Exes Have Ruined My Trust.

[jsmith92]

Hi all, ill keep it short.

 

First girlfriend left me for another guy after 2 years.

 

Second girlfriend I broke up with as she was constantly lying in the end after 3 years together and lost complete trust in her.

 

Im now onto my third relationship, im 24. I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and I have been mates with her for almost 3 years now overall. Its different going out with a mate and its taking us both some getting used to.

I feel that my exes have broken my trust and i have become somewhat insecure and let this effect my relationship.

 

My girlfriend is 21 and this is her first relationship, she is a loud character and used to the single life. This along with being d!cked over by my exes has made me quite insecure and i feel every now and then the worst while we aint together.

 

She has given me no reason not to trust her but every now and then i just cant help it as i really trusted my ex and she just totally went behind my back.

 

I know its not fair to treat my current girlfriend in a way i am due to my past and i just want to know how to start a fresh and really trust her 100% because i need to or its just not going to work.

 

Any advice on how i can get over this problem would be great thanks

[d0nnivain]

Remind yourself that you had 3 years before you dated her to appraise her integrity & her character.

 

Your new mantra must be: She's not them.

[jsmith92]

Yeah your right. I just dont like feeling like i dont trust someone, i think im just overthinking the fact she hasnt been in a relationship before so i just assume shes not going to be used to it and carry on thinking like shes on her own, because i know she aint going to act like that really. Its just really bad how past lies effects people i suppose its first time i have struggled with it but i want to stop feeling this way because i get on with her so well and dont want to push her away which i will do if i dont sort it out.