Cup Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Hi everyone, For purposes of context - I'm a 2nd year performing arts student and we are touring next month in Europe. I've sworn that I would never date someone from my course however I became very close to another performing arts student and I trusted him greatly. He kept asking me out but I kept on declining as he would contact me very late that evening and had already made plans. If he rang me earlier I might have been able to. He finally rang me and asked me out for the next day and I said yes. As we will be both touring together next month I did need to resolve or understand my feelings towards him. He kept telling me how beautiful I was and how he couldn't believe how lucky he was that we spent so much time together. The day of our date I arrive at his house and he acted strangely. Within 30 minutes he proceeded to tell me that I lacked flair and style on stage and that he found my routines pedestrian. The insults became more and more personal so I left. His parting comment to me was that females are weak and they need to toughen up. He even let me know that on a list of attractive girls he knows, I would be considered mid range at best. How on earth am I going to handle 4 weeks touring in Europe with him? We are on a uni break and we have been working on a number of routines for close to a year. Why was he so cruel? Clearly he gets his cheap thrills. Thanks
CarrieT Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 It is only four weeks out of your life. Toughen up, put on a professional face, and go over the top with niceness to *everyone* - pretending what he said never happened. You will be fine.
torturedartist Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Hi everyone, For purposes of context - I'm a 2nd year performing arts student and we are touring next month in Europe. I've sworn that I would never date someone from my course however I became very close to another performing arts student and I trusted him greatly. He kept asking me out but I kept on declining as he would contact me very late that evening and had already made plans. If he rang me earlier I might have been able to. He finally rang me and asked me out for the next day and I said yes. As we will be both touring together next month I did need to resolve or understand my feelings towards him. He kept telling me how beautiful I was and how he couldn't believe how lucky he was that we spent so much time together. The day of our date I arrive at his house and he acted strangely. Within 30 minutes he proceeded to tell me that I lacked flair and style on stage and that he found my routines pedestrian. The insults became more and more personal so I left. His parting comment to me was that females are weak and they need to toughen up. He even let me know that on a list of attractive girls he knows, I would be considered mid range at best. How on earth am I going to handle 4 weeks touring in Europe with him? We are on a uni break and we have been working on a number of routines for close to a year. Why was he so cruel? Clearly he gets his cheap thrills. Thanks I would suspect that a lot of men in your particular field might be...a little out there. I'm just saying that they have many checks against them. Therefore, you shouldn't take this too personally. It totally sounds like a chip on the guy's shoulder, which I'm sure he'd have to have. After this experience, stick to your promises about not dating guys from work. Date guys who might appreciate a woman like you, as I'm sure enough guys would. Forget about this loser.
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