cottom Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 To be honest, i am a bit paranoid because of my past... - 1st serious gf cheated within a day of being together - 2nd serious gf was meeting me while she had a bf, left him for me and then did the same to me when we broke up - 3rd serious gf after 2 years i found out the final 2 months she had another bf as well as me - Last gf seemed fine but after breaking up she bragged to all my mates how she cheated on me ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ This new girl... We started chatting on Tinder, she seemed into it, i was into it. It moved on then to texting, whatsapp, snapchatting. I added her on facebook, when i found her it said "In a relationship with XXX", i thought oh okay then a bit put off...but she carried on as if she was into me. Later on i checked and it had been hidden. I saved all conversations so if she had a bf and he approached me then i can give him the evidence. We met, she stopped at mine, she told me that she had a bf of 5 years and that she walked in on him cheating on her with another girl who he is now with, she said it was XXX as was in her facebook status. I mentioned that her facebook says shes still with him, she said she just doesnt use facebook much so never got round to changing it, i thought okay because she hardly ever posts on it, but now thinking about it, she still hid it from public view so why not change it then? I didnt think much, she seemed really into me, we spent the last 3 days straight together (if she had a bf im sure he would be asking about why she isnt at home but girls can lie about it...) we slept together quite a bit and had fun. But then this morning i woke up and came into my lounge where she left her phone, i clicked the on button to check the time and it said she had 2 messages off this guy at 5 and 5:30am, couldnt check them cause password protected and also dont want too. (drunk messages or actual bf?), I have just seen on her facebook he shared a link about pygmy horses or something on her wall, and then he shared something 11 days ago too but she never liked or acknowledged it on there. I looked at his facebook then and he changed his picture to one of him and her 11 days ago, 1 person commented saying "glad to see you happy" but this girl hasnt acknowledged the picture on there, whereas her best friends she comments on their stuff, so creepy ex bf behaviour and stuff??
Author cottom Posted July 18, 2015 Author Posted July 18, 2015 So i guess, my question is: Is this just creepy ex bf stalking her facebook, im looking to much for the idea she has a bf and finding smallest things to jump on, and she legitimately hasnt had time to change her status to single? Or has she got a bf and im being lead in for the attention?
smackie9 Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 Tinder is mainly used for hooking up why are you looking for a relationship on there.....go somewhere else. 5
babycakees Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 This girl is lying to you!!! Get off Tinder. It's used just for hooking up. Get a Plenty of Fish or OKCupid account if you are looking for something closer to a relationship.
IronZ Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 I think the most honesty you're going to get is from her friends. Try to hang out with them together and make friends with them. And then talk to them personally. You'd be surprised how catty girls are and how straightforward they can be, especially if you show them kindness. I had a gf for over 3 years a long time ago and I found out she cheated on me with my best friend. I found this out through one of her friends one night while instant messaging. My most recent non-relationship was with a girl who kind of used me to pay for dates with her and then dumped me to go see other guys. I found out from her best friend that she does this to everyone she meets and that she's only looking for attention. I wish she had said that earlier but nonetheless, she was brutally honest with me. You need to just expand your horizons and get the truth because right now you're just speculating. That being said, if you think she's acting way too fishy, then don't get too hung up on her. Keep your options open. 1
IronZ Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Also one more thing, as everyone else has pointed out Tinder is not for relationships. Just had to say that. I've never had 1 good Tinder experience. Go on a real dating site. 1
jay1983 Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 This girl is lying to you!!! Get off Tinder. It's used just for hooking up. Get a Plenty of Fish or OKCupid account if you are looking for something closer to a relationship. No POF and OKCupid are also for hook ups. 1
joseb Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 No POF and OKCupid are also for hook ups. At least with tinder they might actually meet you. I have found okcupid to be amazingly useless. 1
jay1983 Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 At least with tinder they might actually meet you. I have found okcupid to be amazingly useless. I've found the opposite, I meet 6 girls, 2 from POF and 4 from Okcupid. Tinder I found it damn near impossible to get a reply. I only used each for a month so maybe just a luck thing. IDK...... My buddy met his girl on tinder. He was having absolutely no luck and right before he uninstalled it, he shot a message to his last match and it actually worked. I was baffled.
joseb Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 (edited) I've found the opposite, I meet 6 girls, 2 from POF and 4 from Okcupid. Tinder I found it damn near impossible to get a reply. I only used each for a month so maybe just a luck thing. IDK...... My buddy met his girl on tinder. He was having absolutely no luck and right before he uninstalled it, he shot a message to his last match and it actually worked. I was baffled. Yeah I dunno is it a geographical thing or an age thing, but I can only remember seeing 2 or 3 women on okcupid here (In several Months) that I would consider dating. Makes it kinda hard to get a match If I match on tinder I usually get a reply to a message. Some of them have even message me. Shock, horror! Edited July 19, 2015 by joseb
jay1983 Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Yeah I dunno is it a geographical thing or an age thing, but I can only remember seeing 2 or 3 women on okcupid here (In several Months) that I would consider dating. Makes it kinda hard to get a match If I match on tinder I usually get a reply to a message. Some of them have even message me. Shock, horror! How old are you?
ExpatInItaly Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 There's definitely another guy in the picture. Perhaps they're not "on" right now, but it sounds like they still do see each other. I don't think she's being honest with you. That right there should be incentive enough to move on, if you're looking for something more serious
smackie9 Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 forty four The older you get the more the dating pool thins out.....just like your hair lol.
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