Author aires_girl4380 Posted May 9, 2005 Author Posted May 9, 2005 Thank you for all your advice I do know that I have to find the right path for me & find the strength to stick with it. Hard when you think it is irreplaceable though. Right when you say when its good its really really good!!!!! BUT when its bad its real really BAD! I look at everyone here & its comforting that I am not the only one to fall so niavley in to this. Then on the other hand its a hard fall into reality to see that my "unique" affair, isn't so unique. I say that but then in my heart it still is. I wish that I knew without a shadow of a doubt that I am making the right decision walking away.
Author aires_girl4380 Posted May 10, 2005 Author Posted May 10, 2005 Talked to my MM about our situation & explained to him that this is something that just is no longer good for me not to mention unhealthy. I told him that we just needed our time apart with the hopes of us being able to clear our minds & have a fresh start. Conversation took place on Friday. He moved out of his house w/ W over the weekend. Calling me yesterday to give me the news. So now what?!?!?!? Think it is just his way to keep me near by? or Sincere?
HoldOn Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Firstly, what proof do you have that he moved out? How much stuff did he move? couldn't he move back in just as easily? I think you should wait until you see divorce papers. Make him work for you!
Author aires_girl4380 Posted May 11, 2005 Author Posted May 11, 2005 Yeah do KNOW that he moved W called to inform me. He moved most, BUT NOT ALL!!!! That is what I think too! Nice to see that he did make a move but your right more of a move needs to be made. THANKS!!! have to say that all of you guys have really helped me see the truth in my "relationship" Nice to have people that are there or have been there!!! SOOOOOO THANKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
New_Wife Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 Someone told me once, when I was younger and much more impulsive - that if the person I was with was truly the one I was destined to be with - the one true and undying love of my life (and I of his) then that would still be an absolute truth 2 years later. The suggestion that accompanied this was that I take some time alone to figure out what I wanted. At that time, I was too young, stubborn, scared, you-name-it, to heed the advice. I only understood the full impact (and wisdome) after falling face down into a mess of my own making by continuing a relationship that was best left alone. The advice, however, is great. If this Married Man is your soulmate, the one-and-only human you will ever love; and if you are the only true female he has any capacity to truly bond with - then that basic fact won't change in the time it takes for him to get his crap together and come to you as a free and available man. But even as you read that - you know it's crap, right? You can't let go of him now, because you know that you are, in fact, replacable in his life - every bit as much as his wife is. The moment he knows it's over with you, he gets a new girl. Maybe he has one now. You think I'm wrong, right? That I just don't understand? Well, tell me this - do you really think he only betrays the one he pledged before God & Family & Friends to love honor and cherish above all others - with only you? That he betrays only her? And is faithful to you? That he crawls INTO HER BED every night and sleeps with his PJ's on, collar buttoned to the very top and never takes the warm body right next to him? You are in for a world of hurt if you don't face that. Take the hurt now, and walk. You multiply it daily if you stay and the result will be far worse for you.
gladhappypink Posted May 14, 2005 Posted May 14, 2005 What a powerful message thank you so much. I am continuing to make changes so he clearly understands that it is over…… it has been very difficult but I realize that it is what is best for ME! Just out of curiosity what do you think about our daughter meeting his three older daughters? Do you think I am right or wrong to keep my daughter from meeting his eldest daughter and W because of their sexual orientation?? (FYI……his wife hit on me…..She said some other very disturbing things to me like “If you’re good enough for him you’re good enough for me and I’m bi-sexual you should try it”. VERY CREEPY!!!!!!!!!
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