GalWithNiceGuyFriend Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 What are your thoughts about a lady friend cooking for you? As in lunch or dinner. Do you automatically assume she likes you? Assume that no discussions about feelings have been had.
StalwartMind Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 I don't like to assume period, since it often can lead to scenarios that simply are not true. Everyone have different intentions with what they do, and likewise we all have different ways to perceive those intentions. Just because 999 people do something with the same intent, there will always be that 1 person who has another intention, what if the person cooking me dinner/lunch was that person. If someone has feelings for you, it is bound to show eventually anyway, everyone reveals things at a different pace, which is why honesty triumphs all the speculation stuff. I do get the appeal of "mystery" and "not knowing" what someone truly thinks of you, but even so just because you reveal your feelings, doesn't mean you don't get to enjoy any mystery and magic connection. Overall no matter who cooks for me, I'd always feel humble and appreciate them wanting to do that, so I would consider it as a nice gesture, no matter what the intention was. 1
Author GalWithNiceGuyFriend Posted July 19, 2015 Author Posted July 19, 2015 The reason I'm asking is because there has never been anything discussed about feelings in my situation. However I have recently started becoming fond of a man I have known for years as a friend. When I offered to cook for him, I hadn't even started processing those thoughts. The 'excitement-cum-nervousness started when he happily said yes to me cooking for him. I am now worried about what he might think, if I am doing something wrong, if I show my feelings and he laughs it off or rejects me and the worst result...if going beyond friends ruins our current closeness completely.
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