Mila1234 Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 I met this guy last year and after a couple of months we started to date. We lasted 4 months and then he dumped me because of trust issues and lack of proper communication by both sides. I loved him dearly but I respected his decision, and backed off. He then started this 'let's be friends' thing right away, it was too soon for me so I rejected but he kept pushing and that leaded to a major argument and I told him that I felt he was using me for emotional back-up, he called my feelings dirt and at the end he agreed to stop contact as I first suggested. I wanted him back and I missed him and I told him so, but he told me to get over it because it didn't worth the fight. Then he started to bad mouthing me, calling me names, spare gossips about me and avoiding me like a plague. So I got it, got lost to NC to get over him and kept it until two months ago, when we talked briefly about college matters. He treated me poorly, didn't even looked at my face, seemed uncomfortable during the whole thing and basically ran away at the end. He despise me. I don't get why I keep pinning for him, why I don't get over him like he did over me and why I let him get away with his behavior, why I expose myself to it and why I care so much. This whole thing destroyed my self-esteem, I now suffer for major depression and I ned to know, how to let him go? How to overcome the worthless-feeling? He was my first boyfriend and I was his first girlfriend but I don't longer know him, I still love him somehow and it had been 8 months since we broke up. I tried therapy, hanging out, casual dating, changing my clothes and hair...it really mess my up, I think about him daily. Need advice.
Gus Grimly Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 I got it, got lost to NC to get over him and kept it until two months ago, when we talked briefly about college matters. Breaking NC is like starting at the bottom. All the progress you've made becomes undone. Sort of like when an alcoholic relapses. It only takes one drink. For us it only takes one text, one Facebook message, one Email, one phone call etc. You need to vanish from his life. Remove any evidence that will remind you of him. Do whatever it takes. You only get as much as you put into it. 1
Author Mila1234 Posted July 17, 2015 Author Posted July 17, 2015 Breaking NC is like starting at the bottom. All the progress you've made becomes undone. Sort of like when an alcoholic relapses. It only takes one drink. For us it only takes one text, one Facebook message, one Email, one phone call etc. You need to vanish from his life. Remove any evidence that will remind you of him. Do whatever it takes. You only get as much as you put into it. I know but I attend to college with him. Same semester, career and classroom. I have to see him every day. He have even flirted with other girls in my face. I know why I went to NC, it was harmful to me to deal with him. But he started bulling me, and I got lost here.
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