Author BelatedTrick79 Posted July 18, 2015 Author Posted July 18, 2015 I meant stoked she wants to hang in general and that ive got this far, not specifically tomorrow. Haha ok i'll try make it clearer. In my email to her earlier in the week i asked if she wanted to go out to this place called Inflatable World (its like a big bouncy gym and place you can just run around in) and she said totally we can! I didnt lock in anything just left it at that. So today/on the advice of people here i wrote "Hey etc etc... Do you wanna head out tomorrow to Inflatable World, the Showdown (thats what the big game is called) is on so we might have the whole place there to ourselves!!" and she replied she was gonna be watching the game too so couldn't make it out to the place we wanna go. I certainly didnt ask if she wanted to watch the game i was asking her out somewhere else. So i don't THINK i got the blow off. Does that make sense? I figured shed be watching the game with her little bro so didnt wanna push it. After she said she couldnt make it i was like No worries! And left it at that. Im just happy i asked instead of leaving silence. Please advise if you think this sounds bad haha.
katiegrl Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 (edited) I meant stoked she wants to hang in general and that ive got this far, not specifically tomorrow. Haha ok i'll try make it clearer. In my email to her earlier in the week i asked if she wanted to go out to this place called Inflatable World (its like a big bouncy gym and place you can just run around in) and she said totally we can! I didnt lock in anything just left it at that. So today/on the advice of people here i wrote "Hey etc etc... Do you wanna head out tomorrow to Inflatable World, the Showdown (thats what the big game is called) is on so we might have the whole place there to ourselves!!" and she replied she was gonna be watching the game too so couldn't make it out to the place we wanna go. I certainly didnt ask if she wanted to watch the game i was asking her out somewhere else. So i don't THINK i got the blow off. Does that make sense? I figured shed be watching the game with her little bro so didnt wanna push it. After she said she couldnt make it i was like No worries! And left it at that. Im just happy i asked instead of leaving silence. Please advise if you think this sounds bad haha. Sorry but yeah she blew you off. She did it nicely, but the fact she said no to hanging out and did not offer up another time to hang out does not sound good .....sorry. I am still wondering how you interpreted all that as meaning she DID want to hang out. Are you just stoked that she responded back straight away? Look, I am not saying she is absolutely not interested. She might be, who knows. But generally if a chick is into you, she'd be thrilled to watch the game with YOU ....rather than with her little brother. But even if she had other more important plans, she would have at least said something like "but hey definitely some other time!" or something like that. IMO. How did you guys leave it? Did she say talk to ya soon, or give me a call ......anything to suggest she would like you to call her again? Ask her out again? Also, your texts sound more like you are talking to a frat buddy NOT a woman you want to date. Words like "wanna hang out to watch a game" is something you ask a "friend" to do.....so be careful with that. You might be giving her the wrong impression. Just sain. I realize you are very young, but still.... Edited July 18, 2015 by katiegrl 2
Author BelatedTrick79 Posted July 18, 2015 Author Posted July 18, 2015 (edited) I definitely think you misunderstood, i didnt ask her to watch the game together at all. I asked her if she wanted to head out somewhere else, and because the game was on at the same time, that place would be quiet and we could have it all to ourselves. But she said she was actually gonna be watching the game so couldnt make it out. She loves the footy so i wasnt gonna suggest she then bail on that to hang with me, i just left it. And nah she didnt say any more but thats happened before and alls been good. Remember i see her at work everyday so theres no need for either of us to plan something absolutely today. But i dunno, maybe you're right. Edited July 18, 2015 by zer0entity
katiegrl Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 The more I think of this, the more I think jen may have been right....in what she posted earlier. OP, this girl is looking at this as more of a friendship.....rather than a romantic dating scenario. Again just my opinion.. but her recent response back to you would suggest that.
Author BelatedTrick79 Posted July 18, 2015 Author Posted July 18, 2015 So what you're saying is she came round to my house, made out, and since then i've managed to somehpw completely turn that around and **** it up somehow? Was it my email? Was it the texts today? This was all sounding really good now its ****ed?
katiegrl Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 I definitely think you misunderstood, i didnt ask her to watch the game together at all. I asked her if she wanted to head out somewhere else, and because the game was on at the same time, that place would be quiet and we could have it all to ourselves. But she said she was actually gonna be watching the game so couldnt make it out. She loves the footy so i wasnt gonna suggest she then bail on that to hang with me, i just left it. And nah she didnt say any more but thats happened before and alls been good. Remember i see her at work everyday so theres no need for either of us to plan something absolutely today. But i dunno, maybe you're right. Okay I could very well be misinterpreting it.....I hope so! Only going by the limited info you have given so far......don't know the whole story. Didn't mean to burst your bubble......it's good you are staying positive! Keep us posted!
Snakechammah Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 It normally takes at least a few dates for a women to be ready for sex. Sometimes they like to wait for marriage. You are doing fine except for the sex stuff.... stop talking about it and pushing her. Believe me when I tell you, nothing will ever happen until she's ready. And don't worry - when a woman is ready for sex, you will know. Being a gentleman is a long hard road of discipline, but patience pays. For best results, it should be their own idea. Gary, this is the BEST advice in the whole of mankind!!!
Snakechammah Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 Zero OP dude, I think you should stop overanalyzing things. Just remember, the next time you ask her out, suggest a PROPER DAY and TIME and wait for her response. Don't be ambigious. Be a man and state when and where the date would be. And then pray to every God/stars/trees in the universe that she will say yes. No girl likes a half-assed attempt at a date. Make it at least 2-3 days/nights in advance (not immediately or the day itself. that is super lazy) All the best. Keep us updated. 2
katiegrl Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 So what you're saying is she came round to my house, made out, and since then i've managed to somehpw completely turn that around and **** it up somehow? Was it my email? Was it the texts today? This was all sounding really good now its ****ed? I don't know hard to say at this point. And no it is not that YOU fu*ked it up.....she just may not have been that into you in the first place. Going back to your place and then making out? Shyt like that happens all the time between co-workers. Guilty of it myself especially when I was younger (early-mid 20s). Did not necessarily mean I wanted date him..... more like it just happened (too many drinks or whatevs), and then we see how we feel after... .
Author BelatedTrick79 Posted July 18, 2015 Author Posted July 18, 2015 No probs Katie i appreciate you checking back in and giving me your thoughts! If i didnt wanna risk having my bubble burst i wouldnt be on here haha. Yep staying positive, worst come to worst if she isnt interested then i just go back to being the chill guy at work she gets along with and show that it doesnt bother me either way. I've been playing the long game so im not afraid to stick at it if i have to I agree its not great she didnt say another time? But if i dont see her tomorrow ill see her monday and there will be plenty of chances to show her im not phazed! (Even if i am haha)
katiegrl Posted July 18, 2015 Posted July 18, 2015 (edited) Zero OP dude, I think you should stop overanalyzing things. Just remember, the next time you ask her out, suggest a PROPER DAY and TIME and wait for her response. Don't be ambigious. Be a man and state when and where the date would be. And then pray to every God/stars/trees in the universe that she will say yes. No girl likes a half-assed attempt at a date. Make it at least 2-3 days/nights in advance (not immediately or the day itself. that is super lazy) All the best. Keep us updated. ^^^Go with this!!!! But yeah wait to see how things go down at work first....gauge her behavior then. Good luck! Edited July 18, 2015 by katiegrl
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