Timpye Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Alright so iv basically I spent the last 2 months with a girl, spending every day with her. I have treated her better then I think anyone could. But basically she has always been a little bit stressed out because she plans on going overseas next year, and doesn't know where she is going to live or work next year, and basically she is afraid of commitment, and never planned on getting into a relationship. After being indecisive for weeks she has said she thinks its best we don't see each other anymore, maybe some day down the track when her life is sorted, but she still wants to be friends. I honestly think she is making a big mistake and think she will lose her mind without me.. She messaged me last night when drunk saying she is really sorry, i didn't reply and didn't plan on contacting her again until she asked whether she could pick up a work t shirt she left at my house which she needed. She came around grabbed the shirt and apologised for texting me last night saying she was drunk. I know no contact is probably the best solution here, but I'm just really fn pissed off atm. Hey at least this helped me get over my first ex
StalwartMind Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 I guess it's a matter of perspective, with how you choose to look at this. If she has been unsure this entire time, then her decision to part ways seems like the best outcome. It may not feel that way, as you said you think she is making a big mistake. This is not really for you to decide, but you are still welcome to feel that way, and I completely get it. It is however her choice, and it's also better than to just string you a long for much longer with the same outcome. Not everyone know what they wants to do, and if someone is afraid of commitment, then that's always going to present difficulties until she can gain more personal strength plus finding out what she wants. I don't like to compare things, but some people spend years with a partner like that, and when they experience the same outcome, it typically includes a lot of extra inconveniences. Take some comfort in that you actually did treat her good, there are a lot out women out there who would appreciate such, so don't be discouraged by having experienced this twice. 1
Author Timpye Posted July 19, 2015 Author Posted July 19, 2015 I guess it's a matter of perspective, with how you choose to look at this. If she has been unsure this entire time, then her decision to part ways seems like the best outcome. It may not feel that way, as you said you think she is making a big mistake. This is not really for you to decide, but you are still welcome to feel that way, and I completely get it. It is however her choice, and it's also better than to just string you a long for much longer with the same outcome. Not everyone know what they wants to do, and if someone is afraid of commitment, then that's always going to present difficulties until she can gain more personal strength plus finding out what she wants. I don't like to compare things, but some people spend years with a partner like that, and when they experience the same outcome, it typically includes a lot of extra inconveniences. Take some comfort in that you actually did treat her good, there are a lot out women out there who would appreciate such, so don't be discouraged by having experienced this twice. Thanks a lot man, I think you are dead right. I guess I kind of just hope she could get her **** together, realise what she is losing and make things right. Probably not going to happen tho, so I suppose I just have to let go again
Author Timpye Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 She deleted tinder when I was seeing her. I have found out she now has it back meaning she is out to sleep with other guys. I really want to reach out and do something to stop her, but I really shouldn't hey?
Gus Grimly Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 After being indecisive for weeks she has said she thinks its best we don't see each other anymore, maybe some day down the track when her life is sorted, but she still wants to be friends. I was in a similar senario once. Just move on, the whole "some day down the track" is to spare your feelings. She doesn't mean that at all. It's a coward's way of breaking it off. She sounds really immature. Please move on. Utilize the No Contact rule to help you heal faster. Don't waste anymore energy on her. You can do a lot better. 3
Author Timpye Posted July 22, 2015 Author Posted July 22, 2015 After about 4 days of no contact the girl who said we should stop seeing each other (we were never officially actually togerther..) messaged me saying: Hey how have you been? Thoughts on what I should do?
Author Timpye Posted July 22, 2015 Author Posted July 22, 2015 Ignore her. Keeping in mind I want to get her back. And possibly aren't even that set on having something committed just yet either. Mind is racing like a b****
Author Timpye Posted July 22, 2015 Author Posted July 22, 2015 I didn't reply and she messaged again saying she thought our friendship meant something but clearly not when I ignored her when she was trying to be decent. Seriously, wtf is with chicks
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