katiegrl Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Also, here's some food for thought. My GF is a planner. So a HUGE pet peeve of hers with guys she dated in the past is when they'd reach out day before or day of. It didn't matter if she liked the guy, she'd keep her original plans on principal. I'm actually the same way, which is one of the many reasons why we get along. But my point is that some people value plans they make ahead of time and prefer to be invited in advance. Just said I would keep my original plan....however watching a game with my little brother? I might make an exception. In any event though....I am sure when your girlfriend turned these guys down due to the last minute invite....she offered an alternative day, so as to NOT leave them with the impression she was not interested. As I said, had you read their email exchange.... I think you would agree his invite was rather lame -- I even told him it sounded like he was speaking with a frat buddy...and not a woman he wants to date. And she followed his lead in her response.....responding to him as a friend. Anyhoo.... I think we have both made our respective points. I agree with you, he SHOULD ask her out again the way you suggested. However, I also agree with jen...he should "feel her out" the next time he sees her at work. If she's ignoring him....then no he should not ask her out again. If she's flirting with him again...that's his cue "to" ask her out again. Again, JMO.
fitnessfan365 Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 (edited) Haha.. I do agree that his invite was bad. Not just because he did it last minute with no notice. But his text starts out saying "Do you wanna hook up and head out..." So she easily could have misinterpreted that as an invite to have sex and go out after..LOL Definitely not the best choice of words when their first encounter was physical in his place. That's why a guy should always be careful in how he words anything in text. Especially when it comes to a date invite. Edited July 20, 2015 by fitnessfan365
katiegrl Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Haha.. I do agree that his invite was bad. Not just because he did it last minute with no notice. But his text starts out saying "Do you wanna hook up and head out..." So she easily could have misinterpreted that as an invite to have sex and go out after..LOL Definitely not the best choice of words when their first encounter was physical in his place. That's why a guy should always be careful in how he words anything in text. Especially when it comes to a date invite. Agree!!! Hey just wondering though....when guys (young) invite their guy friends to get together...how do they word it? Do they say "hey want to hook up and do something tomorrow night?" OR "Hey wanna hook up tomorrow night and check out that new bar?" Or check out wherever. Just wondering...
jen1447 Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Haha.. I do agree that his invite was bad. Not just because he did it last minute with no notice. But his text starts out saying "Do you wanna hook up and head out..." So she easily could have misinterpreted that as an invite to have sex and go out after..LOL Definitely not the best choice of words when their first encounter was physical in his place. That's why a guy should always be careful in how he words anything in text. Especially when it comes to a date invite. Depends on context. "Let's hook up" doesn't automatically mean "let's f*ck."
katiegrl Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Depends on context. "Let's hook up" doesn't automatically mean "let's f*ck." jen you and I..... always on the same wave length. That is precisely what meant in my above post.... However, in THIS case.... it DID sound like he was speaking with a guy friend, and not a woman he actually wants to DATE....or even f*ck! 1
preraph Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 You need to stop even taking her to your or her home and just take her on dates for awhile with kisses and that's it afterwards. You were treating her like a hookup. Be specific next time you ask. Do you want to go to the zoo Saturday? Then drop her off at home.
fitnessfan365 Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Depends on context. "Let's hook up" doesn't automatically mean "let's f*ck." That's true. But in dating circles, it's a pretty common euphemism for it. Also, they'd just gotten somewhat physical on their one "hang out" at his place. Plus that email he sent talking about sex in a roundabout way. So seeing him say "hook up" might have touched a nerve based on the timing.
jen1447 Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 That's true. But in dating circles, it's a pretty common euphemism for it. Also, they'd just gotten somewhat physical on their one "hang out" at his place. Plus that email he sent talking about sex in a roundabout way. So seeing him say "hook up" might have touched a nerve based on the timing. It's less likely to be said sexually in a new/formal/uncharted territory scenario, more likely for ppl familiar w/each other. Not many ppl say "let's f*ck" to new dates. You're right tho, OP's de-pantsing fail may have predisposed her to being wary about his intentions.
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