onelove89 Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 What would you rather have ladies, a guy with a great body or a guy with a great personality. Here is the thing I am 25 years old I am 5'8 145 pounds. I have an autoimmune disease that causes chronic pain. I have been told for my size I have a great body with a 6 pack and very toned. If I knew how to post a picture I would. The problem is I keep seeing myself as not good enough not strong enough so I am always trying to lift weights meanwhile causing my body more problems as well as acne because when I loft I break out more but when I don't I don't break out as much. I love walking and hiking and staying healthy but I keep feeling like I'm not good enough. I have never had anyone say I didn't have a nice body but I just feel like I will never be good enough. Sorry to sound like a p$$ssy but I have been dealing with it since I was a kid. I can take the cold hard truth too so I'm not worried.
d0nnivain Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Your body sounds fine. Bodies change over time. Nobody has a great body when they are older. I would much rather be involved with somebody who has more going on then what they look like.
smackie9 Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Personality is key, but I still have to find him attractive....attractive to me. I dated a body builder type ONCE, bleck! never again.
amaysngrace Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Are you well-hung and are you prescribed good narcotics?
Author onelove89 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 Well I'm 5'8 and I didn't wanna brag lol but out of the 5 woman I have slept with everyone said I have a huge d**k but woman can't see it and they just see me as a smaller guy 1
No Limit Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Personality for me. That's what got me attracted to a former male friend - a shame he became physically attractive 2 years later so anything romantic was out of the picture because he had better options (said option also cheated on him and now he's a wreck and has changed completely - there goes the nice personality).
Author onelove89 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 Here is a picture from yesterday remember I'm only 145lbs with small arms. Imgur 1
katiegrl Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 What would you rather have ladies, a guy with a great body or a guy with a great personality. Here is the thing I am 25 years old I am 5'8 145 pounds. I have an autoimmune disease that causes chronic pain. I have been told for my size I have a great body with a 6 pack and very toned. If I knew how to post a picture I would. The problem is I keep seeing myself as not good enough not strong enough so I am always trying to lift weights meanwhile causing my body more problems as well as acne because when I loft I break out more but when I don't I don't break out as much. I love walking and hiking and staying healthy but I keep feeling like I'm not good enough. I have never had anyone say I didn't have a nice body but I just feel like I will never be good enough. Sorry to sound like a p$$ssy but I have been dealing with it since I was a kid. I can take the cold hard truth too so I'm not worried. onelove - if you and I had fabulous chemistry and a great connection (mental, emotional and physical) - I would not care how tall you were or whether or not you had a fab body. I "would" care that your personality was "compatible" with mine, and again that we shared great chemistry and a strong connection.
Mrin Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 I dated a body builder type ONCE, bleck! never again. LOL. My GF did and says the same. I guess the guy was physically huge and imposing. But had zero self confidence and was prone to bouts of rage. EDIT: Oh and OP, can I borrow your abs for a week or two? Thanks
amaysngrace Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Well I'm 5'8 and I didn't wanna brag lol but out of the 5 woman I have slept with everyone said I have a huge d**k but woman can't see it and they just see me as a smaller guy Don't worry about it then. The ones who judge you by your body size are shallow. Smile to the world because you have a big dick!
Author onelove89 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 You all really made me feel better its just hard because I have obsessive compulsive disorder and always think the worst I used to take medication but stopped in 2011. In 2014 I started exercising more and just causing myself pain everyday that causes me to think about suicide everyday cause my ex left me after 4 years for a guy that was bigger body than me and since then I can't let go of not being good enough. I'm 25 and look like I'm 17. I always gave 26-27 year olds tryna talk to me and its frustrating.
Author onelove89 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 I meant 16-17 year olds trying to talk to me.
d0nnivain Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 You look fine. Better than many. Dress up more -- i.e. wear a sports jacket & shoes (as opposed to sneakers or flip flops) the teeny boppers will leave you alone.
