Robert Z Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 (edited) I've been going on dates with different women almost every day. But I quickly found myself struggling to rid myself of the stress from the day. And I was feeling it while on my way to meet or pick up that day's date. So how can I be charming and engaging and funny if I feel stressed and frustrated from work? Then I remembered a recent report about smiling - the signals to our face work both ways. When we're happy, we smile, but it turns out that smiling and laughing induces happiness. Forcing a smile makes your brain think you're happy, so you feel happier. Sooooooo, now I force myself to smile and even laugh while on my way to a date, to elevate my mood. And it works! I have even noticed that moods have momentum. It is hard to shift gears on a moment. I think it helps to focus on mood elevation to get the emotions going in the right direction before you have to be "on". Yes I feel like a damned fool but oh well. If it works it works. I also use the mantra charming, engaging, witty and funny. Edited July 17, 2015 by Robert Z 4
empresario Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 Good call! I think we could all afford to be a little more optimistic. People naturally draw to energy. And most people will mirror the energy that you bring. I don't think it's ridiculous at all. 1
jen1447 Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 Watch out, you might become known as "that smiling guy." 2
Author Robert Z Posted July 17, 2015 Author Posted July 17, 2015 Watch out, you might become known as "that smiling guy." My smile has always been cited as one of my best features. Honestly, it helped to warm up taking my selfies for my profile as well. At first all of my smiles looked forced because they were. But after forcing myself to smile for a number of shots, suddenly my smile turned natural and looked genuine - click!. It's one of the best photos of me that I've seen in a long time. 1
MonorailCat Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 hmm, if I would be going on dates with new women every day I would definitely have an easier time smiling ...
Grumpybutfun Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 I just smiled to see if it worked and my dog started barking at me...I scared him. Are you giving updates on dates on here? I wondered how it went with that tomboy.... G 2
Author Robert Z Posted July 17, 2015 Author Posted July 17, 2015 I just smiled to see if it worked and my dog started barking at me...I scared him. Are you giving updates on dates on here? I wondered how it went with that tomboy.... G Haha, yes in the escorts and sb thread but... She was a poser! Sucked me in she did...to the tune of about an extra 80 pounds. But I'm constantly improving my screening techniques. I'm pretty sure her profile shots belonged to her sister or some other family member. A family resemblance was there but no way was that ever her. Not even the same body type. Tonight I'm seeing my cute nerd. In fact I need to get going. Charming, engaging, witty and funny charming, engaging, witty and funny charming, engaging, witty and funny charming, engaging, witty and funny charming, engaging, witty and funny... 1
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