veganpilot Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 All my life, all I have ever attracted are Indian or Middle Eastern men. I am Chinese and I don't know why. Even on online dating sites, it seems that Indian guys only ever message me. Why do I attract Indian men? Or are they freakishly obsessed with Asians (Korean, Jap, Viet, Thai, Chinese) ? I had so many Asian friends that were constantly harassed online by Indian perverts that claim to only love Asians. Is it the way I look? Not to brag but I look like a Kpop (Korean girl bands) singer. Link to post Share on other sites
GalWithNiceGuyFriend Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 You sound offended by Indians in general. No real answer for you here, but I would be more worried about attracting players and jokers than nationality. I'm a girl and I can't tell you how tired I am of attracting players/jokers and heartbreakers. Oh well, good girls finish last I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 Not to brag but I look like a Kpop (Korean girl bands) singer? I guess Indians like kpop singer look but not so much with other guys? Personally I never find kpop singer attractive though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author veganpilot Posted July 19, 2015 Author Share Posted July 19, 2015 Really? I never knew. I am frustrated. I want to attract an Asian guy, and I MEAN JAPANESE, CHINESE, VIET, THAI, ETC. But all I attract are these nerdy, scrawny and perverted types that constantly message me on Facebook (even though we have no mutual friends) or all dating sites I used. I can expect to get a message from an Indian guy every single day I log on. Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 without knowing what you look like i really can't tell why you are only attracting indians. and where did you find so many indians lol but they usually like asians girls. I find it odd you never attracted any asian guys? even though you are asian yourself? maybe consider changing your style? Link to post Share on other sites
Author veganpilot Posted July 19, 2015 Author Share Posted July 19, 2015 (edited) So far I have only been messaged by Indian men on sites like POF, OkCupid, Meet at the Airport, Uniform Dating, Oasis, Zoosk, etc. I will never use these dating sites again. Edited July 19, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator edited for content~T Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 Indian men can be direct in real life too. I've been approached many times from indians (tourists). But there are some who are shy and kind of sweet and just steal glances without acting on it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 (edited) There are over a billion Indians. They have to message someone. If you don't like someone, politely decline and move on. Edited July 19, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 3 Link to post Share on other sites
wb1988 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 (edited) Really? I never knew. I am frustrated. I want to attract an Asian guy, and I MEAN JAPANESE, CHINESE, VIET, THAI, ETC. But all I attract are these nerdy, scrawny and perverted types that constantly message me on Facebook (even though we have no mutual friends) or all dating sites I used. I can expect to get a message from an Indian guy every single day I log on. Aren't most asian guys the nerdy, scrawny fobby looking type (that asian girls say look too much like a brother)? Also I don't think you know but really attractive Asian guys only date skinny white girls. Same goes for men of all races really, myself included. So far I have only been messaged by Indian men on sites like POF, OkCupid, Meet at the Airport, Uniform Dating, Oasis, Zoosk, etc. I will never use these dating sites again. They're from a super oppressed culture that is also self-fueled. Only release is to pervert out online with girls they know they'll never get. I live in the UK, there are many attractive dapper type looking Indians (that do actually get attractive girls) but most are unfortunately the type you describe. But I don't think Indian guys liking the Japanese anime type of girl is really a thing. Edited July 19, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 Wow, I had an incident happen that took me off guard. My BF at the time took me to DC for a dinner out at a nice Indian restaurant. Back then I had long golden hair and a petite physique. The waiter who served us, kept bowing near me. My BF thought it odd as he hadn't seen the man do this to other patrons. The Man quickly got his owner and they both came over and said a prayer near me. When my BF asked what they were praying about they said I had the reverance of one of their goddess's. I smiled at them and said I am just a gal from a small town, nothing special here. Yet they insisted otherwise. It wasn't creepy, just an unusual scenario when having dinner out. Maybe you have a resemblence to someone or something they revere? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ianthe Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 Sorry, but going to burst your bubble with this but fact is Indian men are attracted to all women wherever they are from because they only want you for one thing. Believe me I have heard so many sad stories and from my own experience. They are masters when it comes to flattering you and whether it is a matter of days, weeks, months, years end result is the same they **** off back to Indian to marry one of their own. What would be really good is if they just stayed in India in the first place and married someone they felt they could respect. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 yeah I don't know - I consider myself a pretty "average white lady" - and I live in an area heavily populated by Indians - and can count on being aggressively hit on by one of them if I go out to the local cocktail bar etc. Link to post Share on other sites
emerald86 Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 As someone who has dated an Indian man before, I promise you that not all of them are creepy! In fact, many of them are very kind and just cool people in general. Of course, the ones I know are born and raised in the USA, so maybe that makes a difference in terms of how I interact with them. But I just think that creeps are creeps regardless of nationality. Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 Oh Jesus, you have come here posting similar things before, OP. As someone who's dating a sophisticated, well-educated, well-mannered, non-perverted and totally NORMAL Indian man, I'm offended by some of the comments on this thread. Please. Perverts and clingers come in all races and ethnicities. We don't know why you're attracting so many Indian men, or why you can't attract the East Asian men you want to attract, but making sweeping generalization about Indian men is uncalled for. They're not all like that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LoveRefreshed Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 All my life, all I have ever attracted are Indian or Middle Eastern men. I am Chinese and I don't know why. Even on online dating sites, it seems that Indian guys only ever message me. Why do I attract Indian men? Or are they freakishly obsessed with Asians (Korean, Jap, Viet, Thai, Chinese) ? I had so many Asian friends that were constantly harassed online by Indian perverts that claim to only love Asians. Is it the way I look? Not to brag but I look like a Kpop (Korean girl bands) singer. Well, looking at indian and similar (sri lanken) populations, statistically speaking, this isn't surprising. Asian fever is everyone. Why are you offended that people find you attractive? It sounds like maybe you have a bit of a prejudice if it offends you. Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 Sorry but this sounds ....racist. They message you because they are large fraction of the population of online daters, so there you get a proportionately larger fraction of messages from Indian/Middle Easterns. If there is a bias, it could also be the way how you wrote your profile, not the looks. All my life, all I have ever attracted are Indian or Middle Eastern men. I am Chinese and I don't know why. Even on online dating sites, it seems that Indian guys only ever message me. Why do I attract Indian men? Or are they freakishly obsessed with Asians (Korean, Jap, Viet, Thai, Chinese) ? I had so many Asian friends that were constantly harassed online by Indian perverts that claim to only love Asians. Is it the way I look? Not to brag but I look like a Kpop (Korean girl bands) singer. Link to post Share on other sites
