daizy Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 I met this guy over a year ago and the attraction didn't start until a few months after we met when we were on a group date and we almost hooked up. He wanted to go out with me again after but I wasn't very interested so I said no. All I really knew about him was that he went out to clubs often and that wasn't really my thing and I stereotyped him. Fast forward to a couple months ago we went on a trip with the same group of friends, he was in a unhappy relationship that was about to end, and we still had that physical attraction there which we embraced. It ended up turning into something way more than I expected, I didn't think we would connect but we had a lot in common and so much chemistry. I realized there was more to him than just his party life style and that he's actually a very hard working person who's earned his life. Every time we see each other we fall more and more. He treats me very well, with respect, he's kind and means well. There's just a few things that have me on edge... 1. Same yet different lifestyles. The difference being that he's surrounded by friends who love the night life and spend thousands on bottle services and all these owners of the venues know him very well. He's 36, and still into that stuff. For me it's not a big problem as of now since I'm only in my early 20s.. but I've really fallen for him, so I'm taking him seriously and looking into the future and this part of him just kind of freaks me out. At what age has someone had enough of that lifestyle? I love to go out and have a good time once in a while but I wouldn't say that clubs are my thing. I just associate that lifestyle with certain behaviours and mind sets. And since he's established and doing well in life, I imagine girls being all over him, which he tells me he rejects them all the time. 2. Trust issues. The way we met. He was in a relationship that he was unhappy in. We've talked a lot about this already. I told him how it was wrong, and he shouldn't think it's okay to cheat if he thinks the relationship is going downhill/is doomed. And he's told me he wouldn't do that to me blah blah blah but you know, how much can I really believe that right? Number 1 is the only one I haven't talked to him about yet. Because I know that one would be changing him. He told me before that he tones that lifestyle down when he's in relationships but hes going to be moving downtown in a couple months where he will be practically living right next door to his favourite venues and clubs. I'm a really laid back/chill kind of person but I don't want my chill factor to make me feel uncomfortable about how he chooses to live his downtime. He's always concerned about making me feel comfortable and happy so all I have to do is bring it up but I don't know how to say it without sounding like I'm telling him what to do and feeling insecure about it. Help?
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