He would ask to talk to me, we would calmly talk, and then he would flip out again. It got to the point where I refused to talk to him because I couldn't stand seeing him flip out. It was a mixture of anger and sadness, and I knew he was hurting. He tried to grab a knife and lock himself in a room, luckily a couple of the guys there got the door open before he could lock it. But I was scared for him, I feel like it's my fault he flipped out, and I know it probably is. I never cry and I actually started balling my eyes out. I refused to leave until I knew he was ok. Anyways, he has no memory of what exactly went down. I don't know if I should tell him because I really want to talk to him about it, but I don't want him feeling bad, or flipping out while I'm not there to at least try and calm him down. I said no to him for a couple of reasons. One being that my past makes me really hesitant to start anything. If I was going to date someone it would be someone else, not him. After what happened I think he needs a little growing up to do, he for sure needs to stop drinking. How do I tell him that it would be best if we stayed friends without hurting him more?
La.Primavera Posted July 22, 2015 Posted July 22, 2015 Honestly, I think you should stay out of it. You are just the catalyst in this situation. When alcohol is involved it only makes matters worse. The more involved you are, the more confused he will get. I know it may be difficult to stay away but it is the best thing to do for everyone involved. All the best.
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