trippi1432 Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 So I had to post this, as I have never had this happen on...well, any date. I have been talking to this really nice guy on a dating site and told him about a local venue coming up so we made that our first date. I was overly more than fashionably late. :o He did keep me up until 5:30 am talking to me (I think he was a bit nervous), but I made it there shortly after the music started. He did tease me a bit for being late and said he even rearranged the furniture to make sure we had great seats and had already started making friends. (To that note, the two couples he had made friends with were very nice to hang out with.) I had already let my friend who was the musician know that my date was there and I was running "fashionably late"...to which I got a howling LOL...there will be a song about that one day I'm sure. So, it was the last set for the music and the crowd was thinning down...our new friends (who comically asked both of us thumbs up or down when one of us went to the restroom) had left, but not without passing down phone numbers to hang out again. I had chatted a bit with this other lady there as they were hovering for a good seat, and noticed one older lady that was in their group. Once our couples friends had left....she (the older lady) pops into the seat next to my date to "chat" with us. We told her we met on a dating site and it's our first date and she starts talking music and that she wants to perform (my musician friend let me share the mic with him earlier so maybe that caught her attention, my date also plays music but just has fun with it)....but I noted she started being flirty with my date. I excused myself and went to the restroom, but when I came back, she was passing her digits to him. Should I be upset with him? I did jokingly tell him he needed to lose that number....but if he ever gets an "Oh Sherry" moment....and he admitted that he was flattered that I felt that way. We went on to have dinner and enjoyed our date. Other than that one moment...it was a very nice date. Honestly...I was more perplexed that women are that desperate to move in and try to disrupt people who are enjoying each other's company. I would never do that to someone. I don't know, is that the new way women get men without taking a risk and putting themselves out there? To me, she just appeared.........SAD. 1
S_A Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 I wouldn't worry about it. He just did not want to be rude to the lady. In all honesty it sounds like you guys had an amazing date. I thought the "thumbs up" and "thumbs down" thing was awesome. I get the feeling that you could not have asked for a better first date? You guys enjoyed each other's company right? You also mingled with other folks, listened to music, ate dinner... Sounds like good stuff. You shouldn't worry about that older lady because you're better than her anyway (and he has to know that)! 1
Author trippi1432 Posted July 21, 2015 Author Posted July 21, 2015 You bring up a good point and one he said as well...he didn't want to be rude. It was a very nice date, I enjoy his optimism, his energy and he's very social. We both bring a lot of things to the table between us. What I like even more, he's a good dad. His kids mean the world to him, I like that about him. 1
Author trippi1432 Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 Well, not so promising. Nice second date earlier in the week (finally a second one since starting to date again), then dodgy for a couple of days. He finally sent me a text and said he is not ready to date yet. I knew he was separated but hadn't gotten the full story yet. At least he was honest and didn't just pull a disappearing act, gotta give him that much for being a decent guy. Might should move this over to a "dumped" forum. Can retitle it "dumped on my birthday week".
fred123 Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Well, not so promising. Nice second date earlier in the week (finally a second one since starting to date again), then dodgy for a couple of days. He finally sent me a text and said he is not ready to date yet. I knew he was separated but hadn't gotten the full story yet. At least he was honest and didn't just pull a disappearing act, gotta give him that much for being a decent guy. Might should move this over to a "dumped" forum. Can retitle it "dumped on my birthday week". could have been worse. what if he was kissing the old lady when you came back! thats what happened with me! he seems like a decent guy regardless
carhill Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 Sorry to read that. Unfortunately, yup, a vagary of dating purportedly separated people. Additional risk due to children shared with the separated spouse or partner. However, the interactions were positive so you can build on that energy with your future dates with others. Take the best and leave the rest. Good luck! 2
iwanttohavefun Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 (edited) she sounds pretty SAD. I assume nothing happened afterward between you two.. dating is such an interesting game though #norules http://www.classypleasure.com/blog/the-dating-game/ Edited July 25, 2015 by iwanttohavefun
wizer Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 when I came back, she was passing her digits to him.. You're on a date with him and as you return from the restroom, he's getting a number from another woman? If you had any self respect you would have kept right on walking. I wouldn't worry about it. He just did not want to be rude to the lady. Yeah right, so he'll be rude to his date and get a number from some random woman. You cannot be serious..
RoseVille Posted July 25, 2015 Posted July 25, 2015 It sounds like the way the "date" was set up almost ended up like a group date/hangout with strangers. I can't blame him for striking up conversations with other people in the context, and you can't control what other women do, only how he responds. I don't think you can expect him to actually get rid of her number, as it's only been one date.
Author trippi1432 Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 she sounds pretty SAD. I assume nothing happened afterward between you two.. dating is such an interesting game though #norules The Dating Game If you are referring to anything sexual, no. We went on that day to have a very nice dinner out and met after work two days later for another dinner. He works one building down from me it turns out. But other than a kiss, no...I don't do "hookups".
Author trippi1432 Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 It sounds like the way the "date" was set up almost ended up like a group date/hangout with strangers. I can't blame him for striking up conversations with other people in the context, and you can't control what other women do, only how he responds. I don't think you can expect him to actually get rid of her number, as it's only been one date. Well, the first part of the date ended up like a group date/hangout as I was rather "fashionably" late and he was looking for good seats for us to be close to the music. He's a very personable guy and has to be in his business. I just find it lacking class in her books to move in on a date (even after being told by him that it was our first date). I guess it could be said that it was lacking class that he took the number, perhaps, I can't control what he does either on that note. But, what ever the case may be, I can control not being the rebound (Oh Sherry can have that honor if need be.)
Author trippi1432 Posted July 25, 2015 Author Posted July 25, 2015 could have been worse. what if he was kissing the old lady when you came back! thats what happened with me! he seems like a decent guy regardless So sorry that was one of your experiences, I would have promptly gotten in my car and left then. Hope you did!!
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