brokenangel99 Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 So, I met my ex two days ago, we hang out and talk like we used to. And we start to discuss what went wrong in our relationship and had some understanding. She asked me if I seeing someone and I told her that I pretty much close with a girl and she's jealous knowing that. A day later I saw her with her new bf who she cheated on me with at the mall and I got my heart broken all ober again. I thought I was getting better and moved on but kinda back to square 1. I text her that I saw her and said I was happy to see her being happy with her bf which suprisingly I am. I wish her good luck and said that its better if we both move on and not to see each other again. She's crying after I told her that. She doesn't want me to eliminate her from my life. And she send me long email that said how much she still in love with me and hurting that I'm seeing other girl. But she can't do anything because she wants to stick on with what she decided. She is a type of person who would face the consequances of things that she has chosen in her life eventho it hurt her. And she can't leave her bf because its her choise from the very beginning. Her bf text me that he can't stand between me and her and ask me what I wanted. I don't reply his text because he is not my concern at all. I dunno if should just give up. We still love each other very much but she is very stubborn about her choices. Now the three of us hurting, me, her, and her new bf. What should I do ??? Any thought of my situation would be appreciate. Thankyou.
StrangerThanFiction Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 This situation is incredibly messy. I'm sorry to say, but if she loved you so much she would be with YOU and not the guy she cheated on you with regardless of "stubbornness". I think her decision to stay with him speaks very clearly on who she wants to be with. She doesn't want you not being in her life because she is enjoying having two guys chasing after her. It's a game. Her telling you she is still in love with you even while she's with another guy is so selfish it makes me want to spit. Not only is she stringing you along with breadcrumbs and emotional manipulation, her saying that to you is a total douche move to her bf. Also remember, she cheated on you. And now she's telling another guy(you) that she loves him while she's in a relationship(the guy she cheated on you with). Do you really want to be with someone who flips back and forth like that so much? How could you ever trust her? Me personally, I'd want to be with someone who knew they wanted to be with ME. 1
quattrob Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Sorry but everytime i see people saying how much they love each other but somehow they cant be together because one of them doesnt want to, this makes me shake my head and laugh at the same time. THAT is not love at least not the love that you're thinking of. Ask yourself would you choose to hurt someone you LOVE so much?? NO you wouldnt so in your case this isn't love. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 So, I met my ex two days ago, we hang out and talk like we used to. And we start to discuss what went wrong in our relationship and had some understanding. She asked me if I seeing someone and I told her that I pretty much close with a girl and she's jealous knowing that. A day later I saw her with her new bf who she cheated on me with at the mall and I got my heart broken all ober again. I thought I was getting better and moved on but kinda back to square 1. I text her that I saw her and said I was happy to see her being happy with her bf which suprisingly I am. I wish her good luck and said that its better if we both move on and not to see each other again. She's crying after I told her that. She doesn't want me to eliminate her from my life. And she send me long email that said how much she still in love with me and hurting that I'm seeing other girl. But she can't do anything because she wants to stick on with what she decided. She is a type of person who would face the consequances of things that she has chosen in her life eventho it hurt her. And she can't leave her bf because its her choise from the very beginning. Her bf text me that he can't stand between me and her and ask me what I wanted. I don't reply his text because he is not my concern at all. I dunno if should just give up. We still love each other very much but she is very stubborn about her choices. Now the three of us hurting, me, her, and her new bf. What should I do ??? Any thought of my situation would be appreciate. Thankyou. If you're hanging out at the mall you can't be much older than 17.....
Author brokenangel99 Posted July 21, 2015 Author Posted July 21, 2015 If you're hanging out at the mall you can't be much older than 17..... What's wrong with hanging out at the mall? I was shoping for my home furniture. And in my country it was the place to buy things. I'm not a teenager.
