ExpatInItaly Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Ouch. OP, trust me when I say it's better that you don't go on this trip at all. Not now, not mid-September, not ever. It will hurt you tremendously. He doesn't care that much about it. And neither will you, after you have time to heal. Keep up No Contact. It's best for you in the long run. Any contact you have with him now will rip those wounds wide open. 1
crederer Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 The reality is there's no such thing as "closure". It's done, it's not gunna sit right with you because you want a reason. Even on the off chance you get that reason, you'll still wont feel closure. It'll only cause more questions. 1
Author Justme1977 Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 Sent me an email talking about the trip, how he's living like a hermit and how lovesick he is. Ignored it. Sigh, why me?
Author Justme1977 Posted August 12, 2015 Author Posted August 12, 2015 Been initiating no contact. It's hard as hell!!
Author Justme1977 Posted August 12, 2015 Author Posted August 12, 2015 Posting here instead of responding to his email. I hate that he's emailing how heartsick he is feeling and living like a hermit when he is the one that did the breaking. Makes no sense. Still initiating no contact. I hate this. 2
aloneinaz Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Posting here instead of responding to his email. I hate that he's emailing how heartsick he is feeling and living like a hermit when he is the one that did the breaking. Makes no sense. Still initiating no contact. I hate this. Good for you to ignore him. He's contacting you so he can stay fresh in your mind. His words mean nothing. If he loved you so much and missed you, he'd be at your door, begging for another chance. He wouldn't be writing useless emails to screw with your head and keep you firmly on the backburner in case he "feels" like coming back to you, his plan B. Keep ignoring him so you can heal. He kicked you to the curb over a text. What kind of douche does that? You don't want/need someone like that in your life. Stay strong! 3
yellowhibiscus Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Good job! You can do it! Keep on ignoring, its the best thing for you. 2
Author Justme1977 Posted August 13, 2015 Author Posted August 13, 2015 Now I'm deleting all old text and emails so I won't re read them. Sigh I hate this. 1
Gus Grimly Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Now I'm deleting all old text and emails so I won't re read them. Sigh I hate this. I deleted everything digital, photos, documents, emails, FB messages, Text messages, Whatsapp messages .... you name it, I sent it to digital purgatory. I also blocked and double blocked where I could. I made sure my Ex can never reach me. It's tough I know, but it's for the best, you're doing the right thing. 2
foolinlove79 Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 I recently posted a similar message on here. My ex does the same. Started with the miss you. I treated you badly emails. Now its random txts every few weeks about crap. In the last few weeks i have blocked him everywhere. Dont reply to him. You are right about yhem bu with us and then they are yhe ones hurt. Bugger them!
aloneinaz Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 Now I'm deleting all old text and emails so I won't re read them. Sigh I hate this. While it sucks to delete all your texts, emails (and PICTURES, RIGHT?), it's a very smart thing to do. Why keep any of it? What's the value? There really isn't any. I also threw out cards, notes, gifts (none were expensive) and after doing that, I felt SSOO much better. I couldn't look at any of those things again to remind me of the hurt and pain. It's felt cathartic and liberating. I use to keep these reminders when past relationships ended. I then realized that I never looked at them again afterward, so what's the point in keeping that "stuff"? I was married for over 10 years. I'd never have a desire to look at any of those pictures again. I'm a very nostalgic person but I've come to realize that keeping reminders of failed relationships is simply un-necessary. Pitch it all. It only collects dust in our closets or takes space on our computers. 1
mightycpa Posted August 13, 2015 Posted August 13, 2015 You do realize you can send his emails straight to the trash without having to read them, right? Because every time you choose to read them, you are initiating contact. You can't help if he sends them, but you can definitely decide whether you see them or not.
Author Justme1977 Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 Still emailing me. Seemed upset when I replied back I holler wanted to be with him. Now time to start over NC,
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