Deal-breaker if man takes unnecessary medical treatment?

[Clifford08]

I'll give a specific example as I only had enough room in the title to keep it generalized.

 

I believe I let myself get exploited in a way. I was overtreated for cancer and as a result my body is seriously damaged and the cancer has been made worse. When I say I was overtreated I accepted radiation therapy when it probably wasn't really necessary. Chemotherapy would have been enough. Even with chemotherapy I was taking it much longer than necessary.

 

This was a few years ago. I was never really the type to question doctors back then. I always trusted them blindly and complied with whatever they said I needed without seeking out other sources or opinions to see if maybe I really did not need as much treatment as they said I did.

 

So the bottom line is that it is my fault that I am in the shape I am in after treatment. I let myself get used as a guniea pig. The only good thing is that I didn't suffer financially. A free clinic paid for all these treatments. They have specialists that they referred me too and I guess they kind of made some kind of financial deal between them like if you scratch my back I'll scratch yours. The thing is the original owner of that clinic died a long time ago and has been bought and taken over by a new organization. That same organization owns these other hospitals and specialist offices that I go to.

 

So I think that at least before I even date I have a moral responsibility to tell women upfront that I went in over my head and took unnecessary medical treatment that left me damaged. They have a right to know upfront and even judge me as a stupid chump who let himself get exploited by others who didn't have my best interests at heart. Blind compliance with doctors recommendations is a sign of a pushover and women should know this about me ahead of time before having sex with me. I mean if I don't voluntarily tell them it is going to leak out eventually and accuse me of lying by omission and leading her on.

 

So is it a deal-breaker if you learn that the guy you are dating took unnecessary medical treatment? Whatever deal-breakers I have lying by omission is always a far worse deal-breaker than anything else. It is a separate offense on its own.

Edited July 17, 2015 by Clifford08

[Arieswoman]

Clifford08,

I am sorry you have problems healthwise.

 

However, I have been in healthcare for many years and I don't quite follow your post.

 

I was overtreated for cancer and as a result my body is seriously damaged and the cancer has been made worse. When I say I was overtreated I accepted radiation therapy when it probably wasn't really necessary. Chemotherapy would have been enough. Even with chemotherapy I was taking it much longer than necessary.

 

I don't understand how "the cancer can have been made worse."

 

Neither of the treatments you mention "will make cancer worse".

 

If the cancer is worse, as you say, then the treatments have failed to eradicate or control the cancer.

If you suspect medical negligence in this are then you need to speak to a solicitor/attorney who specialises in medical negligence claims.

 

So is it a deal-breaker if you learn that the guy you are dating took unnecessary medical treatment?

 

No.

 

I can't understand why you would think such a thing? We put ourselves in the hands of the medical profession who have taken an oath to uphold our best interests. If this does not happen then we are not to blame, and no-one else should blame us either.

[autumnnight]

I would not necessarily pass on someone just because of medical treatment or health problems. However, if they had mental and emotional problems that they refused to address, that WOULD be a deal-breaker.

[Clifford08]

Clifford08,

I am sorry you have problems healthwise.

 

However, I have been in healthcare for many years and I don't quite follow your post.

 

 

 

I don't understand how "the cancer can have been made worse."

 

Neither of the treatments you mention "will make cancer worse".

 

If the cancer is worse, as you say, then the treatments have failed to eradicate or control the cancer.

If you suspect medical negligence in this are then you need to speak to a solicitor/attorney who specialises in medical negligence claims.

 

 

 

No.

 

I can't understand why you would think such a thing? We put ourselves in the hands of the medical profession who have taken an oath to uphold our best interests. If this does not happen then we are not to blame, and no-one else should blame us either.

 

 

Well the treatments are toxic in themselves. It is a known fact that too much of these treatments can give one cancer. Radiation can cause cancer and so can a cocktail of toxic chemotherapy drugs.