Author brokenangel99 Posted July 21, 2015 Author Posted July 21, 2015 This situation is incredibly messy. I'm sorry to say, but if she loved you so much she would be with YOU and not the guy she cheated on you with regardless of "stubbornness". I think her decision to stay with him speaks very clearly on who she wants to be with. She doesn't want you not being in her life because she is enjoying having two guys chasing after her. It's a game. Her telling you she is still in love with you even while she's with another guy is so selfish it makes me want to spit. Not only is she stringing you along with breadcrumbs and emotional manipulation, her saying that to you is a total douche move to her bf. Also remember, she cheated on you. And now she's telling another guy(you) that she loves him while she's in a relationship(the guy she cheated on you with). Do you really want to be with someone who flips back and forth like that so much? How could you ever trust her? Me personally, I'd want to be with someone who knew they wanted to be with ME. Thabkyou for your input. Yea, that's why I decided to just stay away and cut all contact now. I'm sick/tired of this situation. She's so immature yet she is 30. I told her whatever she's doing just stop messing with my head. That made her upset and cried. And I hate to see her cry.
DKT3 Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Classic backburner stuff here buddy. Keeping you emotionally involved while she sleeps with the new guy and tests if its a relationship with staying power. Cut her off. 1
Author brokenangel99 Posted July 21, 2015 Author Posted July 21, 2015 Sorry but everytime i see people saying how much they love each other but somehow they cant be together because one of them doesnt want to, this makes me shake my head and laugh at the same time. THAT is not love at least not the love that you're thinking of. Ask yourself would you choose to hurt someone you LOVE so much?? NO you wouldnt so in your case this isn't love. I know. Maybe I'm holding on to hope that's why. I was sad and pissed at the same time questioning if she's just playing game or being genuine. Its hard to tell when ur facing a girl that sit infront of u with tears. I keep telling myself that I'm done with this and I should move on, but I can't just get her out of my head.
goldway90 Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 "she cheated on me with" There you go, it doesn't matter if she still loves you, she cheated. I mean i can say i love you ( no homo ) it's just words over here. Bottom line you need actions no just words. If you ask me enjoy your time with this new girl and cut your ex from your life. Stop making excuses for her like she's stubborn and stuff like that, don't fall into the trap of becoming the second choice just because she said she loves you. 1
quattrob Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 I know. Maybe I'm holding on to hope that's why. I was sad and pissed at the same time questioning if she's just playing game or being genuine. Its hard to tell when ur facing a girl that sit infront of u with tears. I keep telling myself that I'm done with this and I should move on, but I can't just get her out of my head. Like others have said she CHOSE this and it doesn't matter if she's stubborn or prideful in her choices. This is something ONLY SHE can choose or change. Nothing you do will ever convince her to change the way she is. If she chooses to be with her current bf out of stubbornness that is her decision and that is a lesson and life she has to live with. I know you still have a soft part for her in your heart but her crying has little to do with you, she's thinking about herself and being selfish. She wants everything and that includes you in her life even tho she can't provide you with what you desire. I repeat she is only thinking about herself and not you. If she cared about your feelings she would let you go and not hurt you by giving obviously false hope. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 What's wrong with hanging out at the mall? I was shoping for my home furniture. And in my country it was the place to buy things. I'm not a teenager. Where did I say there was something wrong with it? I'm just trying to ascertain your ages, because frankly, this is the kind of stuff teenagers get hung up about.... But now you mention she's 30, you're right. She DOES sound very immature. But don't play up to it. Ignore, go NC and live your life. Everyone has hit the nail on the head. She's yanking your chain.... If she really wanted to be a part of your life - she would be. 1
Author brokenangel99 Posted July 21, 2015 Author Posted July 21, 2015 Like others have said she CHOSE this and it doesn't matter if she's stubborn or prideful in her choices. This is something ONLY SHE can choose or change. Nothing you do will ever convince her to change the way she is. If she chooses to be with her current bf out of stubbornness that is her decision and that is a lesson and life she has to live with. I know you still have a soft part for her in your heart but her crying has little to do with you, she's thinking about herself and being selfish. She wants everything and that includes you in her life even tho she can't provide you with what you desire. I repeat she is only thinking about herself and not you. If she cared about your feelings she would let you go and not hurt you by giving obviously false hope. She is indeed so selfish. I'm starting to think if she's a narc. Dunno. Its been 3 months after the BU and the pain is no longer exist. Its just sad and a bit anger beside my feelings for her. I really want to move on and leave this behind. She told me that her choise is a blessed and cursed and she has to stick on with what she decided. Well, maybe she's right. Let her live her cursed.
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