ivannai1995 Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 I called things off with him last November after dating for just 3 months. I came back in July this month and texted him to catch up together (I do want him back), which we did and in between we texted a little bit. Our first meetup was on a Friday night, where we had dinner and soon found ourselves making out. He initiated the physical contact, and during which he told me he missed me and reminisced on the things we did. In between we didn’t contact at all, I then suggested a second meeting to which he agreed. The second meeting was 2 days ago - we went out Sunday afternoon till night (he planned the day not me), catching a movie and making out and doing all the couple-y stuff. We steered clear of relationship talk and just enjoyed each other's company. In fact the date was better than any of our dates last year. But again, we don’t text or contact each other afterwards (good night text aside). He's being quite cool in messages but this coolness melts off when we see face to face. So, I can’t read this at all. What is he thinking now? Am I going to get a third date if I ask this week? Or should I wait for him to make the move this time? How do we stand now, a few dates short of reigniting a relationship? I don’t want to be too direct in my approach in case it backfires. But I’m going to leave again in 2 months so I am confused whether I should be aggressive or laid back about all this. Just to note, he's SUPER busy now, with his career stuff in investment banking. I have always known him to be a career freak and he seems to have intensified this year.
d0nnivain Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Your move right now is to head to a nearby bookstore or library. You need to read a pop psychology book called He's Just Not That Into You. He's not making a move to ask you out because he doesn't care enough about you to initiate. If you press & give him easy sex, he'll take it but only as NSA sex until something better comes along. Is that what you want?
ExpatInItaly Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Why did you break up before? He could be wary of your intentions. Maybe he's wondering why you're trying to start something up again if you'd already ended it before, and also if you're leaving again. In any case, don't initiate. Let him come to you now. If he wants to see you, he'll make a move.
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