Argentina Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Split with a boyfriend a couple of months ago. It was his decision, (basically he was not in the right head space to give me what I wanted)... but we are close and remain good friends. I am now seeing someone else. Someone that I have actually known quite a while. Interesting thing is what my ex said to me the other day about my new man "I like ????? and I am fine with him. If it was anyone else I don't think I would be OK". Can anyone shed any light on what is going on in his head to say that. It's been puzzling me for days.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Split with a boyfriend a couple of months ago. It was his decision, (basically he was not in the right head space to give me what I wanted)... but we are close and remain good friends. I am now seeing someone else. Someone that I have actually known quite a while. Interesting thing is what my ex said to me the other day about my new man "I like ????? and I am fine with him. If it was anyone else I don't think I would be OK". Can anyone shed any light on what is going on in his head to say that. It's been puzzling me for days. He still cares about you and wants to see you with a good guy. The guy you're going out with is good. That's all.
La.Primavera Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Imagine you were selling an old car or possession you used to care about a lot but no longer want. It makes you feel better to know it is going to a good home. The same theory applies here. Some people are possessive over their ex's, even if they don't want to be together anymore. It makes them feel like they are in control over the situation. You're only hearing about it because you have decided to remain friends. I suspect that this isn't the answer you were looking for and if that is the case then perhaps you shouldn't remain so close to him while you are trying to move on. It can make it so much harder when you still have strong feelings for your ex. All the best.
stillafool Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 I agree with the above. He cares about you and are happy you are with a guy he knows instead of some stranger who could end up hurting you. He sounds really nice but I don't think you should be friends with him because you are coming to a forum to ask about a simple thing like this. Maybe you still love him and that's not good for your new relationship.
Candygirljane Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 I agree with the above. maybe u r just overthinking and not totally over him. he cares about u and wants u to be happy.
preraph Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 He no longer wants you for a girlfriend but cares about you as a person and is happy you're with someone he considers an ok guy. It's over.
Amalyn Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Split with a boyfriend a couple of months ago. It was his decision, (basically he was not in the right head space to give me what I wanted)... but we are close and remain good friends. I am now seeing someone else. Someone that I have actually known quite a while. Interesting thing is what my ex said to me the other day about my new man "I like ????? and I am fine with him. If it was anyone else I don't think I would be OK". Can anyone shed any light on what is going on in his head to say that. It's been puzzling me for days. He wants to see you happy. Don't read more into than what it is. He's not saying he wants to be with you or that he's not necessarily over you. Haven't you ever wanted anyone to just be happy? 1
Author Argentina Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 Thanks everyone. That helps. Yes... you are right, he does want me to be happy and I want him to be happy. That would make a lot more sense to me than thinking that he was trying to be "controlling" which in general, he is not.
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