jenn888 Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 (edited) Hi I spilt up with my bf 2 weeks ago. We was together for 5 months but almost from the beginning we agreed to me staying 5 days out of 7. This was our downfall and it caused us to fight about little things, and for him to ignore me and play on his ps4. The day we split up, he had booked the afternoon off work and the next day too, we had planned on going somewhere the next day. When we argued, I stormed off in a taxi and then I kind of pushed him into telling me it was over, which I regret so much. At the time I was ok about it but the next day I regretted it and wanted him back. I sent him lots of texts/msgs and he kept 1 wording and then blocked me so I emailed him then and think he's blocked those now. He's not blocked me on facebook but hes unfriended me. He said that's in case in the future he decides he wants to be friends. The day after he finished with me he went out drinking and rang me and he was really upset and angry about something so I told him I was going to come and got a taxi to his, when I got there he was asleep and then when he woke up in the morning he said what are you doing here and told me to get my stuff ready. He had left the door unlocked so I could get in, why do that if he didn't want to see me? The following weekend I found out he was out drinking again so I rang him and went mad at him as he owed me money, he told me his mates had lent it him. He then told me he was thinking about being friends until that phone call. A couple of hours later, he rang me and told me I had till he got in from walking home to speak to him, but then most of the time he wouldn't let me speak, he just kept shouting a lot. He told me that I was the 1 who caused it by spending too much time at his house. He also said he could have had anyone he wanted that night but he told them he had a gf even though he didn't have one, and that I would never be his gf again. He also mentioned his mates would think he was an idiot if he got back with me. I think I was a pretty good gf, although I acted a bit crazy messaging him etc after we split up. I do agree we spent too much time together too soon and got bored with each other but that doesn't mean that we couldn't be good together if we started again and took things slowly. The first time "I love you" got brought up was by him. Ive met his family and mates etc so I don't doubt he did love me. A month or two ago, he suggested us getting a house together after he got a new car in a year or two, and he said a few times I could have his car (I always refused) and the last time he said that was 2-3 days before we split up. If he was thinking that far ahead without me saying anything then I must have been in his plans for the future. He told me he loved me and never lied about it but then stopped loving me the next day. Can that happen? I've done NC for 6 days now, i've been dying to contact him. Do you think he meant it when he said he doesn't want anything to do with me at all and that he hates me? Will I still have to do NC for 30 days if we was only together for just over 5 months? He might forget about me by then. Sorry for the long post. Edited July 16, 2015 by jenn888 missed something out
Satu Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 Too much drama, too much game playing, too much ego. If you can't get along peacefully and harmoniously, the relationship isn't really worth anything. It doesn't seem that either of you are mature enough to make it work. 2
Author jenn888 Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 I wasn't playing games, in both our defence we both hadn't had much sleep the night before and was both a bit short tempered.I shouldn't have ran off as I wouldn't have normally have done that. Even with the arguments, I still think it was worth salvaging.
mightycpa Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 When we argued, I stormed off in a taxi and then I kind of pushed him into telling me it was over, which I regret so much. At the time I was ok about it but the next day I regretted it and wanted him back.Jenn, I'm going to say this as gently and as politely as I possibly can while still getting my point across. This post is meant to help you, ok? Who the **** wants to go out with somebody that would do that? Fix that ****, and you'll have a lot better luck in the future.
pidgeon1010 Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 all this over a span of 5 months (very early stages of a relationship)? Doesn't sound like the two of you have a future together. Too much drama and toxicity right off the bat. Doesn't bode well for a long-term relationship.
StrangerThanFiction Posted July 17, 2015 Posted July 17, 2015 If he forgets about you in 30 days then the relationship wasn't all that strong or great to begin with. I have to agree with the above posters--way too much drama, especially for a relationship that was five months long. You obviously weren't happy in the relationship if you stormed off like that. You wanting him back the next day is probably more out of fear of being on your own than actually wanting to be with him. Yeah, you guys may have moved too fast too soon so take that as a lesson and move on. Keep NC.
Author jenn888 Posted July 17, 2015 Author Posted July 17, 2015 He blocked me on Facebook tonight even though I've not even messaged him at all, really don't get why he'd do it now out of the blue. I rang him and asked him why, but he didn't tell me, just shouted loads of abuse at me and blamed me for everything, he's asked me to delete his number, so I'm gonna do that. You guys are right, this relationship was doomed and would never have worked.
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