LeslieKnope Posted July 22, 2015 Posted July 22, 2015 So...I've maintained NC with my ex now for over two weeks. He has previously tried contacting me via text and tried again today (I have not responded). He wanted to let me know that he and his mom we're going to the Dominican on Saturday. Usually I wouldn't be phased by something so trivial except before we broke up we had talked about going to the Dominican. So because he possibly lacks a sensitivity chip, I feel like I just got punched in the stomach. I won't respond, but now I'm considering blocking him all together so that I never feel hurt because of him again. I really didn't want to go that harsh and was working fine with simply not communicating with him or seeking him out. I know it's seemingly small, but it hit me hard this afternoon. *sigh* Two steps forward, one step back.
SycamoreCircle Posted July 22, 2015 Posted July 22, 2015 Expect more of this cyclical pain. That's how traumatic pain works itself out of you. After much time and distance the wash of pain is less pronounced, less disruptive. Block or don't block him, it's your choice. What is not your choice is to remain NC. NC and time are your greatest allies.
15Love Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 I'm very impressed with your strength in maintaining NC! Way to go! It does sound like he has a sensitivity chip missing...or he's trying to make you feel something...either way, blocking him would probably be the best insurance that he can't get to you. Stay strong! 1
mrldii Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 OP, I disagree with your assertion that he's missing a "sensitivity chip"; on the contrary, his sensitivity chip seems to be working in overdrive. He's bothered that you've been able to maintain NC so well for 2 weeks now, so he's upped the ante to *better* tempt you to fail, thus starting the cycle all over again. Stay strong. Get stronger knowing - and accomplishing - that his latest manipulation didn't work. 1
RoseVille Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 My ex took his now-wife to Tahiti for their honeymoon. He never cared to go there, it was MY dream spot! I felt punched in the gut, too. If you can block him entirely, I would.
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