changeofseasons Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 After the last time he contacted me i've been doing good but now i have ran into a problem My ex gave me a going away present: mono. So now im possibly bed ridden for a few weeks (still need to get to the doctors but im damn sure thats what i have) So everything that has been helping me cope: weight lifting/gym time and traveling are out of the question. So essentially i've been quite depressed and fixated on my broken relationship which has been a set back, if i wasnt at home all the time this wouldnt be a problem. anyone gone through anything similar? or have any advice to help me get through this tough spot? this is def. not something i needed right now, but what can ya do?
OldSoul86 Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 (edited) Personally, I'd take this time to read. Get yourself on Amazon, get some books about breakups, self-improvement, and moving on. I recommend two books very strongly. The first being Getting Past Your Breakup by Susan Elliot and the second being Mars and Venus Starting Over by John Gray. Both of these books have helped me immensely. If I had to recommend one of the two it would be Elliot's book - she includes some amazing post breakup reflective activities that really help get to the core of why the relationship(s) fell apart and can offer incredible insight for the next time around. Other than reading, just try your best to chill out - watch a new TV series or watch some documentaries that interest you. There are thousands of TED Talks that are always inspiring and even life-changing for some. Go on YouTube and maybe learn a skill that you never had before (I'd suggest checking out HowToBasic's channel.) Also spent time on LS, give advice to people - even if you know that it is advice you should take yourself. I have been doing this, and frighteningly I am starting to take my own advice and am making significant strides in moving on from my last relationship and hopefully on to something better when the time is right and the person is right. EDIT: I see you have a quote from Natalie Lue - her website is chalk full of really great articles and are definitely worth your time. Edited July 20, 2015 by OldSoul86 Another thought 4
15Love Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Also spent time on LS, give advice to people - even if you know that it is advice you should take yourself. I have been doing this, and frighteningly I am starting to take my own advice and am making significant strides in moving on from my last relationship and hopefully on to something better when the time is right and the person is right. Sorry you're not feeling well. This is very true^^. I've been struggling for a verrrrrry long time to kick my "habit" and never posted on LS. Just read. But this time I'm actually participating and lo and behold! I'm making strides Like never before as well! Great advice on all the other stuff too, Oldsoul! 1
aloneinaz Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 While LS can be a great help for the first couple of months post break up, you don't want to stay on it too long either. It will keep you mired in thoughts about your last relationship and can keep you stuck as well. I learned so much from this site 2 plus years ago when I was going thru it. I found myself spending less time on it after a couple of months. I come back now to help share what I learned to others fresh in the middle of a break up. What you should do if you're home for 2 weeks? Get Nexflix if you don't have it already. Lots of great shows to "escape" from your life for a while. I also enjoy reading as well. Just don't spin your wheels thinking about this past relationship too much. It won't change anything at all. The only thing that will get you past it is NC and time passing. I felt good enough to start dating after two months of hardcore NC. It got easier and easier after that.
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