fitnessfan365 Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Dude, your main reason for working out should be to feel better about yourself. Not to seek approval. Plus, you see average/overweight guys with hot women all the time. The other day at my apartment pool, there was a couple I'd never seen around before so I introduced myself. They're not married, but living together and just moved in. She was gorgeous, fit, and rocking a bikini. He looked like he weighed 300 lbs. But they were clearly happy. I wanted to high five the guy..LOL Now I definitely think that being fit and attractive is a good thing in dating. But people that put too much emphasis on their appearance, tend to have lackluster personalities. The phrase "seduce a woman's mind and her body will follow" exists for a reason. 2
Author onelove89 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 Dude, your main reason for working out should be to feel better about yourself. Not to seek approval. Plus, you see average/overweight guys with hot women all the time. The other day at my apartment pool, there was a couple I'd never seen around before so I introduced myself. They're not married, but living together and just moved in. She was gorgeous, fit, and rocking a bikini. He looked like he weighed 300 lbs. But they were clearly happy. I wanted to high five the guy..LOL Now I definitely think that being fit and attractive is a good thing in dating. But people that put too much emphasis on their appearance, tend to have lackluster personalities. The phrase "seduce a woman's mind and her body will follow" exists for a reason. Wow dude great advice and yes I have seen many beautiful woman with overweight guys. Your right! Lifting weights causes me more pain and I need to do things that make me feel good like walking and hiking. Thanks for the advice. I wish you all could see how much this helps me. 1
Author onelove89 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 You look fine. Better than many. Dress up more -- i.e. wear a sports jacket & shoes (as opposed to sneakers or flip flops) the teeny boppers will leave you alone. Thank you! I will try and dress nicer and more like an adult
Versacehottie Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 I think you look great and would have no problem with height/weight. Abs are on point! You have a great body. All you need to do is have that belief. I think justin beiber is similar frame to you--even though he is taller, he looks shorter and tons of people are in love with him. Anyway i can think of a ton of examples of guys with a slighter frame. Lots of girls love surfers, guilty, and you have that body type. Work on the acne. I think people experiment with lots of remedies but even though it's expensive, I've heard proactiv is best route. Just go straight to that.
fitnessfan365 Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Wow dude great advice and yes I have seen many beautiful woman with overweight guys. Your right! Lifting weights causes me more pain and I need to do things that make me feel good like walking and hiking. Thanks for the advice. I wish you all could see how much this helps me. Tell me about it man. I did powerlifting for 15 years where I was squatting heavy ass to grass 3x a week, doing deadlifts, etc.. I was at a point where I could outlift anyone in the gym. But I was tight, sore all the time, lacking mobility, etc.. Now for the last few years, I've trained more like an athlete. For strength work, I highly recommend a weighted vest. (40-60lbs). Do full body workouts 2-3x a with compound movements wearing it. For example. Push-ups slow and controlled to failure. Rest 30 seconds. Then walking lunges 12-15 per leg. Rest 30 seconds. Then pull-ups slow/controlled/dead hang to failure. Rest 30 seconds, etc.. Circuiting like this for 30 minutes with the vest is BRUTAL. I also love doing stairs in the vest and burpees too. Ironically I am as strong as I ever was. But my fitness levels are much better, my body fat is way lower, and my body feels so much better in general. I mean I do miss competitive heavy lifting from time to time. But overall, I'm glad I switched training styles for myself.
ascendotum Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 Well I'm 5'8 and I didn't wanna brag lol but out of the 5 woman I have slept with everyone said I have a huge d**k but woman can't see it and they just see me as a smaller guy haha that's the thing. Its only an advantage once you get the woman into bed. I remember a body builder getting interviewed about steroids and how they shrink your nuts. He said he didn't care as when he walks into a room women see his massive arms & lats and not his balls, and that's what seals the deal. Also a comedian who said he had a small dick but the women he picked up didn't realize it until they were naked in bed with him and it was too late, and his dysfunctional personality was not going to get them as a gf so it made no difference for him. I have a 6 pack but it counts for shyte unless I have skin tight t-shirt or I was to walk around in one of those mesh tops the gays wear. I expect 95% of the female responders to this post to say personality simply to not look shallow. For most though the answer will depend on their age and what phase in dating they are going through. I'd sat for most women its a combination of the two and that most start out being attracted to a good masculine physique then look for the compatible personality. Some women will make a trade off to either end of those options, but the ones who have both themselves will likely tend to get both in a man. Guys I know who are well built - height or broad shoulders or stocky beefy build do quite well with women regardless of their personality (they are not dickheads though) 1
S_A Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 height or broad shoulders or stocky beefy build do quite well with women regardless of their personality (they are not dickheads though) Since we're all being honest (and I liked your whole post BTW), shoulders is probably the most important (aside from height) when talking aesthetics. Women may say they like a nice chest, 6 pack abs, or big arms, but what does it for them are the broad shoulders. They just may not always know it. Everything looks better when under broad shoulders (on a guy).
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