GH101 Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Hey, I'm a 26 year old woman, and I have no friends and nobody to date. I lost touch with people from high school, I don't have a job right now, dating sites haven't worked out, and neither has meetup groups. Any suggestions? Thanks.
mr_dave Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Hey, I'm a 26 year old woman, and I have no friends and nobody to date. I lost touch with people from high school, I don't have a job right now, dating sites haven't worked out, and neither has meetup groups. Any suggestions? Thanks. Do you have any kind of social circle where you are living now?
sportygirl89 Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Hey, I'm a 26 year old woman, and I have no friends and nobody to date. I lost touch with people from high school, I don't have a job right now, dating sites haven't worked out, and neither has meetup groups. Any suggestions? Thanks. If church is your thing, then maybe try that? Volunteer somewhere. But yeah even when I was dating and had friends, when I got sick people left. People are just selfish. Only people that really matter are your family. You can't even rely on husbands and wives with how much cheating and unfaithfulness is around. Maybe move to a city that is friendly to people in their 20s. Good luck people just don't care. 1
oldshirt Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Hey, I'm a 26 year old woman, and I have no friends and nobody to date. I lost touch with people from high school, I don't have a job right now, dating sites haven't worked out, and neither has meetup groups. Any suggestions? Thanks. Be the kind of person you would want for a friend. Be the kind of person you would want to date. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 What do you mean when you say MeetUp doesn't work? What are you doing to be somebody else's friend? Since you are currently looking for work perhaps make a friend in an unemployment support group. Many churches have such groups. Also consider volunteering somewhere since you have time on your hands. Volunteering can be added to your resume to show a potential employer that you weren't idle while job hunting. 1
empresario Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 There are some very negative comments in here. Let's try to keep the energy positive if we can! Being social is more important to some than others and this person has clearly expressed a desire to be more social. On topic, I know how you feel. Especially being known in my area, everyone is either a client or an associate (even my best friend). That's what everyone becomes eventually in the adult world. I find it extremely hard to make genuine friends in my adult life because it feels like everyone has a motive. However, I've also found everyone else feels the same way I do. The only way people bond is if you make an effort to show interest in that person's life outside of a social function. My business partner always called me his best friend, for example, but we never spent time together and I never really felt he was a friend at all. I started asking to do things at his condo in the evenings and just created a space for real, candid conversation to start happening. I made sure to ask non work-related questions. It really improved our relationship and gave me a friend in whom I could confide. Those people are all around you. I'm not saying it doesn't take effort...it most certainly does. But people in my experience are receptive of friendship but nobody wants to actively pursue it. 1
Clarence_Boddicker Posted July 22, 2015 Posted July 22, 2015 What do you do? Not your job, but like in a typical day.
TouchedByViolet Posted July 22, 2015 Posted July 22, 2015 Getting a job is probably the best thing for you. It will get you out of the house, you'll meet new people and you'll have some purpose in your day. Win win 3
GravityMan Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 You just can't go to a meetup or where-ever and just sit there expecting new friends to flock to you at the snap of your finger. Be a little more assertive. Try to be the kind of person that others may find intriguing and want to get to know better. That usually comes with having a life with some hobbies, passions, direction and a desire to learn and experience new things...and with being willing to share and laugh about those passions and things as well as your beliefs and opinions.
Satu Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 "How do I get a boyfriend or friends?" A clip from my journal: To be loved, be loving. To find peace, be peaceful. To find forgiveness, be forgiving. To be cared about, be caring. To be treated kindly, be kind. To be understood, be understanding. To have friends, be friendly. (Apply that logic to everything.) 1
Inflikted Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 The hell? They deleted my posts? Wow. Sorry for not presenting an imaginary world filled with rainbows and unicorns.
Satu Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 The hell? They deleted my posts? Wow. *Sorry for not presenting an imaginary world filled with rainbows and unicorns. *Some people are happy and love life. I know that because I am one those people.
Inflikted Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 *Some people are happy and love life. I know that because I am one those people. Well lah-dee-dah. Guess it goes to show how worthless I am when my thoughts and feelings about life get deleted and brushed under the rug. I don't even know why that shocks me, at this point
Satu Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 Well lah-dee-dah. Guess it goes to show how worthless I am when my thoughts and feelings about life get deleted and brushed under the rug. I don't even know why that shocks me, at this point You're angry, and thats good. Its definitely better than apathy. Go for it.
nouedis Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 There's no point for you to be pondering how to get a relationship or friends. Why not worry about yourself?
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