dragonfire13 Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Ive been doing a temp job for the past few months and a guy at work has been getting his flirt on. He asked me out a few days ago, but I turned him down. Not because we work together, as we work in two different departments so I only really see him when he makes the effort to come over and talk. Plus, I'm only scheduled to work there for a couple more months anyway. No, I turned him down because I recently found out that he asked our lovely receptionist out a few months ago...who turned him down as she is already seeing someone. Was this ego, or was it a legit reason to turn someone down? It seems to me that he is a massive flirt, trying it on with everyone. I don't want to be considered the "easy office girl". Ive been turning down a lot of guys lately, at the slightest hint of something off-putting. I wonder if my standards are too high and if it's wise to shut a situation down before even giving it a chance?
kendahke Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 I think shutting it down at work is always wise because exactly what you brought up: being known as the easy office girl. Never isht where you eat. Otherwise, you should probably give them more of a chance unless your spider senses are screaming and sparkling.
Author dragonfire13 Posted July 21, 2015 Author Posted July 21, 2015 Would usually avoid work place romances at all costs, but Im only there for another 6 weeks. He's the only guy who's asked me out at work...other guys have asked me out in different settings. But once I get talking to them or I find out a bit info about them I go off them. I don't know if I'm being too picky/judgemental and if I should give them a chance, or if I'm being wise by shutting it down before things develop further.
Toodaloo Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 (edited) You turned a guy down because he asked another girl out a few months ago? Sounds to me that you don't actually want to be with anyone if you are constantly looking for and making up excuses like that. Stay single. Edited July 21, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Gaeta Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 I also think you went overboard by refusing his invite JUST cause MONTHS ago he had asked the receptionist out. Asking someone out is not disrespectful or indication he's a player. It's an indication he is single and searching. 3
xcupid Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Your reasoning for declining his invitation isn't valid in my opinion. Office romances and their obvious problems aside, you accept if you're interested in him. You decline if you're not.
AlwaysAKL Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 I agree with the OP, I would turn him down to...because I would not want to feel like he just ask me because lovely receptionist turned him down...I am like the OP in that I am very particular in who I date. I am very picky and don't let others emotionally close to me until they seem trustworthy...
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