HereNorThere Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 Are you sure it's a dating site and you're not accidentally logging it to tech support? In all seriousness, my Mexican friend said that other minorities tend to message her more than her white friends for the simple fact that they have something in common, not being part of the majority. She likes white guys and generally has to message them, but always gets good responses because she's pretty awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 what a ridiculous thread 3 Link to post Share on other sites
edgygirl Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 Hmm I think her question is legitimate, she is NOT being racist. I'd be annoyed too if guys of any specific nationality/race that was not mine would be writing me DAILY as she points out. Come on guys, not everyone has to be into all races, it's delusional to think someone is racist when they are not attracted to a specific nationality. OP, I also get messages from Indian and Middle Eastern men but not frequently. Maybe once every two months, and I also don't understand how did they find me and what they were looking for to end up finding me. edit: Just for reference - I'm not Asian, I'm Caucasian. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 are you a white/cream-colored Asian? Indian and Middle Eastern men often revere very white/porcelain skin. i have very pale porcelain skin and find that they will hit on me too - more often than any other races. the very pale skin colors (in India and some Middle Eastern countries - Armenia, especially) denote a high level of wealth because you're not a laborer in the outdoors. that cultural preference among the men and women still prevails for many. i don't think it's that you're Asian, it's likely that you're creamy skinned or pale. i would guess. Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 Hmm I think her question is legitimate, she is NOT being racist. I'd be annoyed too if guys of any specific nationality/race that was not mine would be writing me DAILY as she points out. I personally don't think she's being racist, but it's things like this ... I had so many Asian friends that were constantly harassed online by Indian perverts that claim to only love Asians. But all I attract are these nerdy, scrawny and perverted types that constantly message me Sorry, but going to burst your bubble with this but fact is Indian men are attracted to all women wherever they are from because they only want you for one thing. That sound offensive to me. Offensive, not necessarily racist. Things like this just perpetuate stereotypes of Indian men as "scrawny," "perverted," "harassers." I'm sure some of them are, but there are men like that of EVERY ethnicity, every race, from every country. Maybe I'm particularly sensitive about Indian stereotypes because my BF is Indian, but when I hear these things, I cringe. A few months ago, OP posted something similar that was even MORE inflammatory. I understand her frustration—of not getting messaged by the men she wants to hear from, but she could approach her post from THAT angle, not, "eww, these gross Indian pervs." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 OP, why not use Match and filter by race? As an Indian man, the first thing I look at is a woman's racial requirements so that I don't waste time reading the profile or messaging a woman like you. Link to post Share on other sites
edgygirl Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 Totally get your point. But maybe she is implying she is getting messages from pervs, not that ALL Indians are pervs. As for specific races, I am sorry to break it to you, but depending on the country, men of specific races are sometimes too much. I know because all my girl friends who studied in France (there were many of them as studies in France are free) who never understood Arabic culture before, got constantly harassed by Middle Eastern men living in Paris. Depending on tradition in each faith, or how repressed they feel, you do end up getting men who harass women more. I personally don't feel that about Indians, and I am sure most Indians are not like that, but I think it's a good idea to hear out a cry for help from a girl who's feeling harassed, no matter the circumstances, but specifically in her case, being Asian... I have no clue what Asian girls go through online, and I do feel we should hear her out and try to help. I personally don't think she's being racist, but it's things like this ... That sound offensive to me. Offensive, not necessarily racist. Things like this just perpetuate stereotypes of Indian men as "scrawny," "perverted," "harassers." I'm sure some of them are, but there are men like that of EVERY ethnicity, every race, from every country. Maybe I'm particularly sensitive about Indian stereotypes because my BF is Indian, but when I hear these things, I cringe. A few months ago, OP posted something similar that was even MORE inflammatory. I understand her frustration—of not getting messaged by the men she wants to hear from, but she could approach her post from THAT angle, not, "eww, these gross Indian pervs." Link to post Share on other sites
edgygirl Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 She says she's being harassed on Facebook even. So people seem to contact her out of nowhere. OP, why not use Match and filter by race? As an Indian man, the first thing I look at is a woman's racial requirements so that I don't waste time reading the profile or messaging a woman like you. Link to post Share on other sites
ilovemefirst Posted August 22, 2015 Share Posted August 22, 2015 Hmm I think her question is legitimate, she is NOT being racist. I'd be annoyed too if guys of any specific nationality/race that was not mine would be writing me DAILY as she points out. Come on guys, not everyone has to be into all races, it's delusional to think someone is racist when they are not attracted to a specific nationality. OP, I also get messages from Indian and Middle Eastern men but not frequently. Maybe once every two months, and I also don't understand how did they find me and what they were looking for to end up finding me. edit: Just for reference - I'm not Asian, I'm Caucasian. WOW...So your saying, that only " Your Kind" can message you? You sound ignorant...and YES it is being racist. Link to post Share on other sites
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