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I told a guy I like him through a random letter. He figured it was me. I intended telling him I wrote the letter to. Anyway, he doesn't like me in "that way" and only wants friendship. However, he is only willing to hang out in groups and feels I need space....I respect his wishes. I do miss his friendship and I'm wondering how much space until I should speak/hang out with him again.

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He controls how much & when, not you. He will come to you when he's ready to resume the friendship. It may be never because he may be reluctant to give you false hope by spending one on one time with you going forward. Sorry.

 

BTW, not that you asked, but writing somebody a random unsolicited and anonymous letter is not a mature of effective way to communicate your interest. Avoid that method in the future. If you are so unsure about the other person's feeling / response as to require the letter assume your interest is not returned & proceed accordingly.

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BTW, not that you asked, but writing somebody a random unsolicited and anonymous letter is not a mature of effective way to communicate your interest.

 

^That's important.

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I think it's hard going back to being friends once one party has admitted interest in the other and the other party isn't interested in that way. It gets kind of awkward. But I am just speaking from personal experience. Just never ever worked for me; I could never go back to being friends with someone I dated, or with someone who told me they liked me but I didn't feel the same (and vice versa)

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