mimiMobile Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 Just curious and I don't feel like overthinking but it's been a minute since I was single. One of my acquaintances just became single after being in a relationship of 8 years. I too became single after being in a relationship of 3 years. Last week, we were at the same party and he kissed me and hung out all night. We ended up crashing in the guest bedroom and falling asleep cuddling. So this week, I asked to see if he wanted to check out a show together and he was open to it. And then told me he went on a date earlier in the week and that the girl might be there with him at the show as an FYI. I told him all good. But really inside I'm thinking ehhh... should I just not be hopeful of that situation? I'll still go to the show because I want to see my band play but it puts kind of a damper on the dude situation.
Rewan Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 As much as this will hurt to hear, I think that he was probably looking for someone's emotional support that night and that you were the one who responded.. :S I've been in similar situations before, and sometimes people like to act like they have the relationship, at least for a night. And then when the morning comes after the lonely night, everything goes back to normal. :S If he had felt things for you, I don't believe that he'd be bringing a girl to an event that you spoke to him about. I know that it stings, considering that this is the first you've been active since your relationship ended, but I would suggest to maybe ask another friend to go with you to the event. It wouldn't have to be a date, but I would recommend someone else to hang out with just to balance it out. That way, you could enjoy the music and have company to keep you from feeling like the third wheel (if they would be sitting around you, that is). It's just a thought, and again, I'm very sorry to hear that you're going through this. But if this is guy is going to do this to you, perhaps he's not the best option. I would take the time to yourself to heal, at least to find peace. I know that I would be happier, at least, if I were you. :S Hope this helps. 1
Gary S Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 Don't ever try to date a man who already has a girl.
Author mimiMobile Posted July 18, 2015 Author Posted July 18, 2015 I don't know why you guys are apologizing, he's not doing anything wrong. This girl he's bringing is someone new he met. We're both kind of dating around, I just wasn't sure.
kendahke Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 Just curious and I don't feel like overthinking but it's been a minute since I was single. One of my acquaintances just became single after being in a relationship of 8 years. I too became single after being in a relationship of 3 years. Last week, we were at the same party and he kissed me and hung out all night. We ended up crashing in the guest bedroom and falling asleep cuddling. So this week, I asked to see if he wanted to check out a show together and he was open to it. And then told me he went on a date earlier in the week and that the girl might be there with him at the show as an FYI. I told him all good. But really inside I'm thinking ehhh... should I just not be hopeful of that situation? I'll still go to the show because I want to see my band play but it puts kind of a damper on the dude situation. He didn't mention this girl while he was cuddling, kissing and hanging out with you, I take it? Yeah, move on. If you see him, just say hi and keep on moving away from him. Make yourself really scarce.
babycakees Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 I would move on. I don't enjoy competing for someone's attention. 1
Empyrea Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 Hmm sometimes the advice here is really pessimistic.. I would say, don't get your hopes up, don't get invested, but I don't think you necessarily need to give up at this point either. He's dating around, you're dating around. You definitely have no right to act possessive or jealous at the event if he's with another girl - play it cool and confident. Are you even looking for a relationship so soon after getting out of a LTR? Seems likely that he probably isn't, so maybe take that into account, but casual flirting and fun, why not?
IronZ Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 On one hand it's not like you two are in a relationship, but on the other, if he was interested in you and you invited him to go out, he wouldn't be bringing his new squeeze to tag along. That's a pretty clear sign that he's not into you. 3
Redhead14 Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 Just curious and I don't feel like overthinking but it's been a minute since I was single. One of my acquaintances just became single after being in a relationship of 8 years. I too became single after being in a relationship of 3 years. Last week, we were at the same party and he kissed me and hung out all night. We ended up crashing in the guest bedroom and falling asleep cuddling. So this week, I asked to see if he wanted to check out a show together and he was open to it. And then told me he went on a date earlier in the week and that the girl might be there with him at the show as an FYI. I told him all good. But really inside I'm thinking ehhh... should I just not be hopeful of that situation? I'll still go to the show because I want to see my band play but it puts kind of a damper on the dude situation. Neither of you are ready to date yet. It's too soon. If you are dating now it's all about distracting yourself from the process of grieving the previous relationship. If you go down that road with someone now, it's. A rebound relationship and likely just sex. You will only be hurting yourself more and prolonging the grievining process. Sit back and focus on you and your needs right now. You are now a single, I dependent woman. Revel in that new "freedom" and use it to build a new life that is all about you. When you do that, you will be ready to have and be a good partner for someone else.
Candygirljane Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Yea op I'm sorry it seems like it's a move on situation :/. He's dating someone else. He let u know her and he keeps dating her. Maybe u guys r just FWB now, it's better to move on
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