How does it feel to a man when an ex girlfriend moves out?

[WhatIsLove777]

Do you think he will think about me or miss me often because he is living in the apartment we once shared? We had a lot of good times at the end and we both lived in the apartment for three months after the breakup because of finances where we spoke often about our relationship and good times and hung out a lot. Do you think it will be a shock to his system when he comes home from work and realizes he has to start all over?

 

I am taking everything that is mine (dishes, towels, shower curtains, rugs etc.) I had broken up with him because of his flirting with other females and I know he is remorseful for it and I wonder if he will be more so when he comes home and it finally sinks in that I am never coming back (I will be in complete NC at this point.) Just curious as to how it might feel for a man who knows he messed up and is still staying in the broken atmosphere where his love used to reside. Will it be easier or harder because of the good times shared after the breakup being that I won't be speaking to him anymore? I really made sure to show my value afterwords as both a potential suitor and as a woman to help my confidence.

Edited July 18, 2015 by WhatIsLove777

[aloneinaz]

If he doesn't care about you or that relationship or was falling out of love w/you, then he'll only feel relief when you're gone. The fact that he was flirting with other women speaks a lot of where his head was at. If he was madly in love w/you, he wouldn't of done that.

 

 

I ended my marriage. I had to stay in the same house with the soon to be ex until my new home I bought closed. The first night I came home alone to my new home where I lived w/out the ex was the best night of my life! I felt a million pounds lighter.

 

 

"If" he still has some feelings for you, he may think about it and you. If he doesn't start dating right away, he'll get lonely and think about you. Like I said, if he was already checking out though, he'll probably start dating to find his next GF.

[NoLeafClover]

This weird..u r wondering if he will care as if you arent sure about leaving him..im sorry to say but it sounds like mind games. If you left the place you shared to make him crawl back or in hopes that he will miss you then that's mind games.

If you left because you weren't happy then it shouldn't matter what he will feel like.

My take is that If my ex left me and takes her stuff,I will most likely be hurt...if my ex leaves me and takes her stuff up to the curtains, plates and rugs I would be furiously mad.

Eitherway, I would not hold back from meeting new woman. If he has tried to talk to you he may be sorry but the circumstances of my ex leaving our place would most likely make me not want to contact her again due to feeling betrayed.

[ravfour4]

I was essentially the dumpee, it was mutual to start but soon after I wanted her back once she started being herself again, but she had already started something with someone else.

 

When she left, at first I felt very relieved. I didn't have to put up with her coming and going and sneaking around with this new guy, I didn't have to worry about seeing her every morning and I didn't have to worry about her calling the guy from our back room. After a week or so, I was just flooded with memories of her - all the good and all the bad - the arguments that happened right before and after the break up. I'm moving in a few weeks and I can't wait, I have a very vivid detailed memory and it kills me being here. That being said, my ex probably did have that guy over here and probably did feel quite relieved to move out so she could do whatever she wanted without me being all up in her business.

[Seeker12]

I echo a majority of what ravfour4 went through, it was a mutual break up, but eventually i wanted her back after she had started with someone else, even when they finished after 3 months however she just didnt reciprocate anything and wanted "to focus on herself" and threw a bunch of excuses why it wouldnt work. It was emotions i guess from my side because at the time of the mutual break up i knew that itd be a lot of pain/struggle and heartache to get her.

 

For a month i was actually completely okay, didnt have to worry about texting her, waking up to her, speaking to her on breaks etc etc the usual routine you get into. But after a month i got hit hard and everything and all emotion flooded in, thats when my heartbreak began, and thats also when i guess the relationship in my head ended and the recovery started.

[WhatIsLove777]

This weird..u r wondering if he will care as if you arent sure about leaving him..im sorry to say but it sounds like mind games. If you left the place you shared to make him crawl back or in hopes that he will miss you then that's mind games.

If you left because you weren't happy then it shouldn't matter what he will feel like.

My take is that If my ex left me and takes her stuff,I will most likely be hurt...if my ex leaves me and takes her stuff up to the curtains, plates and rugs I would be furiously mad.

Eitherway, I would not hold back from meeting new woman. If he has tried to talk to you he may be sorry but the circumstances of my ex leaving our place would most likely make me not want to contact her again due to feeling betrayed.

 

No I do not want him back. We are incompatible. But it was my first love and it was long term and we have been long distance for a long time prior to me moving to another state so I would like to know that it meant something to me. Mainly because I know how significant this will be to me because he was my first boyfriend and love so it would be comforting to know it was special to him as well. I am moving out because I know we are not meant to be and want to move on. Initially he was pissed at me and planned to move out and screw me over with rent because he couldn't believe I broke up with him even after he was contacting other females and trying to meet up while lying to me about when he would be home from working night shift. So if anything I was the one who was betrayed. The only reason he never actually cheated is because the females he did contact which included his ex never actually followed through with meeting up with him. I am taking the shower curtains and etc. because they were things of mine that I purchased and inserted into the apartment and he is also aware I am moving out and when I mentioned taking these things he said it was fine and that he wants to 'change it up' after I leave as is so he has no reason to be mad or betrayed.

[WhatIsLove777]

I was essentially the dumpee, it was mutual to start but soon after I wanted her back once she started being herself again, but she had already started something with someone else.

 

When she left, at first I felt very relieved. I didn't have to put up with her coming and going and sneaking around with this new guy, I didn't have to worry about seeing her every morning and I didn't have to worry about her calling the guy from our back room. After a week or so, I was just flooded with memories of her - all the good and all the bad - the arguments that happened right before and after the break up. I'm moving in a few weeks and I can't wait, I have a very vivid detailed memory and it kills me being here. That being said, my ex probably did have that guy over here and probably did feel quite relieved to move out so she could do whatever she wanted without me being all up in her business.

 

This is exactly what I was thinking. I guess I wanted to know for my ego (which yes I agree is pointless) because I wouldn't be able to handle it so him signing for another year almost made me feel like he didn't care. I know him well and think something similar will happen to him which is sad, but obviously he chose his fate for agreeing to another year after the breakup. His reasoning was that he was 'too lazy' to move out the furniture to another apartment.

[aloneinaz]

Of course you meant something to him at one time. He wouldn't of stayed w/you as long as he did. In all likelihood, he still cares about you but apparently, he's not in love with you any longer. I had many GF's that I was in love with. Honestly, the relationship ran it's course and while I still cared about them, I wasn't "in love" with them anymore and needed to move on.

 

 

It sucks that this happens but as this site demonstrates, it's very common. We try different people on thru the dating/ R/S stage and find out what we like and don't like. When we find someone who REALLY rocks our world, we then consider marriage.