ThisisIt606 Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 I've been dating a guy for almost 2 months now. We see each other about 2x a week (once after work and on the weekends). After the date we will either head back to his or my place be intimate and spend the night. We do pretty much an equal amount of texting each other, he usually suggests to see me and I will throw out some suggestions. He has paid for the majority of dates although I have paid for some as well. We have both made dinner for each other. I honestly don't think he's seeing anyone else/am not worried about it. I've come to this conclusion based on the dates we do have, the hours (prime date hours) I get text from him, and how he tells me his plans/who he's going to places with. I see he's still active on the dating site once every couple of weeks, but I am too (bc I get bored and like to swipe through people). Again, this doesn't concern me that he's actively going out on dates. If he ever gets a text when I'm around, it's been a family member or co-worker (all male) that he has previously told me about. My real question is when to have the bf/gf discussion? He has surgery coming up in a few weeks which he is very nervous about. I told him I'd be happy to help any way I can before/after. He said he appreciated that and thanked me. I also got him a small gift/card (he doesn't know) and plan to give it to him after the surgery. That being said, I know surgery the first and most important thing on his mind now and I don't want to annoy him with labels before he goes in for surgery. He's taking 1 week off from work, but recovery time/pain will probably take a few more weeks. How long after the surgery should I bring up any type of label? What things in the meantime can I do to show him I'm interested in something longterm and want to be his gf?
casey.lives Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 go through the ordeal with him and use it as an opportunity to create a stronger bond. difficulties and health matters usually make people grounded to reality. He will be thinking about it .. trust me. let him thank you and see if he segways... if does want something he will. let him lead.. if he doesn't tell him you like him and then start fading upon his recovery. Good luck to you both 1
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