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So, yesterday I sent my date from last week a happy birthday text, we have been keeping in touch daily, and have plans to see each other again. After I said, Happy-BDay, he said, "Thanks, I didn't even remember mentioning to you, so that's awesome." Then I said, "Ha! See, I was paying attention to what you were saying." Then he replied, "Better than I was apparently. Haha!." Now, I'm worried, I said the wrong thing? Or was I being rude?

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What you said was fine. I would try to "Relax" a bit and not worry about every little thing you said... Not, saying that might not help you relax... but, just think about it. Why are you worried about one little comment so much anyway?

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Totally agree with the above post. Just relax a bit, you're thinking wayyyyy to deep into this. You said happy birthday, he said thanks with some playful banter in between. What's there to worry about? If you break down everything you or he says you'll drive yourself crazy... And more than likely drive him even crazier.

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So, yesterday I sent my date from last week a happy birthday text, we have been keeping in touch daily, and have plans to see each other again. After I said, Happy-BDay, he said, "Thanks, I didn't even remember mentioning to you, so that's awesome." Then I said, "Ha! See, I was paying attention to what you were saying." Then he replied, "Better than I was apparently. Haha!." Now, I'm worried, I said the wrong thing? Or was I being rude?

 

Not getting what you think might be wrong about it...or why you are worried.

 

What am I missing?

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So, yesterday I sent my date from last week a happy birthday text, we have been keeping in touch daily, and have plans to see each other again. After I said, Happy-BDay, he said, "Thanks, I didn't even remember mentioning to you, so that's awesome." Then I said, "Ha! See, I was paying attention to what you were saying." Then he replied, "Better than I was apparently. Haha!." Now, I'm worried, I said the wrong thing? Or was I being rude?

 

I think he may have been trying to be complimentary. He's saying you pay attention to detail. That's good. Just relax :)

 

Glad to hear that you ended up sending that text.

 

Not getting what you think might be wrong about it...or why you are worried.

 

What am I missing?

 

Pretty sure this is more of an update to a prior question she had that is related.

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Of course wishing him a Happy Birthday was a good thing. He was simply surprised -- in a good way -- that you remembered & he was admitting that he's not great about stuff like this so if you expect him to acknowledge your birthday you better make it clear to him in advance or you will be disappointed.

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So, yesterday I sent my date from last week a happy birthday text, we have been keeping in touch daily, and have plans to see each other again. After I said, Happy-BDay, he said, "Thanks, I didn't even remember mentioning to you, so that's awesome." Then I said, "Ha! See, I was paying attention to what you were saying." Then he replied, "Better than I was apparently. Haha!." Now, I'm worried, I said the wrong thing? Or was I being rude?

 

He was poking fun at himself for not remembering what he'd told you.

 

Lighten up. Dating is supposed to be fun. If you are going to stress this much about an innocuous text, you are going to put a lot of pressure on both of you, which is decidedly UN-fun.

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Why are you worried you said the wrong thing? This is banter not rudeness. You're overthinking this.

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