edgygirl Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 I am no contact with him (on my side) since October, when I realized he was with a woman he re-encountered when our relationship started to go downhill in May until we broke off in June. I was furious of course. He then wrote me again in December to follow up on some bs, I did not answer. It's been really hard forgetting him completely. Then to my complete surprise he writes me on the week that was 1 year since our breakup and tells me he's been thinking about me a lot, he is on a self discovery journey (that I begged him to go through when we were together but he was too blind to see himself/us), and that he's been reading our messages and he doesn't even understand how could I have known all the things I said about him (uh, I am smart and "see" people?). And then he tells me he's engaged. Ahhh. Most likely to this biatch... she rejected him before we dated. He always had a thing for people who rejected him. I was tempted to do the same and never did. And that if it's not in the cards to have peace between us, he'll understand or so. I don't remember the exact words and won't look at that email again. I also have filtered his emails to go to a dead mailbox I won't see. Why do that??? Why write someone you've been with for 6 months and say those things? I was almost completely forgetting him, no dreams/nightmares anymore, no him popping up randomly in my mind... and now it's all back. I woke up sometimes in the middle of the night bc it seems I was having a nightmare. I met 1 or 2 kinda interesting people this last year... but him finding someone and getting engaged while I was suffering and getting over it all slowly? Ahhh. Why do this, why write me? What does he want from me? Is it guilt? That's what guys do? Is it him trying the waters to see what's up, maybe realizing what he let go? I sincerely don't understand. Neither do the friends I asked. edit: I never replied, don't intend to. I wrote several "never sent" replies in the moments I got really angry or woke from nightmares... but I don't intend to reply. What for, right?
LizzyLizAP Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Sheesh, that sucks. Well, I think first of all he feels guilty and regrets breaking up with you. But, I also feel he is just trying to make peace and get all his cards lined in order before he marrys this other girl. No need for you to reply, he made his decision to marry someone else. Hang in there.
aloneinaz Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 I totally agree that he should never hear from you again. You don't owe him a reply. He's ancient history to you now. Let him move on to whatever he's doing and continue on in finding someone new to rock your world.
Meli22 Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 I think he's testing the waters and/or has realised you're over him since you've been silent for so long. This tends to happen. Keep going, no matter what his reasons are he left you in the first place. If he's made a huge mistake then let him deal with that himself.
Gus Grimly Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 This is something you don't hear often. Man that's just too weird. A year after you broke up? Really? Just to tell you he's getting married? Why? To stroke his ego, possibly try to hurt or humiliate you? This guy likes playing mind games or something. You did NOT need to be bothered by him and certainly not have these things rubbed in your face. Good for you not replying. If it were a real letter I'd burn that s***!
Morphine Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Well seems to me he got engaged just to rub it in your face. I know engagement happens even if you know someone for a very short period. HOWEVER, the fact that he wrote to you 1 year after the break up to announce his plans shows that he has not fully moved on. You do not need people like this around you. My ex is at least trying to lie to me about her new bf, even though I can clearly see it (we still live together...2 more days!)
loveweary11 Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 That's definitely strange. I was lucky to remember my ex's birthday while we were married, nevermind the break up anniversary.
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