Text him good luck for big day?

[ThisisIt606]

I've been seeing this guy for 1.5 months. We met through a dating app and hang out 2 times per week. We have been intimate and he has asked for the majority of dates.

 

He has an out of state presentation coming up for a large group of people (hundreds expected to show). I recall him telling me he was going to leave Wednesday night to drive to the city and would present on Thursday.

 

 

However I googled the talk and I found something by his company at the time he said he was presenting however the website says it's on Wednesday not Thursday like he said it was ( i think it may actually be wednesday and he just got his dates mixed up when he told me a week in advance).

 

I saw him last on Saturday for a date, i ended up sleeping over and he drove me home sunday. He texted me sunday evening asking how the rest of my day was.

 

On Monday evening I initiated texting. We talked for a bit then he told me he had to pack for his trip/presentation.

 

Tuesday= no texts.

 

Should I text tomorrow AM to wish him good luck-something like, "you'll do great!" before his presentation?

 

^ Why I hesitate, is bc I believe he told me it was Thursday and he was leaving wednesday, he may have forgotten this or be confused why I know he's presenting Wednesday.

 

also, my friend said I sound like a mom telling him good luck/you'll do great and I don't want to fill that role as we aren't even an official gf/bf.

 

 

So should I:

 

1) not text him anything and just wait to see if he texts me

 

2) text "have a great presentation, you'll do great :)" or something similar?

 

OR

 

3) we have an inside joke about blimps so I was thinking about googling a pic of one and editing it to write "you got this!" on the blimp and sending him that text before the presentation.

 

best course of action?

[RoseVille]

Holy over-analysis here!

 

Just wish him good luck, who cares if it's a day early? He'll appreciate it either way!

[SummerSkies]

I agree, this is over-analyzing for sure. Relax, just text him and wish him a good presentation.

[Versacehottie]

who cares if it's a day LATE!! It doesn't matter if you go on last info he told you. Then he can tell you how it went and you won't look like the girl who's over-invested to the point that she's looking up the date of his presentation on the internet. I would err on last info he told you. Let him inform you that it was the day before and he made a mistake in the date you told him. Or don't contact and let him contact you and then ask how it went.

[ThisisIt606]

It make also be worth noting that when we texted Monday I things like you can do it! And sent a few motivational funny animal pics ( we both like animals and send cute pics to eachother sometimes)

 

He thanked me for them and said he would refer to them as needed while laughing.

 

 

So technically I did already get in my well wishes text for the presentation. I think the best course of action is to just wait and hear from him? Then ask how things went.

[xcupid]

It make also be worth noting that when we texted Monday I things like you can do it! And sent a few motivational funny animal pics ( we both like animals and send cute pics to eachother sometimes)

 

He thanked me for them and said he would refer to them as needed while laughing.

 

 

So technically I did already get in my well wishes text for the presentation. I think the best course of action is to just wait and hear from him? Then ask how things went.

 

 

I agree. You've done what you planned to do only in a different way. Don't overdo it. And don't overthink this.

[d0nnivain]

To my way of thinking, wishing somebody well as they do a big thing in their life can't be bad.

 

Your outside investigation is what's making you nutty about this. Just wish him well.

 

Is this the same guy that just had surgery? If so he can use all the positive energy he can get, don't you think?

[ThisisIt606]

This is also the surgery guy, only he didn't have surgery yet it's coming in a few weeks.

 

I ended up not texting and just letting my Monday well wishes and encouraging pics be. He texted me today after his presentation.

 

Him: Made it through my presentation without throwing up. Going to count that as win

 

mE:Haha excellent! I'm sure it went very well. Must feel good to have it over with too. Were you happy with how it went?

 

He said he thought it went well and even worked in a word that we have an inside joke about. He said it made him chuckle to himself as soon as he said it while presenting.

 

I told him he should incorporate a new word each time and I vote for ... ( another inside joke word we have)

 

He laughed and said he definitely would.

 

I asked if he could Hang out in the city or if he was driving back tonight.

 

He said he ended up taking the train and was out for drinks with some coworkers now.

 

I told him it must be nice not having to drive and I enjoy the train ride between the cities.

 

He said he usually does but after such a long day and the train ride being at night he wasn't as into the ride as he normally would be.

 

I told him he could at least catch up on his zzz to which he replied that's the plan.

 

 

Then convo ended. Idk if I'm freakkng out over nothing but should he have asked me to hang out? He comes back early tomorrow. I have a hectic week coming up with commitments after work next mon- wed. He vaguely knows of this but not sure if knows just how packed my nights are.

 

I also have plans for my hobby Sunday afternoon that he doesn't know about.

 

Should I text him while he's on the train tonight? He said he was going to sleep and I don't want to disturb him but I want him to know I'm thinking about him.

 

Should I ask him to hang out this weekend? I'd really like to see him or should I wait for him to ask me?

[d0nnivain]

Let him sleep. Tomorrow, call & make weekend plans.

 

Stop freaking out. Better you should freak out here then let him sense your unease. Everything really is fine. Calm down.

[Versacehottie]

I agree with most of what donivan says. Stop freaking out. You waited and guess what he contacted you and wanted to share his success and inside jokes with you. That's all good. Enjoy it. Have confidence that things will progress in right time. Stop trying to rush it or overthink or overinvest. Better to do that here or your impatience will blow it.

 

You sounded cool in the text interaction. Stay cool. He's basking in success of the day, spending time with his friends and took time to share it with you. I don't think he's thought about tomorrow yet nor the next several days. Don't worry about your schedule vs his and availability and such. Just let it happen. What is meant to be will be. If he tries to get you when you are not free, he will value your time more when he can get it and be more inquisitive about your schedule next time. Don't be so controlling. At this point he's in driver's seat , let him do it. Sounds like he likes you quite a bit.

[wb1988]

Your relationship must be pretty good for your biggest problem to be so small.

[Redhead14]

I agree with most of what donivan says. Stop freaking out. You waited and guess what he contacted you and wanted to share his success and inside jokes with you. That's all good. Enjoy it. Have confidence that things will progress in right time. Stop trying to rush it or overthink or overinvest. Better to do that here or your impatience will blow it.

 

You sounded cool in the text interaction. Stay cool. He's basking in success of the day, spending time with his friends and took time to share it with you. I don't think he's thought about tomorrow yet nor the next several days. Don't worry about your schedule vs his and availability and such. Just let it happen. What is meant to be will be. If he tries to get you when you are not free, he will value your time more when he can get it and be more inquisitive about your schedule next time. Don't be so controlling. At this point he's in driver's seat , let him do it. Sounds like he likes you quite a bit.

 

Yes, it's early in this scenario. Let him continue to drive. Let him do most of the initiating for a while yet. You wanted to send that text because you didn't hear from him on Tuesday, not because you wanted to wish him well. That's more about a little bit of insecurity. And, waiting actually paid off, he did contact you first. Be receptive and responsive for a while.